Tuesday Ten: How to Know If He Likes You
9 Oct
10. He’ll make eye contact.
The first thing we always do when we like something is look at it. This goes for women too. Sure, you may think that guys are mainly concerned with the other parts of your body, but I promise you that if his eyes meet yours for even a small amount of time, he’s trying to draw your attention.
How long he holds eye contact depends on his personality. Men that look away as soon as they know you caught them looking are generally shy, and as a rule, you’ll probably have to depend on yourself if you’d like to meet him. Guys that hold eye contact for a bit longer are usually more confident, and if they display a cocky smirk along with the eye contact, they are very confident and will usually initiate a conversation themselves. Lastly, if a guy is just staring at you for prolonged periods of time, he’s probably a creep.
9. He’ll let your friends know.
This isn’t always a fact, but it does happen (especially if you’re still in high school). Sometimes younger guys have problems showing girls that they’re interested, and will resort to other tactics, such as asking your friends what you think of him, or mentioning you more than usual to a mutual friend. In high school this can catch like wildfire.
The rule is, if you’re close to a friend, and they say that a certain guy likes you, it’s most likely true. If even more of your friends come up and tell you that he likes you, it’s definitely true.
Just make sure you know that these friends telling you about your secret admire are trustworthy.
8. He’ll pick on you.
This is a great one for both the youngsters and the older women out there.
If he likes you, he’ll pick on you a little.
When you’re younger, this can act as a defense mechanism for a guy trying to keep you from knowing that he’s crazy about you. I had a pretty big crush on a girl earlier on in high school, and I’ll be the first to admit that I was a little less than nice to her. At times I may have even come off as mean. But the truth is, I just didn’t want her to know how much I liked her… So if you notice a boy picking on you for no reason, it’s probably because he likes you.
If you’re a bit older, guys will still pick on you, but this time it’s to show you that they do like you. Weird huh?
This sort of meanness will be funny, and very flirtatious. When older guys pick on a woman they like, it’s usually done with a sly smile on their face, and is very harmless.
7. He acts differently around you.
If you know a guy pretty well, and you’ve noticed that how he acts around you is a bit different from how he acts around everyone else, you may have found someone with a secret crush.
I’ve had several questions about this. Some quick examples:
He’s a popular, outgoing, and funny guy, but he hardly talks around me, and acts shy. Why?
Answer: He likes you.
He acts funny and childish around his friends, but when I’m there he’s Mr. Serious?
Answer: He likes you.
(Yes, I did mean to make those questions rhyme.)
6. He touches you.
No, not like that you perverts!
When I say he touches you, I mean he’ll do things like put his hand on your lower back while walking to the bar for drinks, make lots of hand contact, and put his arm around you.
When you see one of us trying our best to touch you as much as possible, it’s not because your skin looks soft. It’s because we’re attracted to you.
P.S. If you’re attracted to him, make sure you touch him back so he knows you’re okay with the touching stuff.
5. His friends will try to get him to talk to you.
Whenever I used to go out with my friends on the weekends, and one of us mentioned thinking a girl was sexy, cute, or beautiful, the rest of us would automatically start badgering him, trying to get him to stop being such a wuss, get up, and go talk to her.
Sometimes girls caught on to what we were trying to do.
If you pay attention, you might see a group of guys glancing at you on occasion, while pressuring their buddy. They are pushing him to grow a pair and talk to you. And if they are pushing him, it’s because he probably mentioned being attracted to you in the first place.
4. He’ll pretend to like the same stuff you do.
Have you ever heard that imitation is the best flattery?
Well, obviously most of the male population has.
When there is a woman (or girl), that has caught our eye, we may try to find some common ground to make conversation flow a bit smoother.
“I know exactly what you mean. The Situation stepped entirely out of line when he said that to Snooki!”
Or this tidbit:
“Are those gel or acrylic”
The truth is, we don’t care. The color of your nails is something other girls will pay attention to, but most guys could care less. Don’t even get me started on Jersey Shore.
The only reason we may act interested in your stuff, is for some strange reason we think it will make you like us more.
3. He’ll pretend to have a crush on one of your friends.
Here’s one that could be a bit hard to spot, because sometimes, we legitimately are just wanting your opinion on your BFF Sasha (see number nine).
But, other times, this is a red flag. For some of the shyer types of men, this is the absolute best way to get to know a girl he has a crush on without letting her know his intentions.
Again, this can be difficult to judge. But if he spends more time with you than with the girl he supposedly likes, chances are he’s being sneaky.
2. He’ll compliment you.
I’m going to go ahead an throw this obvious one out there. If he compliments you on anything appearance related he likes you.
You may say:
“Chris, he told me that I was the sweetest girl he knew, but didn’t say anything about my looks!”
Well, chances are he still likes you.
Guys usually don’t compliment someone for no reason. Sure, I may know this girl that I think is the smartest and funniest person ever, but as a guy, I’m not going to say anything about it unless I’m attracted to her.
You see, admiring a woman is one thing. But actually telling a woman you admire them is on a completely different level.
1. His body language shows it.
I know, I know.
“Chris, I read this in every crappy relationship blog. But I still have no idea wtf it means!”
Easy tiger. Let me explain.
Guys are easy to read.
Next time you’re sitting talking to a group of people, do a quick check of the men in the group. When one of us like a girl, we will naturally position ourselves closer to them, and point our entire body towards them. We will lean in closer to hear whatever she is saying, but won’t do that for other women around. Our arms will be in an open position, and not crossed. Our chest will be pushed out a little further, to convince her of our masculinity.
Even our voices may sound a bit deeper.
This isn’t stuff we sit around and practice. We don’t know why we throw out all of these signals. But we do, and if you can catch on, you can single out every guy that likes you. This is the forbidden art ladies. Learn to read our body language, and you’ll never have to worry about figuring out whether a guy likes you ever again.
There you have it!
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Hi Chris,
I was wondering if you could offer some advice. I have fallen hard for what seems to be the perfect guy. He’s younger though by a couple grades and he’s overall a friendly outgoing guy so I’m not sure if he likes me or is just being himself. He talks and jokes with me and makes eye contact but I just don’t know. He ignored me for a while though after I changed my appearance- in a good way. I’m totally lost on how to read him.. Everyone adores him like I said he’s perfect. What to do? From a guys perspective? Oh and I added him on FB and he accepted the request then defriended me- ouch?
Hey Anastasia,
First of all, it’s important to know that there are no perfect guys. No matter how friendly he is, I promise he’s got his own set of issues.
With that said, the fact that he de-friended you on Facebook isn’t too promising. By reading around some more, you’ll see that I’m not a big fan of Facebook when it comes to dating and relationships.
But, if he added you, then deleted you, it could have just been an honest mistake on his part. I’ve accidentally deleted people when cleaning out my friends list.
The only way for you to really find out where he stands with you right now is to suck it up and . Follow that link, and you’ll find a basic outline in how to go about this, as well as how you should act when you’re around him.
Hi I’ve been seeing this guy for a little while but it’s always just been a physical thing. When we’re together though it feels as though he likes me and wants more. I’m kind of confused.
If you want more, then it would probably be safe to pursue it.
Otherwise, you need to make it known to him that it is purely physical for you. Guys can let their brains look too much into things sometimes, and we need someone to bring us back down to earth.
Hello Chris,
So umm i like this guy in my class, and i cant tell if he likes me back…. I caught him staring at me today, but then in broke it off cause i feel like he will think im weird. Anyways he always stands close to me when we get up in class. One time he waited for me before class just to say hi to me. I really want to know if he likes me because he’s really cute, so if you could please help me!! Thank you
Based on what you’ve said, the guy sounds like he’s interested in you.
If he didn’t, he wouldn’t be throwing out those signs.
Hey,
So there’s this guy, I like him, he likes me. But he doesn’t know I know (I think). He hasn’t made a move or anything. So I have no clam to him what so ever. We text late into the night, talking about random stuff, sometimes well most time he falls asleep. But now my friend is hitting on him. She even said that if I didn’t date him, she would…Is there something I should do? Or just leave it up to him to say something?
Hey Mary,
If he’s texting you late into the night, that’s usually a pretty good indicator that he has some sort of feelings for you. Just try to veer away from overtly sexual conversations, because if things get too sexual, he’ll be more likely to view your conversations as a potential hook up. Stay lady like with him, and have fun flirting.
If things are going to progress, he’ll move them along.
Chris
Hi. I work in fashion and at my work place are a couple of very flirty guys. I’ve noticed something going on. When the more flirty guy is not at work, the other guy asks me questions “what have you done with him – I’m sure you two have met up after work!” and so on.
When the more flirty guy turns up for work, I get compliments on my clothing “When I see you, I am so happy… You in that dress! WOW!” and more recently “How can I do my work when you and your clothes distract me??” I responded with “Well, there’s nothing I can do about that! Haha!” He then got a bit worried and asked “Are we still friends?” “Of course we are still friends” I said, and then finished off the conversation with “that’s ok then!”
He also took a lot of interest in my friends and to what happened between me and a male friend. Convinced my male friend and I were an item, he began to ask in-depth questions about it. I got annoyed and said persistently “Let me tell you something, i’m still single!” He then said “Ok, well, I will leave you alone then!” “I know you won’t” I said. That’s when he laughed his head off….
Also he offered several times to ‘warm me up!’ What is going on?!
Hey Rebecca,
It sounds like he likes you, but for some reason he’s having trouble getting past the flirting stages. There could be several reasons for this, but more than likely he feels inadequate next to your other male friends.
Continue the flirting, and feel free to open up a bit more with him. Just keep it light and funny, and stress the fact that you’re single, and not hooking up with other guys. This should put him at ease.
Then, the ball is in his court.
Good luck!
Chris
Hi Chris,
If a guy leaves u a note saying “I love u but I hate u.” what does that mean? thank you.:)
Hey,
This sounds like harmless flirting of the push and pull variety. Some guys will bring pull you in with their words, and then suddenly push you away with their words, leaving you wanting more.
If done right, they’re not trying to be mean. They’re just flirting with you.
Well I just want to know if this guy likes me or its playing around because thats the way he is. He is funny, outgoing, confident. There are times when he ignores me and acts like whatever but there are times when he constantly says my name for everything and we do have kinda awkward moments. Sometimes he acts too silly and sings songs and mentions my name in them but he is funny around others, he overreacts with me. Also when we are in a group he acts crazy and funny but when we are alone he gets serious. The other day I walked to where he was with his friend and some girl and he just picked on me I didn’t laugh which I think he was trying to be funny , he said sorry then he said something sweet in spanish like “mi amor” .. ( he is american and I am spanish) . Anyways after he just started saying my name like always such as ” whats up scarlet? “. Its a little weird but I don’t mind because I think he is cute
. My point is I am still not sure because he is friendly with girls and very respectful so I don’t know if its just me thinking nonsense.
Hey Scarlet,
Most likely this isn’t nonsense.
All of the qualities you described to me shows that he is actually a really good guy. Make sure you keep flirting with him!
Try to spend a bit more personal time with him too. If all you two ever do is hang out with a group, it won’t give you a chance to know each other on a personal level.
Again, stay light and funny with him, but don’t be afraid to get serious with him at times either.
Good luck!
Hi Chris,
Can I pick your expert brain please?!
I fancy a guy at work (we’ve never seen each other socially). I think he’s a confident type. We flirt well I think we do! We sometimes have a very intense eye contact. He is always teasing me! Always! Occasionally I catch him looking at me but he’s based in an office where he can’t help but look at people walking by! I did invite him out on a group thing recently but he let me down last minute! Is he at all interested do you think or am I being played like a piano? Lol
Cheers
Hey Mel,
He’s definitely interested.
He may have let you down on the group thing for a legit reason. You can try again, but if he declines again, I wouldn’t push the issue anymore.
After that, it’s up to him to make plans with you.
Hey Chris. This guy and I have been friends for a while and we went on a group trip to Blue Man Group. He was throwing me TONS of signs (taking me somewhere private to buy coffee, keeping his arm wrapped around me, imitating little things I did and acting nervous. Even inviting me to let him show me around the city and meet his friends!) but the next day in school he was hesitant and was the first to leave our conversation. We were texting all weekend and had great chemistry but now I’m afraid that I might be annoying him! He leaves for an exchange program in France soon and I’m worried that we might grow apart! Was the day we spent together just something I dreamt up or has he lost interest in me so quickly?
Good question…
More than likely, you didn’t dream anything up. From what you told me, he seems to be throwing out all of the signs to you, and at this point I would usually think it was a sealed deal.
Guys aren’t very flighty usually, so it’s hard to believe that he changed his mind about you so quickly.
Maybe the realization that he’s going to France soon is bothering him, so he’s worried about becoming attached to you? You might want to invite him out somewhere for coffee or lunch and just catch up with him.
Pay attention to his signals, and you can get a good idea where he is coming from.
Best of luck,
Chris
I’ve had this crush on this guy for at least 16 years and am 20 and hes 25(finally the 5 year gap looks better than a 16 year old and 21 year old or 11 year old and 16 year old) . We recently started working together and very closely and he has been sending me these signals as if he has intrest in me he has asked me to lunch with a group of his friends, he has offered to buy me lunch, he touches my hand and neck and shoulders. When we cook at work he will fix a plate for me and bring it to me. He will sit right beside me, one time he has even laid his legs across my lap. He saw me filling out a job application and said he hopes am not leaving him. He brought up past things i used to do when i was crushing on him as a young girl but he never refered to those times as if he knew i was crushing on him. He mom jokes and calls me her daughter-in-law but she does that with any woman that shows intrest in him or looks at him to long hahaha. He keeps me laughing all day and when i burned my finger he tried to make sure i was okay. I am worried that because i was crushing so long maybe am reading to much into it or maybe he is just being friendly because i dont really see how he acts around other girls. SN: My phone died and he was worried about me and texted me when i got it charged. He is shy but acts different around me but he said hes comfortable around girls doe AM SO CONFUSED!!!!!!! OVERTHINKING!!!
Delaina,
Stop over thinking so much! This guy likes you!
Now, the only thing YOU have to do is make sure he likes you in the right way. Don’t act like his little sister, or else you’re setting up a brotherly relationship.
FLIRT WITH HIM. Not too heavily, but make sure he knows that you are a woman that likes men, and make sure he realizes that he is a man you may be interested in.
He’s throwing out signals, so make sure you do the same.
AND RELAX! Haha.
Thanks so much n he does like me I followed your advice n he came out n told me!!
Hi Chris
So I have made friends with man and have known eachother a year now. He is popular amongst our group. We text eachother at least everyother day some go quite long and do get flirty on occassion. He does look at me often in group gatherings and always makes a point to touch me when he can. I honestly cannot tell if he is just very friendly or attracted. Recently we were picking on one another via text and joking around like always but he seemed to have stopped in the middle of it and made it a point to say he was only teasing and that he hoped I knew he thought the world of me? So I’m confused if I’m just a friend to him or is he thinking more?
This looks to be a classic case of him liking you.
I would suggest moving away from texts and paying attention to your personal interactions with him more. You can learn much more about a guy from how he acts.
Watch him while he’s around you. If he likes you, he won’t have to even say a word, because you’ll know by his body language and mannerisms.
Hi Chris! Just found your site and I love it
There is this guy at my high school– he is a freshman and I am a senior, and he is one of those guys that is quiet around people, but is comfortable with his friends. He can talk to guys and girls fairly easily. We hang out after school most days, since we are the only ones left so that’s how I got to know him. When we talk he never sits next to me, but across. I like him, but I’m usually the one asking questions and talking, but sometimes he does as well and laughs. Whenever I am with him he always does two things that he doesn’t do around his friends: he swirls around in his chair sometimes and always runs his fingers though his hair. He also forgets a lot of things I say, and gets embarrassed when he does. Also when I ask him a simple question sometimes he’ll take several seconds to answer, doesn’t hold my stares, etc. Does he not like me, or is he just nervous? I can’t tell
Hey Lindsey,
First of all, glad you like the site!
Now about your guy problems, I’m not so sure you have anything to be worried about.
If I was a freshman in high school, and a senior started flirting with me, I’d be nervous too. In high school, age and status is everything. He’s probably trying to figure out why a senior is even talking to him. Make sure you make him realize that you’re interested in him.
You may have to get straightforward with him, because as a younger guy, he may not be too great on picking up your signals yet.
But yeah, he’s just nervous, so don’t worry about him no being interested.
Chris
Hey Chris, So I just made friends with this guy, we have only been friends for 4-5 months. We hangout with our group of friends.We always insult each other non stop and we are both very sarcastic. He will always be sitting next to me and wrap his arms around me and will poke me and touch me, but I can’t tell if he likes me or not. He’s a super picky guy when it comes to girls but we like all the same music and we have the same sense of humor and he always laughs at my jokes more then any of our other friends. He always tells me that he has a hard time liking people (like more then a friend). I can’t tell if he actually likes me or what.
It sounds like he likes you.
You may want to be careful though. It’s fine to pick on each other, but you should never let it get to the point where it’s more like a brother and sister relationship. It’s important to let him know that you are a girl that likes men as more than good friends. If you act too much like his buddy, he may start seeing you as a buddy, and we don’t want that.
So, whenever you’re picking on each other, make sure you bring some sexual tension into it. I’m not saying throw yourself at him, because if you’ve not noticed I’m big on waiting until marriage for sex. But there is no harm in a little sexually tensed banter. This drives guys wild.
Best of luck!
Hey Chris,
I’m in high school and there are a guy in my class that seemed to like me but now I’m not sure. He is the annoying type of guy who picks on me constantly (imitates me when I laugh or sneeze – I have this little sneeze and it’s funny, he sometimes stares at me to get me to notice him and when I notice him staring I laugh). Recently, we’ve been in a school trip and many girls from my class have decided that he is very good looking and were “all over him” for a couple of days. He corporated with them but still was nice to me and picked on me – he beats me – but not in a hurtful way.(I was mad at him for no reason because I was jealous so I tried to avoid him but I was still very nice to him). When my friend was cold he gave her his scarf and he said bye just to her with a big smile on his face when we got out of the bus eventhough we were walking together! (he ignored me) So I have no idea what to think. I’m 17 by the way. Thank you
Hey Noa,
This is a great question, and to be honest, these are the guys you really need to watch out with.
It sounds like he is pretty flirtatious. If he was just this way with you, I wouldn’t see any problem with it. But he’s obviously enjoying the attention from other girls too.
This by itself isn’t bad, because you and him aren’t dating or anything. If you want the challenge, you could probably start flirting with him more to see where it leads. It could go somewhere more serious.
Just remember, the fun and games is a great way to get the initial attraction started, but you also need to build some tension with him. This is where the real attraction comes into play.
After things escalate with you two, make sure you continue to pay attention to his behavior with other girls.
If he is still flirting with them after you and him get more serious, this is a good indicator that he’s probably not the sort of guy you should be dating.
I also love to flirt with all kinds of women, but when things start getting serious between me and someone in particular, I tend to concentrate on them. If he does this, it’s safe to say that he’s more concerned with his relationship with you, and at this point you can probably start forming a real relationship without worry.
Hope this helps!
I’m not sure is it me or is he looking at me everytime we are together. We used to be friends but i don’t know what happend and we drifted apart until i started to catch him sometimes looking at my way. My close friend also notices that he looks my way when i’m busy. When he is with his friends they kinda look at me in a different way. When we’re together we don’t really speak. I’m confused whether is it just me or something else…
Hey Anna,
This is tricky. He could have stopped talking to you for many reasons.
Really what it comes down to is this- when you were friends, did he ever give you any indication that he might like you as something more?
If he did, he could have pulled away from you in order for you to stop seeing him as friend material, and to start seeing him as something more. This is a classic move a lot of guys that are stuck in the friend zone use, and sometimes it works for them.
Think about how he acted when you two were friends. If he never acted like he wanted anything more, he may have just gotten upset with you about something and pulled away.
However, if he acted like he always liked you in a romantic sort of way, it’s possible that he pulled away so you would have the chance to stop seeing him as a friend and start seeing him as something more.
If you need anymore advice, feel free to follow up with me!
In the past he just ask if i had a boyfriend or not in some of our conversation. Does that count as anything?
Hey Anna,
Most of the time, when a guy asks if you have a boyfriend, it’s because he wants to know if the position is taking applications.
Haha.
Thanks you for the advice Chris
Anytime!
Hello there Chris.
I’ve been speaking to this guy from my Psychology class since late saturday night after he passed me a note in class expressing that he loves the webcomic mentioned on my bag. I’ve been speaking to him via facebook and text. Then on the sunday we met up and I spent the whole day with him and his close female friend. He walked me all the way home from his house and trust me, its pretty far! We talked the whole way and on the way he brought some expensive sweets for us to share, which he gave me when he left. As soon as he left he started texting me!
We texted each other until 3am even though he had school today, which is now cancelled due to snow. He’s STILL texting me.
Do you think he likes me?
Hey Hannah!
This one is clear cut.
If this guy is putting this much effort into talking to you this much, there is no question that he likes you.
If you like him, go ahead and start building more attraction with him to see where things lead. I have a feeling that you’ll be happy with the results!
Best of luck!
There this guy in my class and a couple times I saw him looking my way sometimes when I look back he’ll turn or I’ll smile n he will smile back or just act like he didnt see me sometimes we talk but most of the time we don’t I don’t know if it’s because we never get a chance or it’s because he doesn’t like me people keep asking me if I like him then I found out that some of them are friends with him plus my friends say that he was flirting with me but I don’t see it sometimes I feel like he likes me sometimes it just friends n sometimes I feel like I’m just another person in his class then we started talking alittle but it was always for only a couple seconds to a couple minutes it never really lasted is it because we had to get to class or he just doesn’t like me also ever since I found out he has a girlfriend in another school we haven’t talked as much could it be because I didn’t try or doesn’t want to talk to me I can’t figure him out but I really like him I really want to know if he likes me what should I do n my friend said to get his number n txt him then see how that goes but how can I get his number I never had to do that before usually a guy would just ask me I never had to ask him what should I do n how can I talk to him more
Please help me and give me advice on what to do and does he like me or how can I find out
In this case, I’m not really thinking that he’s got a crush on you.
At first I thought he may just be shy with you, but then you told me he had a girlfriend in another school. This raises a major red flag.
If he’s not talking to you as much, it’s probably because he has a girlfriend now. If it’s a newer relationship, he’s in the honeymoon stage with her, and the likelihood of you breaking him away from that is low.
Back off of him for awhile. Don’t worry so much about whether a guy likes you! It’s nothing to worry about.
Wait and see how he and his girlfriend work out, and if they don’t, you can start flirting with him. Flirting is important. By flirting with him, you are showing him that you are interested in him, and then he will be more comfortable with flirting with you.
Eye contact and casual conversation are good, but you can’t get a relationship out of those. It’s important to take things to the next level!
Thank you so much Chris! I hope he does like me. We’ve been talking all day again and it’s been a pretty fun one! Nothing will probably happen for a while since he’s… quite obsessed with being Gentlemanly xD But at least things seem to be moving forward!
Thank you very much
Not a problem!
Keep us posted on how it goes!
Hey Chris,
There is a guy who would flirt constantly with me, but Deny it as soon as I brought up to him, and the thing is he started dating a friend of mine a year ago on st. Patrick’s day, and he still flirts with me. The guy friend of mine is bi, I a transgender MTF, who is 4 years younge r than him,(he 21 and I 18 and the friend, she is 20), and the friend he is acting is a genetic chick, and I was wondering why he would flirt with me? I mean its not the innocent flirt, but the flirting that is considered cheating, like he touches my “turn on spots” frequently, I know I should leave immediately but, I love him, honest to the goddess(or god depends on what you believe in) I do, and I’ve tried leaving before, but when I do try, I feel like I’m half alive, and we almost split ways when we got into an argument about something, I told him my heart was broken by the fight.. He said his should be instead, he sends mixed signals to both me and the other friend.
First of all, let me say that we need to redefine love for you.
Contrary to anything you’ve watched, and contrary to any novel you’ve read, love is not a feeling. You say that when you try leaving him, you feel half alive. This isn’t due to love, it’s due to separation anxiety. He is a drug for your brain.
For Example:
I used to smoke. I knew it was bad for me, but I liked it. When I quit, I felt dead for 3 weeks. This led me to believe I needed cigarettes in order to be happy. But after a little while longer, I started feeling better about not smoking.
Now, 3 months later, I look back and say “why would I ever do that to my body?”
This relationship you’re in isn’t healthy. You may have strong feelings for him, but I promise you, he doesn’t have those feelings for you.
When you realize that love is a choice, and not an emotion, it’s much easier to break away from someone who gives you this “artificial” love.
Hi Chris,
There’s a guy in the class above me that I’ve had a crush on for a while. I often catch him looking at me through the corner of my eye. When I return the gaze, he’ll sometimes turn away, but at other times he’ll stare a little longer until I look away. This afternoon I noticed him saying something to his friends, then pointing. This resulted in a group of people staring at me from across a room, and a very confused me. I was thinking “omg he knows” but I’m still not sure. When I started liking him, I wasnt 100% sure on his name, so I asked him. He then proceeded to ‘play games’ like playfully refusing to tell me his name, but he doesnt do this to others. Furthermore, I dont know him. A mutual friend suggested that he looks at me a lot when my back is turned. I really want to talk to him, but I’m afraid of embaressing him, or worse, getting brushed off
I dont know whether he likes me or is just trying to make hate him?
The best thing you can do is get to know him better. Flirt with him! Play with him (not like that pervert, haha)!
You need to talk to the guy. If both of you just sit around glancing at each other, nothing will ever take place between you.
So, flirt with the boy. If he flirts back, then you flirt more. Eventually, you’ll both know you like each other, and you can date.
Best of luck!
Hey chris !
Well there’s this guy at my high school and he acts like a player but I’ve known him since he was the slightly chubby kid in grade 6. He’s a nice guy and I’m not really sure if he likes me. I mean in classes we sit next to each other because I just arrived at his high school an he was all friendly the first day so we sit next to each other. Well lately when I’ve sat next to him he’s brushed his leg against mine and then kept it there and even leave I a bit against my leg. I pretend not to notice fully and he’s fine with physical contact but its really weird because he asks me randomly why did u call me babe and stuff like that when I tr to test the limits. He’s really nice to me but is a real jerk when other guys come around and he ignores other girls. I’m wondering if he likes me and if I’m possibly friend zoned. I mean he swore hi head off and cheered me up when I broke up with my ex called coincidently chris but the guy sends me friend signals and potential interest signals. Thanx Xx
The only way this guy will friend zone you is if you’ve been friends with him for so long that you’re like his little sister.
Here’s a secret… I used to be chubby. Maybe even a bit fat.
As a result, I had barely any self esteem with women.
But, as I got older I started lifting weights, and got in shape.
You know what’s funny? Even though I was in shape, I still sucked at flirting with girls. I had lost weight on the outside, but on the inside I was still the chubby kid who couldn’t get a girlfriend.
It’s possible that this guy may have the same issue. If you want this guy to potentially date you, you need to really drive home the fact that you think he’s attractive, and that you’re open to seeing where things lead.
If this guy isn’t use to being good looking, he probably has no idea that he is. Make sure you are acting like an interested girl, and not like his little sister.
*Note: If you find a good looking man that doesn’t know he’s good looking, you’ve found a keeper.
ok, so, he texts me every couple days, checks up on me, asks me to hang out, etc. however, i usually pay for my own meals when we go out. his body language doesn’t say he’s interested at all, but, why would he be asking to hang out 3 or 4 times a week if he isn’t? it’s been about 2 months and he’s yet to make a move. i’m in the friend zone, aren’t i?
Hmmmmm…
Normally I’d say you’re in the friend zone, but guys aren’t really notorious for that. The only case in which I’ve ever put a girl in the friend zone was because I liked her friend, and it was a way to get to know her friend.
If he’s not throwing out any signs, that could be an indicator that he just wants to be friends. BUT, that’s not the end of it.
There is a very good chance that this guy you’ve been spending time with is just completely clueless about how to flirt, or show attraction. There are tons of these guys out there, especially today.
If he does like you, and just doesn’t know how to show it, he will most likely give you the “how he feels about you” speech soon. It’s up to you how you respond to him.
I would say as long as you like his company, to keep going out with him. But if you get to the point where you don’t want to see him, it’s best to just make a clean break.
Hope everything works out!
I’ve always kind of felt like me and this guy had some connection, we’re kind of weird about it though. & I’m not sure if I’m over thinking it. There’s a lot of glances between the two of us at school. I hung out with his friend Christian and my best friend yesterday and in the middle of having a conversation about some guy with the same name, his friend randomly asked me if I would go with my crush to prom (he doesn’t know I like his friend) cause he didn’t have a date, but we was giving me this look and smile while asking, I got nervous and didn’t answer. Christian said he asked because my crush didn’t have a date & was wondering if I would. Which I thought was unusual. He’ll walk past me & bump me or throw something at me or mess with me & I’ll be hanging out with my crush in 7th pd & I’ll mess with him and untie his shoe or mess with something and he’ll grab my hand to pull it away and he kind of turns it into holding it, we just won’t let go, just kind of touch and mess with each other’s hands. The way he smiles at me really convinces me sometimes but I don’t really know what to think about it. My confusion is when his friend Christian tells me stuff like “oh, he’s just like that” ‘m also pretty sure he has a thing for me so I don’t know if he’s lying to keep me from my crush or he’s serious. I just don’t wanna over think and embarrass myself. I don’t know if my crush is into me or is just friendly. Any input would help. Thanks in advance!
Hey!
From experience, never rely on a mutual friend to tell you when someone likes you.
It usually never ends well.
I would tell you to stop spending so much time with this guy’s friend, and to start spending more time with him.
Based off of everything you’ve told me, I’m going to say that this guy likes you, even though his friend says he’s just like that.
It’s true, he may just be a really flirty guy. I’m a really flirty guy too. But, I still only flirt with girls that I find attractive, or am at least interested in. So it’s probably safe for you to start flirting with him more.
Hey
I was wondering if this guy likes me. When we first met he would always talk to me and give me high fives and one day he asked for a ride home after school and I gave him one and he asked for me to give him a ride again. But then we kind of stopped talking. We have the same group of friends and I dont know why but he will not make eye contact with me and when he does its very short. He also flirt with girls that sitting next to me. But there are also times when we talks to me nonstop I don’t really even get a word in to talk. One day I was playing tennis and he screamed my name from the parking lot and waved, all his friends smiled at him and were laughing/talking to him. Im very confused! Please help!
Hey Tori,
This is really straight forward. Even though the eye contact thing is shoddy, this guy likes you. He’s flirting with other girls because he’s trying to make you jealous.
All of the rest are signs that he likes you, but he may have backed off because he wasn’t sure that you felt the same way.
If you do like him, flirt with him and let him know it’s okay for him to like you.
Hope this helps!
Hey Chris,
There’s this guy I like, and he acts like he likes me, eye contact, body language, and the like, but he refuses physical contact. Even if you touch his shoulder during a conversation he’ll freak out and jump back. Is he just weirdly shy or is it something else? Thanks(:
It’s hard to tell. Depending on people’s past, sometimes they just have real problems getting used to physical contact.
Ease into it with him, and make sure he’s comfortable.
Oh, and NEVER call him out for being jumpy at physical touch. This will just cause him more discomfort, and that’s not what you want.
Hope he relaxes a little bit!
So there’s this guy I like. He’s a bit more than a year younger than me and he’s a relative of a friend of the family. I’ve known him forever, we kind of grew up together sort of – seeing each other at holidays and things like that. His mom has always been wanting me to go out with him, but its only more recently that I’ve starting feeling attracted to him. Everyone says we flirt. I guess I always thought we were being friendly… I’m not good at picking up on the flirting thing even when, apparently, I’m doing it. But he does the teasing thing and the eye contact thing and the touching thing (not hugging or like that close, but he’s gotten more physically close than when we were younger) and if we’re at a family gathering we’ll typically sit together. It seems like he likes me, but I guess I still have doubts since we’ve known each other for so long. Every time I think it seems like he likes me, the thought pops into my head that maybe he sees me as like a cousin or something – even though we aren’t really. But then if everyone is constantly teasing us for flirting with each other then there must be something to it? I don’t know, I feel like it would be a lot less complicated if he wasn’t a relative of a friend of the family. I’m not afraid of pursuing something with him cause his family is friends with my parents (I know his cousins and aunts and uncles and everything), but it’s just getting over that hurdle that is proving difficult and bothersome. Any advice for a situation like this?
Hey Lin,
I think it would be safe for you to ratchet up the flirting with him. Just because you’ve known him for a long time doesn’t mean you can’t date.
Length of time knowing someone doesn’t put you in the friend zone. Closeness with someone does. If you have been emotionally close to this guy for several years, he may see you as a sister or cousin.
But if you aren’t really close all the time, and only see each other on occasion, I would say that you could pursue something more with him.
If he’s doing the touchy feely stuff, but you’re afraid he sees you as a cousin, just remember this:
No guy is going to constantly be touching his cousin or sister unless he’s a weirdo. Haha. It just doesn’t happen like that.
Hugs are one thing, but if he is playfully touching you, he’s not looking at you as if you’re his cousin.
SO, I see no problem here. I actually think this could lead to an awesome relationship based on what you told me, and who knows after that?
Good luck!
there’s this guy in my class and he’s really funny and outgoing the complete opposite of me. whenever we talk he always tries to make me laugh with corny jokes and these girls next to us thought he was flirting but I wasn’t sure and he seems to always get into my personal space but we only have one class together so I don’t now if he’s just like that with everyone.II try to respond and laugh at his jokes but I don’t really know where to go from there.Do you think he might like me?
Hey Ariel,
Yeah, this guy likes you. Just relax! Smart off to him sometimes, laugh at him, and playfully shove his arm when he makes you laugh.
Flirting is supposed to be fun, so don’t sit there and worry about what you should say or do. Because most of the time, when you do that, you usually end up not saying or doing anything!
Hope everything works out!
Hey, I’m 14 and crushing on a 17 yer old… I NEED HELP! I went to a club like 5 weeks ago and ended up seeing this REALLY CUTE guy there but I didn’t talk to him, but the 3 hours I was there we kept making eye contact like non-stop. But later that night I thought after I left that club I would never see him again… I was WRONG! The week after that I went to the gym to work out with my friend Stefanie and he WALKED IN! I immediately recognized him.. I could already feel that I was blushing so I asked stef if he was looking at me and she said yeah but how do you know him? Then I told her the whole story, so she knows everything. I see this boy everyday except Saturday and Sunday, btw I only see him when I go to the gym at 6. Anyways, we look at each other all the time no matter what! ill be on the other side of the gym and somehow his eyes will always find ME! But just the other day stef and me just happend to walk into this like stretching part of the gym & he was there with his friend. But once they were done his friend got up and walked out but he waited behind for a min or two but he was standing up and I was sitting down & once I looked up our eyes met and something. Just clicked like I fell for him even more! But we do NOT talk in person ever! I’ve never talked to him and neither has Stefanie but she claims that he texts her all the time but I don’t know if she’s lying or not… She’s just that type of person. But he doesn’t text me :/ I just want to know if he likes me or not?. If you want more details just ask and ill tell you even more. BTW he’s way shy, and like you said if the boy is shy the girl will have to make the move… Thing is I’m way shy too! Ugh the struggle.. Anyways help please?.?.
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Hey there!
It’s hard to say whether he likes you or not.
I think he finds you attractive, but men need more than looks to figure out if they like you.
For example:
I may walk into a mall and see a woman who I think is the pretties thing ever. But, unless she talks to me or I talk to her, nothing will ever happen.
If he’s making eye contact with you on a regular basis, chances are if you want to approach him you can. Watch how he acts around you a bit more.
Talking to someone you like is hard for both guys and girls, but if you ever want anything to happen, somebody has to make the first move!
Let me know how things go!
Known this guy for about 10 months, we spend a lot of time together. I told him about 3 months in that I “liked” him, and he said he didn’t have time for a relationship and he felt he was not a good enough person for me. Since then we have got closer and closer, we have dinner at least once a week if not more, really deep conversations and do a lot of things couples do together. So I do wonder what is going on. Here are a few of the things (amongst many) I have observed:
He doesn’t touch me per se, but if we are out, he has a habit of walking very close to me and bumping in to me, or if we are sitting opposite each other he will wiggle his knee so he accidentally touches me. He hugs most of his other friends who are girls but never hugs me. I called him a ‘lady coward’ one day, just teasing him, and he immediately said that he was not and was forward with women he liked and then went very thoughtful.
He teases me all the time, and slyly grins when I get irritated. He invites himself along to some things I do with mutual friends says he will only stay to say hi, and then ends up staying for hours. We go clothes shopping for him and he actually listens to what I say. He says how hot other women are.
I just don’t know if he is really shy, if he is, is he ever going to do anything or I should cut and run now? Thanks, a male opinion would be great, all of my friends are girls!
Hey Liz,
This is odd.
To be honest, if the roles were reversed, I would say you’re in the friend zone. BUT, guys usually don’t make a habit of having close friends that are girls, so I’m not going to go there yet.
It might be weird to him, but you need to try flirting if you don’t already. If he responds with flirting back, then you should be safe to keep going.
If he laughs it off and treats you like a sister, or gets weirded out by it, it’s probably safe to say that he only sees you as a friend, and nothing more. Why would he only see you as a friend?
Well, has he ever had any girlfriends that you know of? If not, then you might want to consider the idea that he may be gay. I know of other girls this has happened to, and it happens pretty often.
If he has dated girls, then somehow you ended up in the friend zone. If you REALLY still want to be with him, the best thing to do in this case is to make yourself disappear for awhile. Let him miss you! Afterwards, when you see him again, make sure you act like a woman that he should be interested in, and not like the sister he hasn’t seen in ages.
Keep me updated on this!
I like one of my best friends, and we just started to get close these past few months. he runs an extracurricular club I go to every week, and usually we hang out in his room for a couple of ours afterwards. he’s incredible sweet and understanding, but he’s so guarded about things it’s hard to understand how he feels. he does lots of cute things like bringing me my favorite candy when he knows he’ll see me, and he drew me a poster over our spring break. when I make physical contact with him, he reciprocates, but I think anyone would in the situation. All of my friends think he likes me, they say there is something about the way that he looks at me, but I’m not so convinced. I don’t have much confidence in myself as far as getting the guy goes, and most men aren’t attracted to bigger women. I want to tell him how I feel, but I’m not sure if I should, because if he doesn’t feel the same way, I could very easily lose him as my best friend, and the thought of that truly hurts. Do you have any advice on how I should proceed? should I let him know how I’m feeling, or keep on acting like I’m just a friend to him? there is a formal dance coming up in my sorority, and I was debating on whether or not I should ask him, needless to say I’m very confused. Any input would be much appreciated
Hey Andrea,
First of all, I want to tell you personally, DON’T be self-conscious about your looks. Do you want to know a secret?
It doesn’t matter what size you are. Now, don’t take that as me saying looks don’t matter; they definitely do. But, as long as you take care of yourself, and keep up your appearance, that’s what matters.
About this guy, do you flirt with him at all? In order for a man to see you as someone whom he could date, you need to make sure he knows you’re interested in dating him. You don’t have to be overbearing about it, but it will help give you a clearer picture of where you stand if you try flirting with him in your conversations.
Secondly, a good way to really take the pulse of what your chances are would be to ask him if he would be interested in doing a “dating” thing. What is a dating thing?
Easy. A dating thing is something any couple who is going on a date would do. This could be movies, dinner, or whatever else comes to mind. The important thing here is to make sure it’s just the two of you.
Don’t come out and ask him first. When you’re talking with him, mention something that you would like to do. He may take the initiative and ask you himself. If he doesn’t, he may just be clueless about women, haha. In that case, you can go ahead and ask him directly if he’d like to do something with you.
Do these things, and let me know how it works out for you.
Hope everything goes well!
Hi Chris,
there’s this guy 2 grades below me, but only 1 year younger than me. He was very nice to me when we first met, and we always hung out together at his house. However he changed (not talking to me) since then until I put up a fake relationship status on fb.
After a few months he has been very very nice to me (not sure if this has some sort of link with the fb issue).He talks to me on skype every day and asks me to go to his house to watch movies.He has a lot of physical contacts with me but his reason is:”my skin is soft” and “I love you as a sister”.I have asked him if he likes me. His answers were always like:I treat you as one of my close friend and I love you as a sister.I also asked him why he changed before, he said he was immature.
So what do you think?
Hey Susan,
Before we get onto the guy, I’ve gotta tell you to NOT play the Facebook game. Stuff like this will always come back to haunt you in the worst possible way, so it’s best to stay away from Facebook drama period.
The “your skin is soft” line? Okay. That is one of the oldest in book. When I was younger, I used to use it because it seems sweet, but it also doesn’t blow the guys cover either. Definitely a line that shyer guys will use.
The “I love you like a sister” line is also something that shyer guys will say to keep girls from knowing the truth.
I can’t give you a definite answer here, because in order to figure out what he really means I would have to hear the way he said it and watch how he acted when he said it.
My advice to you would be to pay attention to how he acts when he’s saying this stuff. Look for the signs!
Keep us updated, and let me know how things go!
Hey there Chris,
So, I’m in middle school and I think I’m starting to like this one guy. But I’m not sure if he likes me back. Sometimes I catch him staring at me (he doesn’t look away when i do) and whenever I see him after school and he sees me, he pulls out his phone and starts texting or something. I’ve never talked to him before so I am not even sure if I like him. But anyway, whenever I’m in the same room as him, he seems to show off and likes to talk with other girls in front of me.
Do you think he likes me?
Thanks a bunch~
Hey Casey,
I can answer this one pretty easily.
He likes you.
But, be careful. Younger guys around your age often don’t have a clue what they like. So keep your guard up, and try to get to know him a bit better.
Good luck!
Hi Chris! So there’s this guy in one of my classes that I’m good friends with. In January he broke up with this girl he’d been dating for about a year and a half, but apparently things hadn’t been going well for a while. I’ve only known him for a year since I transferred schools. Anyways, we’ve been getting closer and talking alot more since they broke up. In class he always lets me prop my feet up on his legs in the tables and he puts his chair very close to mine. He pokes me in the stomach all the time and tickles me sometimes. He also teases me in a good natured way. He’s also very complimentary and sweet to me and he isn’t that way to other girls. His ex girlfriend hates me an I don’t know why, I don’t even know her! Anyways, when I prop my feet up on his legs he sometimes puts his hand on my knee, about a month ago in class we were watching a movie and he held my hand. The next day he did the same thing, but after that when we were walking to lunch together like always he said he just wanted to slow down because he wasn’t really ready to get in another relationship. I said I respected that and in class I’d pull my chair away from his and I won’t prop my feet up or anything and he’d ask me what was wrong an I’d just say nothing. After we had a school break though thigs went back to normal and he’s started initiating stuff like asking me if I want to prop my feet up or scooting his chair very close to mine or asking me to go on his phone and do something. That’s another thing, he doesn’t care if I take his phone and use it, he doesn’t he like monitor-I guess
That’s a good way of saying it-what I do on it. He doesn’t even care if I go on his Facebook or twitter but he flips out when other people take his phone. Anyways we’re on spring break right now and the three days of school we had before we left he kept put his arm around me and he put his hand on my knee when my feet weren’t even propped up. He was also taking funny pictures of me and him- and normal ones- and snapchatting them to his friends. He’s been texting me or snapchatting me ever day since we’ve been on break and most of the time he tarts the conversation. I’m just not sure if he likes me or not, especially since he said that whole “not ready to get into another relationship” thing. What do you think
Oh, and I forget to tell you, his friends seem to know who I am, even if I don’t know who they are. Like they’ll add me on Facebook and I’ll ask you they are and they say oh I’m friends with him, as if that explains how they know me. Also he’ll invite me to sit with him at lunch on a regular basis with the rest of his football team. During those times that I do sit with him he pays alot of attention to me and not to his friends. And when I don’t sit with him I look up from my lunch and hell be sitting in the perfect spot for me to see him. It’s kinda funny actually. Anyways, after lunch, if there’s time, we’ll walk together on the way to my class. I’m
Just really not sure, and in the hall he walks super close to me and looks and me instead of looking ahead.
And if he likes me, how can I reciprocate so that he understands that I like him. Sorry, I’m just so confused.
Hey Bella!
The good news is that he definitely, 100%, likes you. So you don’t have to worry about that anymore.
As for why he said he didn’t want to jump into a relationship, the best explanation I see is that he really didn’t want to jump into another relationship, haha.
This isn’t uncommon. When guys leave a girl they’ve been with for a long time, they like some single time so they can get used to being “free” again. This is especially true if the relationship they just got out of wasn’t particularly good.
It sounds to me like you’ve got the flirting down pat, so I don’t see any problems there… But, about the phone thing, you should probably NEVER get on his phone, even if he’s fine with it. When you’re doing that, you may be throwing him signals that suggest you would be a controlling girlfriend that would need to keep a check on every aspect of his life. So, don’t check his phone anymore.
If his friends know who you are, that’s a good sign that he thinks you are special enough to talk about with them.
I’m not sure how old you two are, but maybe you should try to hang out after school sometime? Maybe you could see a movie or go over to each other’s house for dinner.
Be careful that you don’t give him any wrong ideas though. You should not be coming off as someone who would get too physical too quickly. Many times, these boys in high school and middle school do things for “bragging rights”, so just keep your guard up, and make sure his intentions are pure.
Tell me how things turn out!
We’re freshmen and I know about the physical thing, trust me, he is a really good guy. And we’re both Christian soo…yeah. About the phone thing, I really had no idea it was coming off that way. Also, we do hang out after school at school sometimes (our schedules due to sports is crazy during the school week) like he asks me to workout with him after school and sometimes we just straight up hang out after school. Anyways, thank you so much for all your advice! I think it’s so great that you actually respond to people because it can be hard interpreting the signs when you want someone to like you!
I’m glad to hear about you two both being Christians. Really, the easiest way to make sure you have happy relationships and marriages is to live according to the Bible. If everyone did that, then I wouldn’t have nearly as many people on here needing advice!
The best advice I can give you is to make sure he sees you as someone who he could date. So, flirt with him! Just nothing too heavy. Everything done in flirting should be done in innocent fun.
And thanks for the encouragement! The reason I run this site is because I see marriages fail all the time, and to be honest, I’m tired of it. Both men and women have a lot of work to do to get the divorce rate down, but the only way that can happen is for men to start taking their responsibilities seriously, and for women to start respecting themselves again. I just think that when girls expect better men for themselves, it leads to stronger marriages!
Hey, Chris. I really like this one guy in my class and seriously want to know if he likes me or not. He does stare at me…constantly. But not in a freakish way; a good way. I don’t know if I’m sending a bad sign, though, since I always dart my glance away as soon as I see him looking at me. Also, he seems to sit next to me whenever he has a chance to sit wherever. We joke around a lot and both poke fun at one and other and seem to have a ton of stuff in common. I even think I made him jealous when I joked around with another guy at our table! I guess the point of this messge is to ask what I should do. I don’t know whether or not to hold my gaze, stand next to him on purpose, or invite him to sit with me. Sorry that I’m not very good at this!
Hey Amara,
For one, you’re thinking about this stuff too much! Haha.
When it comes to your gaze, you can hold it if you want, then glance away while giving a slight smile. This lets men know that you like the attention.
You’re more likely to talk to him if you’re standing close to him, and that’s the goal. You want to get to know this guy.
As far as asking him to sit with you, this is completely up to you. You could just let him know that it’s cool if he wants to sit with you, and then he can decide whether he wants to or not.
Just remember, the attraction game isn’t based on a set of rules or recipes. It’s all about your attitude and confidence.
Hope this helps!
Thanks, Chris! By the way, I suggested to him and my other friend that they shave yesterday. Today, he came to school and he had shaved, so I am definitely considering this a really good sign.
Haha, anytime a guy takes your advice it’s a good sign. It shows he values your opinion!
Hey Chris, i’ve liked this guy for the longest time ever he used to tease me and one time when i lost my voice he kept making jokes about it which were pretty funny even though i couldn’t laugh right i’ve always been clumsy and stuff so that problably made he then stopped talking to me now in highschool we always cross paths we had a class together but he never really talked much and when he entered the class he would like search the room and we’d get eye contact. his friend asked me for my number i asked him why he wanted it and he said because now i don’t know what to do. before this my friend had told him that i didn’t like him for two time i don’t know why but she did so i dont know if its just me or what
Hey Chris, i’ve liked this guy for the longest time ever he used to tease me and one time when i lost my voice he kept making jokes about it which were pretty funny even though i couldn’t laugh right i’ve always been clumsy and stuff so that problably made he then stopped talking to me now in highschool we always cross paths we had a class together but he never really talked much and when he entered the class he would like search the room and we’d get eye contact. his friend asked me for my number i asked him why he wanted it and he said because now i don’t know what to do. before this my friend had told him that i didn’t like him for two time i don’t know why but she did so i dont know if its just me or what
Do you and him talk at all anymore?
I’m going to need some more info before I can help you out with this one. I’m not sure what you’re asking me?
From what you’ve said, I’d say this guy used to like you, and he may still like you. But, if he stopped talking you, it can only mean one of two things.
Either he stopped talking to you because he’s been struck with shyness, or he just doesn’t like you in that way anymore.
Give me a bit more information here, and use periods and commas so I can understand what you’re trying to say! Haha, I’m not being mean, but it’s hard to comprehend stuff when there isn’t any periods or commas used.
Follow up with me!
I like this guy and he does the picking on me thing, but he picks on everyone, and if anything he teases me less than most people. Earlier today he said that last night he wondered what I was doing. We have a lot of the same classes and I talk to him a lot. We hang out in the same group and I don’t think he acts differently around me, but how would I know because I don’t see how he acts when I’m around. I’ve seen him look at me a couple times but not staring. And he suggests things to me like comedians to watch and says stuff like ‘you’ve never heard that band, I’ll show it to you sometime.’ So yeah, hope that helps.
also, he doesn’t do the touching thing, although I don’t see him touch people very often. And he’s complimented my writing but we were editing each others papers for English, so that could have been it.
Hey Katey,
My best guess would be that this guy likes you.
Some guys don’t touch. Usually, the more social men will, but the shyer ones won’t. It really just comes down to personality and how comfortable he is with you. You might try grabbing his hand or playfully shoving him to see how he reacts.
In cases like this, you need to watch how he acts around people. If he acts any differently when you’re around, it’s a pretty easy assumption that the guy likes you.
Make sure you flirt with him! You can check out my blog post on approaching men here for some tips on flirting.
If you need anymore advice with him, just let me know!
hey chris!
I just got a new boyfriend but i’m not even sure if he really likes me or just likes me for kissing i mean he liked my friend apparently and we are in a very open group he has shown all the signs pretty much and i used to think of him a a cute/hot older brother figure but those feelings slightly changed towards more of a crush.
We made out and all that then its complicated but it was a dare. then over the next couple days he took a real interest in me i know it’s probs stupid because hes like im the luckiest guy to have you and all that but i have A LOT of options when it comes to guys and I realy havent known my current boyfriend for long. what do you think because i know he likes me a lot but i dont really know what way if its just physically or yeh. hes really cute and perfect im just wondering more or less i guess how do i get to know him better and also how do i know its not just physical.
He says all these nice things to me its just yeh
I know i sound a bit like a slut for making out and that stuff but its high school time to take risks, a life without them wouldn’t be worth it.
Hey there!
Don’t worry, I’m the last one alive that could sit here and judge you.
You do need to get to know him better, and in order to do that you’re going to have to TALK to him. If you guys are always kissing, that’s going to be difficult.
To do this, you may want to hang out with him in places where you can’t start making out. If you do that, you’ll have to find something to do other than kiss. Ask him to go and do things with you when you know there is going to be other people around, where kissing would be awkward.
Secondly, high school is a time to take risks, but you want to keep a good reputation. Don’t ever let guys think that you’re “easy”, because then they will stop treating you like a person and start treating you like a conquest.
Always try to be moral. I’m not saying kissing is wrong, but you shouldn’t be kissing guys that show no interest in you as a person.
Hope everything works out for you!