10. He’ll make eye contact.
The first thing we always do when we like something is look at it. This goes for women too. Sure, you may think that guys are mainly concerned with the other parts of your body, but I promise you that if his eyes meet yours for even a small amount of time, he’s trying to draw your attention.
How long he holds eye contact depends on his personality. Men that look away as soon as they know you caught them looking are generally shy, and as a rule, you’ll probably have to depend on yourself if you’d like to meet him. Guys that hold eye contact for a bit longer are usually more confident, and if they display a cocky smirk along with the eye contact, they are very confident and will usually initiate a conversation themselves. Lastly, if a guy is just staring at you for prolonged periods of time, he’s probably a creep.
9. He’ll let your friends know.
This isn’t always a fact, but it does happen (especially if you’re still in high school). Sometimes younger guys have problems showing girls that they’re interested, and will resort to other tactics, such as asking your friends what you think of him, or mentioning you more than usual to a mutual friend. In high school this can catch like wildfire.
The rule is, if you’re close to a friend, and they say that a certain guy likes you, it’s most likely true. If even more of your friends come up and tell you that he likes you, it’s definitely true.
Just make sure you know that these friends telling you about your secret admire are trustworthy.
8. He’ll pick on you.
This is a great one for both the youngsters and the older women out there.
If he likes you, he’ll pick on you a little.
When you’re younger, this can act as a defense mechanism for a guy trying to keep you from knowing that he’s crazy about you. I had a pretty big crush on a girl earlier on in high school, and I’ll be the first to admit that I was a little less than nice to her. At times I may have even come off as mean. But the truth is, I just didn’t want her to know how much I liked her… So if you notice a boy picking on you for no reason, it’s probably because he likes you.
If you’re a bit older, guys will still pick on you, but this time it’s to show you that they do like you. Weird huh?
This sort of meanness will be funny, and very flirtatious. When older guys pick on a woman they like, it’s usually done with a sly smile on their face, and is very harmless.
7. He acts differently around you.
If you know a guy pretty well, and you’ve noticed that how he acts around you is a bit different from how he acts around everyone else, you may have found someone with a secret crush.
I’ve had several questions about this. Some quick examples:
He’s a popular, outgoing, and funny guy, but he hardly talks around me, and acts shy. Why?
Answer: He likes you.
He acts funny and childish around his friends, but when I’m there he’s Mr. Serious?
Answer: He likes you.
(Yes, I did mean to make those questions rhyme.)
6. He touches you.
No, not like that you perverts!
When I say he touches you, I mean he’ll do things like put his hand on your lower back while walking to the bar for drinks, make lots of hand contact, and put his arm around you.
When you see one of us trying our best to touch you as much as possible, it’s not because your skin looks soft. It’s because we’re attracted to you.
P.S. If you’re attracted to him, make sure you touch him back so he knows you’re okay with the touching stuff.
5. His friends will try to get him to talk to you.
Whenever I used to go out with my friends on the weekends, and one of us mentioned thinking a girl was sexy, cute, or beautiful, the rest of us would automatically start badgering him, trying to get him to stop being such a wuss, get up, and go talk to her.
Sometimes girls caught on to what we were trying to do.
If you pay attention, you might see a group of guys glancing at you on occasion, while pressuring their buddy. They are pushing him to grow a pair and talk to you. And if they are pushing him, it’s because he probably mentioned being attracted to you in the first place.
4. He’ll pretend to like the same stuff you do.
Have you ever heard that imitation is the best flattery?
Well, obviously most of the male population has.
When there is a woman (or girl), that has caught our eye, we may try to find some common ground to make conversation flow a bit smoother.
“I know exactly what you mean. The Situation stepped entirely out of line when he said that to Snooki!”
Or this tidbit:
“Are those gel or acrylic”
The truth is, we don’t care. The color of your nails is something other girls will pay attention to, but most guys could care less. Don’t even get me started on Jersey Shore.
The only reason we may act interested in your stuff, is for some strange reason we think it will make you like us more.
3. He’ll pretend to have a crush on one of your friends.
Here’s one that could be a bit hard to spot, because sometimes, we legitimately are just wanting your opinion on your BFF Sasha (see number nine).
But, other times, this is a red flag. For some of the shyer types of men, this is the absolute best way to get to know a girl he has a crush on without letting her know his intentions.
Again, this can be difficult to judge. But if he spends more time with you than with the girl he supposedly likes, chances are he’s being sneaky.
2. He’ll compliment you.
I’m going to go ahead an throw this obvious one out there. If he compliments you on anything appearance related he likes you.
You may say:
“Chris, he told me that I was the sweetest girl he knew, but didn’t say anything about my looks!”
Well, chances are he still likes you.
Guys usually don’t compliment someone for no reason. Sure, I may know this girl that I think is the smartest and funniest person ever, but as a guy, I’m not going to say anything about it unless I’m attracted to her.
You see, admiring a woman is one thing. But actually telling a woman you admire them is on a completely different level.
1. His body language shows it.
I know, I know.
“Chris, I read this in every crappy relationship blog. But I still have no idea wtf it means!”
Easy tiger. Let me explain.
Guys are easy to read.
Next time you’re sitting talking to a group of people, do a quick check of the men in the group. When one of us like a girl, we will naturally position ourselves closer to them, and point our entire body towards them. We will lean in closer to hear whatever she is saying, but won’t do that for other women around. Our arms will be in an open position, and not crossed. Our chest will be pushed out a little further, to convince her of our masculinity.
Even our voices may sound a bit deeper.
This isn’t stuff we sit around and practice. We don’t know why we throw out all of these signals. But we do, and if you can catch on, you can single out every guy that likes you. This is the forbidden art ladies. Learn to read our body language, and you’ll never have to worry about figuring out whether a guy likes you ever again.
There you have it!
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