Tuesday Ten: How to Know If He Likes You

9 Oct

10. He’ll make eye contact.

The first thing we always do when we like something is look at it. This goes for women too. Sure, you may think that guys are mainly concerned with the other parts of your body, but I promise you that if his eyes meet yours for even a small amount of time, he’s trying to draw your attention.

How long he holds eye contact depends on his personality. Men that look away as soon as they know you caught them looking are generally shy, and as a rule, you’ll probably have to depend on yourself if you’d like to meet him. Guys that hold eye contact for a bit longer are usually  more confident, and if they display a cocky smirk along with the eye contact, they are very confident and will usually initiate a conversation themselves. Lastly, if a guy is just staring at you for prolonged periods of time, he’s probably a creep.

9. He’ll let your friends know.

This isn’t always a fact, but it does happen (especially if you’re still in high school). Sometimes younger guys have problems showing girls that they’re interested, and will resort to other tactics, such as asking your friends what you think of him, or mentioning you more than usual to a mutual friend. In high school this can catch like wildfire.

The rule is, if you’re close to a friend, and they say that a certain guy likes you, it’s most likely true. If even more of your friends come up and tell you that he likes you, it’s definitely true.

Just make sure you know that these friends telling you about your secret admire are trustworthy.

8. He’ll pick on you.

This is a great one for both the youngsters and the older women out there.

If he likes you, he’ll pick on you a little.

When you’re younger, this can act as a defense mechanism for a guy trying to keep you from knowing that he’s crazy about you. I had a pretty big crush on a girl earlier on in high school, and I’ll be the first to admit that I was a little less than nice to her. At times I may have even come off as mean. But the truth is, I just didn’t want her to know how much I liked her… So if you notice a boy picking on you for no reason, it’s probably because he likes you.

If you’re a bit older, guys will still pick on you, but this time it’s to show you that they do like you. Weird huh?

This sort of meanness will be funny, and very flirtatious. When older guys pick on a woman they like, it’s usually done with a sly smile on their face, and is very harmless.

7. He acts differently around you.

If you know a guy pretty well, and you’ve noticed that how he acts around you is a bit different from how he acts around everyone else, you may have found someone with a secret crush.

I’ve had several questions about this. Some quick examples:

He’s a popular, outgoing, and funny guy, but he hardly talks around me, and acts shy. Why?

Answer: He likes you.

He acts funny and childish around his friends, but when I’m there he’s Mr. Serious?

Answer: He likes you.

(Yes, I did mean to make those questions rhyme.)

6. He touches you.

No, not like that you perverts!

When I say he touches you, I mean he’ll do things like put his hand on your lower back while walking to the bar for drinks, make lots of hand contact, and put his arm around you.

When you see one of us trying our best to touch you as much as possible, it’s not because your skin looks soft. It’s because we’re attracted to you.

P.S. If you’re attracted to him, make sure you touch him back so he knows you’re okay with the touching stuff.

5. His friends will try to get him to talk to you.

Whenever I used to go out with my friends on the weekends, and one of us mentioned thinking a girl was sexy, cute, or beautiful, the rest of us would automatically start badgering him, trying to get him to stop being such a wuss, get up, and go talk to her.

Sometimes girls caught on to what we were trying to do.

If you pay attention, you might see a group of guys glancing at you on occasion, while pressuring their buddy. They are pushing him to grow a pair and talk to you. And if they are pushing him, it’s because he probably mentioned being attracted to you in the first place.

4. He’ll pretend to like the same stuff you do.

Have you ever heard that imitation is the best flattery?

Well, obviously most of the male population has.

When there is a woman (or girl), that has caught our eye, we may try to find some common ground to make conversation flow a bit smoother.

“I know exactly what you mean. The Situation stepped entirely out of line when he said that to Snooki!”

Or this tidbit:

“Are those gel or acrylic”

The truth is, we don’t care. The color of your nails is something other girls will pay attention to, but most guys could care less. Don’t even get me started on Jersey Shore.

The only reason we may act interested in your stuff, is for some strange reason we think it will make you like us more.

3. He’ll pretend to have a crush on one of your friends.

Here’s one that could be a bit hard to spot, because sometimes, we legitimately are just wanting your opinion on your BFF Sasha (see number nine).

But, other times, this is a red flag. For some of the shyer types of men, this is the absolute best way to get to know a girl he has a crush on without letting her know his intentions.

Again, this can be difficult to judge. But if he spends more time with you than with the girl he supposedly likes, chances are he’s being sneaky.

2. He’ll compliment you.

I’m going to go ahead an throw this obvious one out there. If he compliments you on anything appearance related he likes you.

You may say:

“Chris, he told me that I was the sweetest girl he knew, but didn’t say anything about my looks!”

Well, chances are he still likes you.

Guys usually don’t compliment someone for no reason. Sure, I may know this girl that I think is the smartest and funniest person ever, but as a guy, I’m not going to say anything about it unless I’m attracted to her.

You see, admiring a woman is one thing. But actually telling a woman you admire them is on a completely different level.

1. His body language shows it.

I know, I know.

“Chris, I read this in every crappy relationship blog. But I still have no idea wtf it means!”

Easy tiger. Let me explain.

Guys are easy to read.

Next time you’re sitting talking to a group of people, do a quick check of the men in the group. When one of us like a girl, we will naturally position ourselves closer to them, and point our entire body towards them. We will lean in closer to hear whatever she is saying, but won’t do that for other women around. Our arms will be in an open position, and not crossed. Our chest will be pushed out a little further, to convince her of our masculinity.

Even our voices may sound a bit deeper.

This isn’t stuff we sit around and practice. We don’t know why we throw out all of these signals. But we do, and if you can catch on, you can single out every guy that likes you. This is the forbidden art ladies. Learn to read our body language, and you’ll never have to worry about figuring out whether a guy likes you ever again.

There you have it!

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395 Responses to “Tuesday Ten: How to Know If He Likes You”

  1. Anastasia January 20, 2013 at 1:54 am #

    Hi Chris,

    I was wondering if you could offer some advice. I have fallen hard for what seems to be the perfect guy. He’s younger though by a couple grades and he’s overall a friendly outgoing guy so I’m not sure if he likes me or is just being himself. He talks and jokes with me and makes eye contact but I just don’t know. He ignored me for a while though after I changed my appearance- in a good way. I’m totally lost on how to read him.. Everyone adores him like I said he’s perfect. What to do? From a guys perspective? Oh and I added him on FB and he accepted the request then defriended me- ouch?

    • Chris January 24, 2013 at 1:33 pm #

      Hey Anastasia,

      First of all, it’s important to know that there are no perfect guys. No matter how friendly he is, I promise he’s got his own set of issues.

      With that said, the fact that he de-friended you on Facebook isn’t too promising. By reading around some more, you’ll see that I’m not a big fan of Facebook when it comes to dating and relationships.

      But, if he added you, then deleted you, it could have just been an honest mistake on his part. I’ve accidentally deleted people when cleaning out my friends list.

      The only way for you to really find out where he stands with you right now is to suck it up and . Follow that link, and you’ll find a basic outline in how to go about this, as well as how you should act when you’re around him.

      • Ava May 13, 2013 at 9:43 pm #

        Dear Chris,

        Ok so I am pretty sure this guy in my class likes me, but not totally sure. He always stares and smiles at me. Today, we were taking a quiz and he starts looking at me and then he takes out his eraser, pretends its a gun, and starts fake shooting me. Don’t judge cause I’m only in fifth grade. He also pretends he likes this girl Sophia but he never talks to her or stares at her. I really like him, and I’m dying to know if he likes me… please help.


    • ashlee July 16, 2013 at 9:57 pm #

      hey so there’s this guy I kinda like but I don’t know if he likes me back. he offered to give me a hug……. but all of my friends tell me he likes me but his best friend says he doesn’t like who should I belive

  2. Jane February 27, 2013 at 4:06 pm #

    Hi I’ve been seeing this guy for a little while but it’s always just been a physical thing. When we’re together though it feels as though he likes me and wants more. I’m kind of confused.

    • Chris March 4, 2013 at 9:52 am #

      If you want more, then it would probably be safe to pursue it.

      Otherwise, you need to make it known to him that it is purely physical for you. Guys can let their brains look too much into things sometimes, and we need someone to bring us back down to earth.

  3. Ariel March 4, 2013 at 8:14 pm #

    Hello Chris,
    So umm i like this guy in my class, and i cant tell if he likes me back…. I caught him staring at me today, but then in broke it off cause i feel like he will think im weird. Anyways he always stands close to me when we get up in class. One time he waited for me before class just to say hi to me. I really want to know if he likes me because he’s really cute, so if you could please help me!! Thank you :)

    • Chris March 5, 2013 at 8:53 am #

      Based on what you’ve said, the guy sounds like he’s interested in you.

      If he didn’t, he wouldn’t be throwing out those signs.

    • Paloma April 29, 2013 at 11:35 pm #

      That happened to me to its a sing that he totally likes u and the guy did ask me out so that guy u like could ask u out but let it take some time k bye

  4. Mary March 8, 2013 at 6:43 am #

    So there’s this guy, I like him, he likes me. But he doesn’t know I know (I think). He hasn’t made a move or anything. So I have no clam to him what so ever. We text late into the night, talking about random stuff, sometimes well most time he falls asleep. But now my friend is hitting on him. She even said that if I didn’t date him, she would…Is there something I should do? Or just leave it up to him to say something?

    • Chris March 19, 2013 at 8:53 am #

      Hey Mary,

      If he’s texting you late into the night, that’s usually a pretty good indicator that he has some sort of feelings for you. Just try to veer away from overtly sexual conversations, because if things get too sexual, he’ll be more likely to view your conversations as a potential hook up. Stay lady like with him, and have fun flirting.

      If things are going to progress, he’ll move them along.


      • Mary July 29, 2013 at 10:16 am #

        Hey again, I took your advise, and it helped heaps…But now there is a problem and I have no idea how to move on….like you said I waited for him to make progress, we went on a date and it went really well. But then two-three weeks later he dropped all contact between us. He never replied to me or answer, now he is going out of his way so he wont run into me! the last time we talked was in April…I’m really hurt by what he has done, Did I do something wrong? I don’t normally trust people, but I trusted him and now I’m left hurt and sad. Should I confront him, or some how move on?

  5. Rebecca March 8, 2013 at 12:09 pm #

    Hi. I work in fashion and at my work place are a couple of very flirty guys. I’ve noticed something going on. When the more flirty guy is not at work, the other guy asks me questions “what have you done with him – I’m sure you two have met up after work!” and so on.
    When the more flirty guy turns up for work, I get compliments on my clothing “When I see you, I am so happy… You in that dress! WOW!” and more recently “How can I do my work when you and your clothes distract me??” I responded with “Well, there’s nothing I can do about that! Haha!” He then got a bit worried and asked “Are we still friends?” “Of course we are still friends” I said, and then finished off the conversation with “that’s ok then!”
    He also took a lot of interest in my friends and to what happened between me and a male friend. Convinced my male friend and I were an item, he began to ask in-depth questions about it. I got annoyed and said persistently “Let me tell you something, i’m still single!” He then said “Ok, well, I will leave you alone then!” “I know you won’t” I said. That’s when he laughed his head off….
    Also he offered several times to ‘warm me up!’ What is going on?!

    • Chris March 19, 2013 at 8:58 am #

      Hey Rebecca,

      It sounds like he likes you, but for some reason he’s having trouble getting past the flirting stages. There could be several reasons for this, but more than likely he feels inadequate next to your other male friends.

      Continue the flirting, and feel free to open up a bit more with him. Just keep it light and funny, and stress the fact that you’re single, and not hooking up with other guys. This should put him at ease.

      Then, the ball is in his court.

      Good luck!


  6. Iris March 8, 2013 at 7:24 pm #

    Hi Chris,

    If a guy leaves u a note saying “I love u but I hate u.” what does that mean? thank you.:)

    • Chris March 19, 2013 at 9:00 am #


      This sounds like harmless flirting of the push and pull variety. Some guys will bring pull you in with their words, and then suddenly push you away with their words, leaving you wanting more.

      If done right, they’re not trying to be mean. They’re just flirting with you.

  7. Scarlet March 8, 2013 at 11:29 pm #

    Well I just want to know if this guy likes me or its playing around because thats the way he is. He is funny, outgoing, confident. There are times when he ignores me and acts like whatever but there are times when he constantly says my name for everything and we do have kinda awkward moments. Sometimes he acts too silly and sings songs and mentions my name in them but he is funny around others, he overreacts with me. Also when we are in a group he acts crazy and funny but when we are alone he gets serious. The other day I walked to where he was with his friend and some girl and he just picked on me I didn’t laugh which I think he was trying to be funny , he said sorry then he said something sweet in spanish like “mi amor” .. ( he is american and I am spanish) . Anyways after he just started saying my name like always such as ” whats up scarlet? “. Its a little weird but I don’t mind because I think he is cute :-) . My point is I am still not sure because he is friendly with girls and very respectful so I don’t know if its just me thinking nonsense.

    • Chris March 19, 2013 at 9:06 am #

      Hey Scarlet,

      Most likely this isn’t nonsense.

      All of the qualities you described to me shows that he is actually a really good guy. Make sure you keep flirting with him!

      Try to spend a bit more personal time with him too. If all you two ever do is hang out with a group, it won’t give you a chance to know each other on a personal level.

      Again, stay light and funny with him, but don’t be afraid to get serious with him at times either.

      Good luck!

  8. Mel March 9, 2013 at 9:20 am #

    Hi Chris,

    Can I pick your expert brain please?!

    I fancy a guy at work (we’ve never seen each other socially). I think he’s a confident type. We flirt well I think we do! We sometimes have a very intense eye contact. He is always teasing me! Always! Occasionally I catch him looking at me but he’s based in an office where he can’t help but look at people walking by! I did invite him out on a group thing recently but he let me down last minute! Is he at all interested do you think or am I being played like a piano? Lol


    • Chris March 19, 2013 at 9:11 am #

      Hey Mel,

      He’s definitely interested.

      He may have let you down on the group thing for a legit reason. You can try again, but if he declines again, I wouldn’t push the issue anymore.

      After that, it’s up to him to make plans with you.

      • Mel April 23, 2013 at 3:45 pm #

        Hi Chris,

        Thanks for your advice. All of the above are still there and there have been a few other things recently like, he’s contacted me on our internal bleep system apparently responded to bleeps I never sent! He’s appeared in places I’ve been for no real reason and that eye contact, oh the eye contact lol. Thing is I’m leaving very soon (I’ll be back but I’m leaving for a while) when i said how quiet itd be without me he said “thats not necessarily a good thing” (what sort of a comment is that lol) I’ve invited him to the leaving party, guess what…… He’s seeing family that day! I won’t ask again!
        I don’t get it though! If he was interested wouldn’t he be there?
        Thanks for listening to my ramblings :-)

    • ashlee July 16, 2013 at 10:03 pm #

      he totally likes you maybe he didn’t go to the group thing because it sounds like he was nervous. you guys should totally still flrit

  9. Rainbow March 11, 2013 at 11:44 pm #

    Hey Chris. This guy and I have been friends for a while and we went on a group trip to Blue Man Group. He was throwing me TONS of signs (taking me somewhere private to buy coffee, keeping his arm wrapped around me, imitating little things I did and acting nervous. Even inviting me to let him show me around the city and meet his friends!) but the next day in school he was hesitant and was the first to leave our conversation. We were texting all weekend and had great chemistry but now I’m afraid that I might be annoying him! He leaves for an exchange program in France soon and I’m worried that we might grow apart! Was the day we spent together just something I dreamt up or has he lost interest in me so quickly?

    • Chris March 19, 2013 at 9:16 am #

      Good question…

      More than likely, you didn’t dream anything up. From what you told me, he seems to be throwing out all of the signs to you, and at this point I would usually think it was a sealed deal.

      Guys aren’t very flighty usually, so it’s hard to believe that he changed his mind about you so quickly.

      Maybe the realization that he’s going to France soon is bothering him, so he’s worried about becoming attached to you? You might want to invite him out somewhere for coffee or lunch and just catch up with him.

      Pay attention to his signals, and you can get a good idea where he is coming from.

      Best of luck,


    • ashlee July 16, 2013 at 10:06 pm #

      maybe he was scared I mean if he was all lovey dovey with you and a whole different person @ school he was scared

  10. Delaina Johnson March 12, 2013 at 6:47 pm #

    I’ve had this crush on this guy for at least 16 years and am 20 and hes 25(finally the 5 year gap looks better than a 16 year old and 21 year old or 11 year old and 16 year old) . We recently started working together and very closely and he has been sending me these signals as if he has intrest in me he has asked me to lunch with a group of his friends, he has offered to buy me lunch, he touches my hand and neck and shoulders. When we cook at work he will fix a plate for me and bring it to me. He will sit right beside me, one time he has even laid his legs across my lap. He saw me filling out a job application and said he hopes am not leaving him. He brought up past things i used to do when i was crushing on him as a young girl but he never refered to those times as if he knew i was crushing on him. He mom jokes and calls me her daughter-in-law but she does that with any woman that shows intrest in him or looks at him to long hahaha. He keeps me laughing all day and when i burned my finger he tried to make sure i was okay. I am worried that because i was crushing so long maybe am reading to much into it or maybe he is just being friendly because i dont really see how he acts around other girls. SN: My phone died and he was worried about me and texted me when i got it charged. He is shy but acts different around me but he said hes comfortable around girls doe AM SO CONFUSED!!!!!!! OVERTHINKING!!!

    • Chris March 19, 2013 at 9:20 am #


      Stop over thinking so much! This guy likes you!

      Now, the only thing YOU have to do is make sure he likes you in the right way. Don’t act like his little sister, or else you’re setting up a brotherly relationship.

      FLIRT WITH HIM. Not too heavily, but make sure he knows that you are a woman that likes men, and make sure he realizes that he is a man you may be interested in.

      He’s throwing out signals, so make sure you do the same.

      AND RELAX! Haha.

      • Delaina March 19, 2013 at 10:00 am #

        Thanks so much n he does like me I followed your advice n he came out n told me!!

  11. C March 14, 2013 at 12:38 am #

    Hi Chris
    So I have made friends with man and have known eachother a year now. He is popular amongst our group. We text eachother at least everyother day some go quite long and do get flirty on occassion. He does look at me often in group gatherings and always makes a point to touch me when he can. I honestly cannot tell if he is just very friendly or attracted. Recently we were picking on one another via text and joking around like always but he seemed to have stopped in the middle of it and made it a point to say he was only teasing and that he hoped I knew he thought the world of me? So I’m confused if I’m just a friend to him or is he thinking more?

    • Chris March 19, 2013 at 9:23 am #

      This looks to be a classic case of him liking you.

      I would suggest moving away from texts and paying attention to your personal interactions with him more. You can learn much more about a guy from how he acts.

      Watch him while he’s around you. If he likes you, he won’t have to even say a word, because you’ll know by his body language and mannerisms.

  12. Lindsey March 15, 2013 at 8:36 pm #

    Hi Chris! Just found your site and I love it :)
    There is this guy at my high school– he is a freshman and I am a senior, and he is one of those guys that is quiet around people, but is comfortable with his friends. He can talk to guys and girls fairly easily. We hang out after school most days, since we are the only ones left so that’s how I got to know him. When we talk he never sits next to me, but across. I like him, but I’m usually the one asking questions and talking, but sometimes he does as well and laughs. Whenever I am with him he always does two things that he doesn’t do around his friends: he swirls around in his chair sometimes and always runs his fingers though his hair. He also forgets a lot of things I say, and gets embarrassed when he does. Also when I ask him a simple question sometimes he’ll take several seconds to answer, doesn’t hold my stares, etc. Does he not like me, or is he just nervous? I can’t tell

    • Chris March 19, 2013 at 9:28 am #

      Hey Lindsey,

      First of all, glad you like the site!

      Now about your guy problems, I’m not so sure you have anything to be worried about.

      If I was a freshman in high school, and a senior started flirting with me, I’d be nervous too. In high school, age and status is everything. He’s probably trying to figure out why a senior is even talking to him. Make sure you make him realize that you’re interested in him.

      You may have to get straightforward with him, because as a younger guy, he may not be too great on picking up your signals yet.

      But yeah, he’s just nervous, so don’t worry about him no being interested.


  13. lisa March 19, 2013 at 2:29 pm #

    Hey Chris, So I just made friends with this guy, we have only been friends for 4-5 months. We hangout with our group of friends.We always insult each other non stop and we are both very sarcastic. He will always be sitting next to me and wrap his arms around me and will poke me and touch me, but I can’t tell if he likes me or not. He’s a super picky guy when it comes to girls but we like all the same music and we have the same sense of humor and he always laughs at my jokes more then any of our other friends. He always tells me that he has a hard time liking people (like more then a friend). I can’t tell if he actually likes me or what.

    • Chris March 19, 2013 at 3:36 pm #

      It sounds like he likes you.

      You may want to be careful though. It’s fine to pick on each other, but you should never let it get to the point where it’s more like a brother and sister relationship. It’s important to let him know that you are a girl that likes men as more than good friends. If you act too much like his buddy, he may start seeing you as a buddy, and we don’t want that.

      So, whenever you’re picking on each other, make sure you bring some sexual tension into it. I’m not saying throw yourself at him, because if you’ve not noticed I’m big on waiting until marriage for sex. But there is no harm in a little sexually tensed banter. This drives guys wild.

      Best of luck!

  14. Noa March 23, 2013 at 1:21 pm #

    Hey Chris,
    I’m in high school and there are a guy in my class that seemed to like me but now I’m not sure. He is the annoying type of guy who picks on me constantly (imitates me when I laugh or sneeze – I have this little sneeze and it’s funny, he sometimes stares at me to get me to notice him and when I notice him staring I laugh). Recently, we’ve been in a school trip and many girls from my class have decided that he is very good looking and were “all over him” for a couple of days. He corporated with them but still was nice to me and picked on me – he beats me – but not in a hurtful way.(I was mad at him for no reason because I was jealous so I tried to avoid him but I was still very nice to him). When my friend was cold he gave her his scarf and he said bye just to her with a big smile on his face when we got out of the bus eventhough we were walking together! (he ignored me) So I have no idea what to think. I’m 17 by the way. Thank you

    • Chris March 25, 2013 at 9:06 am #

      Hey Noa,

      This is a great question, and to be honest, these are the guys you really need to watch out with.

      It sounds like he is pretty flirtatious. If he was just this way with you, I wouldn’t see any problem with it. But he’s obviously enjoying the attention from other girls too.

      This by itself isn’t bad, because you and him aren’t dating or anything. If you want the challenge, you could probably start flirting with him more to see where it leads. It could go somewhere more serious.

      Just remember, the fun and games is a great way to get the initial attraction started, but you also need to build some tension with him. This is where the real attraction comes into play.

      After things escalate with you two, make sure you continue to pay attention to his behavior with other girls.

      If he is still flirting with them after you and him get more serious, this is a good indicator that he’s probably not the sort of guy you should be dating.

      I also love to flirt with all kinds of women, but when things start getting serious between me and someone in particular, I tend to concentrate on them. If he does this, it’s safe to say that he’s more concerned with his relationship with you, and at this point you can probably start forming a real relationship without worry.

      Hope this helps!

  15. Anna March 23, 2013 at 7:44 pm #

    I’m not sure is it me or is he looking at me everytime we are together. We used to be friends but i don’t know what happend and we drifted apart until i started to catch him sometimes looking at my way. My close friend also notices that he looks my way when i’m busy. When he is with his friends they kinda look at me in a different way. When we’re together we don’t really speak. I’m confused whether is it just me or something else…

    • Chris March 25, 2013 at 9:14 am #

      Hey Anna,

      This is tricky. He could have stopped talking to you for many reasons.

      Really what it comes down to is this- when you were friends, did he ever give you any indication that he might like you as something more?

      If he did, he could have pulled away from you in order for you to stop seeing him as friend material, and to start seeing him as something more. This is a classic move a lot of guys that are stuck in the friend zone use, and sometimes it works for them.

      Think about how he acted when you two were friends. If he never acted like he wanted anything more, he may have just gotten upset with you about something and pulled away.

      However, if he acted like he always liked you in a romantic sort of way, it’s possible that he pulled away so you would have the chance to stop seeing him as a friend and start seeing him as something more.

      If you need anymore advice, feel free to follow up with me!

      • Anna March 26, 2013 at 9:04 pm #

        In the past he just ask if i had a boyfriend or not in some of our conversation. Does that count as anything?

        • Chris March 29, 2013 at 9:01 am #

          Hey Anna,

          Most of the time, when a guy asks if you have a boyfriend, it’s because he wants to know if the position is taking applications.


          • Anna March 29, 2013 at 9:05 am #

            Thanks you for the advice Chris

          • Chris March 29, 2013 at 10:08 am #


  16. Hannah March 25, 2013 at 8:50 am #

    Hello there Chris.

    I’ve been speaking to this guy from my Psychology class since late saturday night after he passed me a note in class expressing that he loves the webcomic mentioned on my bag. I’ve been speaking to him via facebook and text. Then on the sunday we met up and I spent the whole day with him and his close female friend. He walked me all the way home from his house and trust me, its pretty far! We talked the whole way and on the way he brought some expensive sweets for us to share, which he gave me when he left. As soon as he left he started texting me!
    We texted each other until 3am even though he had school today, which is now cancelled due to snow. He’s STILL texting me.
    Do you think he likes me?

    • Chris March 25, 2013 at 9:18 am #

      Hey Hannah!

      This one is clear cut.

      If this guy is putting this much effort into talking to you this much, there is no question that he likes you.

      If you like him, go ahead and start building more attraction with him to see where things lead. I have a feeling that you’ll be happy with the results!

      Best of luck!

      • Jaclyn March 25, 2013 at 4:56 pm #

        There this guy in my class and a couple times I saw him looking my way sometimes when I look back he’ll turn or I’ll smile n he will smile back or just act like he didnt see me sometimes we talk but most of the time we don’t I don’t know if it’s because we never get a chance or it’s because he doesn’t like me people keep asking me if I like him then I found out that some of them are friends with him plus my friends say that he was flirting with me but I don’t see it sometimes I feel like he likes me sometimes it just friends n sometimes I feel like I’m just another person in his class then we started talking alittle but it was always for only a couple seconds to a couple minutes it never really lasted is it because we had to get to class or he just doesn’t like me also ever since I found out he has a girlfriend in another school we haven’t talked as much could it be because I didn’t try or doesn’t want to talk to me I can’t figure him out but I really like him I really want to know if he likes me what should I do n my friend said to get his number n txt him then see how that goes but how can I get his number I never had to do that before usually a guy would just ask me I never had to ask him what should I do n how can I talk to him more

        Please help me and give me advice on what to do and does he like me or how can I find out

        • Chris March 26, 2013 at 11:46 am #

          In this case, I’m not really thinking that he’s got a crush on you.

          At first I thought he may just be shy with you, but then you told me he had a girlfriend in another school. This raises a major red flag.

          If he’s not talking to you as much, it’s probably because he has a girlfriend now. If it’s a newer relationship, he’s in the honeymoon stage with her, and the likelihood of you breaking him away from that is low.

          Back off of him for awhile. Don’t worry so much about whether a guy likes you! It’s nothing to worry about.

          Wait and see how he and his girlfriend work out, and if they don’t, you can start flirting with him. Flirting is important. By flirting with him, you are showing him that you are interested in him, and then he will be more comfortable with flirting with you.

          Eye contact and casual conversation are good, but you can’t get a relationship out of those. It’s important to take things to the next level!

      • Hannah March 25, 2013 at 9:31 pm #

        Thank you so much Chris! I hope he does like me. We’ve been talking all day again and it’s been a pretty fun one! Nothing will probably happen for a while since he’s… quite obsessed with being Gentlemanly xD But at least things seem to be moving forward!

        Thank you very much :)

        • Chris March 26, 2013 at 11:47 am #

          Not a problem!

          Keep us posted on how it goes!

  17. Slumpy Justice March 26, 2013 at 12:33 am #

    Hey Chris,

    There is a guy who would flirt constantly with me, but Deny it as soon as I brought up to him, and the thing is he started dating a friend of mine a year ago on st. Patrick’s day, and he still flirts with me. The guy friend of mine is bi, I a transgender MTF, who is 4 years younge r than him,(he 21 and I 18 and the friend, she is 20), and the friend he is acting is a genetic chick, and I was wondering why he would flirt with me? I mean its not the innocent flirt, but the flirting that is considered cheating, like he touches my “turn on spots” frequently, I know I should leave immediately but, I love him, honest to the goddess(or god depends on what you believe in) I do, and I’ve tried leaving before, but when I do try, I feel like I’m half alive, and we almost split ways when we got into an argument about something, I told him my heart was broken by the fight.. He said his should be instead, he sends mixed signals to both me and the other friend.

    • Chris March 26, 2013 at 12:02 pm #

      First of all, let me say that we need to redefine love for you.

      Contrary to anything you’ve watched, and contrary to any novel you’ve read, love is not a feeling. You say that when you try leaving him, you feel half alive. This isn’t due to love, it’s due to separation anxiety. He is a drug for your brain.

      For Example:

      I used to smoke. I knew it was bad for me, but I liked it. When I quit, I felt dead for 3 weeks. This led me to believe I needed cigarettes in order to be happy. But after a little while longer, I started feeling better about not smoking.

      Now, 3 months later, I look back and say “why would I ever do that to my body?”

      This relationship you’re in isn’t healthy. You may have strong feelings for him, but I promise you, he doesn’t have those feelings for you.

      When you realize that love is a choice, and not an emotion, it’s much easier to break away from someone who gives you this “artificial” love.

  18. Loui March 26, 2013 at 5:04 am #

    Hi Chris,

    There’s a guy in the class above me that I’ve had a crush on for a while. I often catch him looking at me through the corner of my eye. When I return the gaze, he’ll sometimes turn away, but at other times he’ll stare a little longer until I look away. This afternoon I noticed him saying something to his friends, then pointing. This resulted in a group of people staring at me from across a room, and a very confused me. I was thinking “omg he knows” but I’m still not sure. When I started liking him, I wasnt 100% sure on his name, so I asked him. He then proceeded to ‘play games’ like playfully refusing to tell me his name, but he doesnt do this to others. Furthermore, I dont know him. A mutual friend suggested that he looks at me a lot when my back is turned. I really want to talk to him, but I’m afraid of embaressing him, or worse, getting brushed off

    I dont know whether he likes me or is just trying to make hate him?

    • Chris March 29, 2013 at 9:59 am #

      The best thing you can do is get to know him better. Flirt with him! Play with him (not like that pervert, haha)!

      You need to talk to the guy. If both of you just sit around glancing at each other, nothing will ever take place between you.

      So, flirt with the boy. If he flirts back, then you flirt more. Eventually, you’ll both know you like each other, and you can date.

      Best of luck!

  19. Madiluvsboyz March 26, 2013 at 8:03 am #

    Hey chris !
    Well there’s this guy at my high school and he acts like a player but I’ve known him since he was the slightly chubby kid in grade 6. He’s a nice guy and I’m not really sure if he likes me. I mean in classes we sit next to each other because I just arrived at his high school an he was all friendly the first day so we sit next to each other. Well lately when I’ve sat next to him he’s brushed his leg against mine and then kept it there and even leave I a bit against my leg. I pretend not to notice fully and he’s fine with physical contact but its really weird because he asks me randomly why did u call me babe and stuff like that when I tr to test the limits. He’s really nice to me but is a real jerk when other guys come around and he ignores other girls. I’m wondering if he likes me and if I’m possibly friend zoned. I mean he swore hi head off and cheered me up when I broke up with my ex called coincidently chris but the guy sends me friend signals and potential interest signals. Thanx Xx

    • Chris March 29, 2013 at 10:08 am #

      The only way this guy will friend zone you is if you’ve been friends with him for so long that you’re like his little sister.

      Here’s a secret… I used to be chubby. Maybe even a bit fat.

      As a result, I had barely any self esteem with women.

      But, as I got older I started lifting weights, and got in shape.

      You know what’s funny? Even though I was in shape, I still sucked at flirting with girls. I had lost weight on the outside, but on the inside I was still the chubby kid who couldn’t get a girlfriend.

      It’s possible that this guy may have the same issue. If you want this guy to potentially date you, you need to really drive home the fact that you think he’s attractive, and that you’re open to seeing where things lead.

      If this guy isn’t use to being good looking, he probably has no idea that he is. Make sure you are acting like an interested girl, and not like his little sister.

      *Note: If you find a good looking man that doesn’t know he’s good looking, you’ve found a keeper.

  20. marian March 26, 2013 at 12:42 pm #

    ok, so, he texts me every couple days, checks up on me, asks me to hang out, etc. however, i usually pay for my own meals when we go out. his body language doesn’t say he’s interested at all, but, why would he be asking to hang out 3 or 4 times a week if he isn’t? it’s been about 2 months and he’s yet to make a move. i’m in the friend zone, aren’t i?

    • Chris March 29, 2013 at 9:00 am #


      Normally I’d say you’re in the friend zone, but guys aren’t really notorious for that. The only case in which I’ve ever put a girl in the friend zone was because I liked her friend, and it was a way to get to know her friend.

      If he’s not throwing out any signs, that could be an indicator that he just wants to be friends. BUT, that’s not the end of it.

      There is a very good chance that this guy you’ve been spending time with is just completely clueless about how to flirt, or show attraction. There are tons of these guys out there, especially today.

      If he does like you, and just doesn’t know how to show it, he will most likely give you the “how he feels about you” speech soon. It’s up to you how you respond to him.

      I would say as long as you like his company, to keep going out with him. But if you get to the point where you don’t want to see him, it’s best to just make a clean break.

      Hope everything works out!

  21. Nelly March 26, 2013 at 9:18 pm #

    I’ve always kind of felt like me and this guy had some connection, we’re kind of weird about it though. & I’m not sure if I’m over thinking it. There’s a lot of glances between the two of us at school. I hung out with his friend Christian and my best friend yesterday and in the middle of having a conversation about some guy with the same name, his friend randomly asked me if I would go with my crush to prom (he doesn’t know I like his friend) cause he didn’t have a date, but we was giving me this look and smile while asking, I got nervous and didn’t answer. Christian said he asked because my crush didn’t have a date & was wondering if I would. Which I thought was unusual. He’ll walk past me & bump me or throw something at me or mess with me & I’ll be hanging out with my crush in 7th pd & I’ll mess with him and untie his shoe or mess with something and he’ll grab my hand to pull it away and he kind of turns it into holding it, we just won’t let go, just kind of touch and mess with each other’s hands. The way he smiles at me really convinces me sometimes but I don’t really know what to think about it. My confusion is when his friend Christian tells me stuff like “oh, he’s just like that” ‘m also pretty sure he has a thing for me so I don’t know if he’s lying to keep me from my crush or he’s serious. I just don’t wanna over think and embarrass myself. I don’t know if my crush is into me or is just friendly. Any input would help. Thanks in advance!

    • Chris March 29, 2013 at 9:10 am #


      From experience, never rely on a mutual friend to tell you when someone likes you.

      It usually never ends well.

      I would tell you to stop spending so much time with this guy’s friend, and to start spending more time with him.

      Based off of everything you’ve told me, I’m going to say that this guy likes you, even though his friend says he’s just like that.

      It’s true, he may just be a really flirty guy. I’m a really flirty guy too. But, I still only flirt with girls that I find attractive, or am at least interested in. So it’s probably safe for you to start flirting with him more.

  22. Tori March 26, 2013 at 9:52 pm #

    I was wondering if this guy likes me. When we first met he would always talk to me and give me high fives and one day he asked for a ride home after school and I gave him one and he asked for me to give him a ride again. But then we kind of stopped talking. We have the same group of friends and I dont know why but he will not make eye contact with me and when he does its very short. He also flirt with girls that sitting next to me. But there are also times when we talks to me nonstop I don’t really even get a word in to talk. One day I was playing tennis and he screamed my name from the parking lot and waved, all his friends smiled at him and were laughing/talking to him. Im very confused! Please help!

    • Chris March 29, 2013 at 10:11 am #

      Hey Tori,

      This is really straight forward. Even though the eye contact thing is shoddy, this guy likes you. He’s flirting with other girls because he’s trying to make you jealous.

      All of the rest are signs that he likes you, but he may have backed off because he wasn’t sure that you felt the same way.

      If you do like him, flirt with him and let him know it’s okay for him to like you.

      Hope this helps!

  23. Lex March 27, 2013 at 9:11 pm #

    Hey Chris,

    There’s this guy I like, and he acts like he likes me, eye contact, body language, and the like, but he refuses physical contact. Even if you touch his shoulder during a conversation he’ll freak out and jump back. Is he just weirdly shy or is it something else? Thanks(:

    • Chris March 29, 2013 at 10:14 am #

      It’s hard to tell. Depending on people’s past, sometimes they just have real problems getting used to physical contact.

      Ease into it with him, and make sure he’s comfortable.

      Oh, and NEVER call him out for being jumpy at physical touch. This will just cause him more discomfort, and that’s not what you want.

      Hope he relaxes a little bit!

  24. Lin March 28, 2013 at 2:12 am #

    So there’s this guy I like. He’s a bit more than a year younger than me and he’s a relative of a friend of the family. I’ve known him forever, we kind of grew up together sort of – seeing each other at holidays and things like that. His mom has always been wanting me to go out with him, but its only more recently that I’ve starting feeling attracted to him. Everyone says we flirt. I guess I always thought we were being friendly… I’m not good at picking up on the flirting thing even when, apparently, I’m doing it. But he does the teasing thing and the eye contact thing and the touching thing (not hugging or like that close, but he’s gotten more physically close than when we were younger) and if we’re at a family gathering we’ll typically sit together. It seems like he likes me, but I guess I still have doubts since we’ve known each other for so long. Every time I think it seems like he likes me, the thought pops into my head that maybe he sees me as like a cousin or something – even though we aren’t really. But then if everyone is constantly teasing us for flirting with each other then there must be something to it? I don’t know, I feel like it would be a lot less complicated if he wasn’t a relative of a friend of the family. I’m not afraid of pursuing something with him cause his family is friends with my parents (I know his cousins and aunts and uncles and everything), but it’s just getting over that hurdle that is proving difficult and bothersome. Any advice for a situation like this?

    • Chris March 29, 2013 at 10:21 am #

      Hey Lin,

      I think it would be safe for you to ratchet up the flirting with him. Just because you’ve known him for a long time doesn’t mean you can’t date.

      Length of time knowing someone doesn’t put you in the friend zone. Closeness with someone does. If you have been emotionally close to this guy for several years, he may see you as a sister or cousin.

      But if you aren’t really close all the time, and only see each other on occasion, I would say that you could pursue something more with him.

      If he’s doing the touchy feely stuff, but you’re afraid he sees you as a cousin, just remember this:

      No guy is going to constantly be touching his cousin or sister unless he’s a weirdo. Haha. It just doesn’t happen like that.

      Hugs are one thing, but if he is playfully touching you, he’s not looking at you as if you’re his cousin.

      SO, I see no problem here. I actually think this could lead to an awesome relationship based on what you told me, and who knows after that?

      Good luck!

      • Lin April 6, 2013 at 1:24 am #

        Just wanted to say thanks for the advice! What you said definitely makes sense!
        Me and him aren’t really close all the time, we see each other on holidays or other parties like Superbowl Sunday, things like that. So it’s just every once in a while. But I’m going to be seeing him a couple of times this month, so I’ll definitely try taking the flirting up a notch. :)

        Thanks again, and kudos for answering everyone’s comments. You have a really helpful site

  25. ariel March 29, 2013 at 3:12 am #

    there’s this guy in my class and he’s really funny and outgoing the complete opposite of me. whenever we talk he always tries to make me laugh with corny jokes and these girls next to us thought he was flirting but I wasn’t sure and he seems to always get into my personal space but we only have one class together so I don’t now if he’s just like that with everyone.II try to respond and laugh at his jokes but I don’t really know where to go from there.Do you think he might like me?

    • Chris March 29, 2013 at 10:24 am #

      Hey Ariel,

      Yeah, this guy likes you. Just relax! Smart off to him sometimes, laugh at him, and playfully shove his arm when he makes you laugh.

      Flirting is supposed to be fun, so don’t sit there and worry about what you should say or do. Because most of the time, when you do that, you usually end up not saying or doing anything!

      Hope everything works out!

  26. Chesney March 29, 2013 at 10:08 pm #

    Hey, I’m 14 and crushing on a 17 yer old… I NEED HELP! I went to a club like 5 weeks ago and ended up seeing this REALLY CUTE guy there but I didn’t talk to him, but the 3 hours I was there we kept making eye contact like non-stop. But later that night I thought after I left that club I would never see him again… I was WRONG! The week after that I went to the gym to work out with my friend Stefanie and he WALKED IN! I immediately recognized him.. I could already feel that I was blushing so I asked stef if he was looking at me and she said yeah but how do you know him? Then I told her the whole story, so she knows everything. I see this boy everyday except Saturday and Sunday, btw I only see him when I go to the gym at 6. Anyways, we look at each other all the time no matter what! ill be on the other side of the gym and somehow his eyes will always find ME! But just the other day stef and me just happend to walk into this like stretching part of the gym & he was there with his friend. But once they were done his friend got up and walked out but he waited behind for a min or two but he was standing up and I was sitting down & once I looked up our eyes met and something. Just clicked like I fell for him even more! But we do NOT talk in person ever! I’ve never talked to him and neither has Stefanie but she claims that he texts her all the time but I don’t know if she’s lying or not… She’s just that type of person. But he doesn’t text me :/ I just want to know if he likes me or not?. If you want more details just ask and ill tell you even more. BTW he’s way shy, and like you said if the boy is shy the girl will have to make the move… Thing is I’m way shy too! Ugh the struggle.. Anyways help please?.?.

    • Chesney March 29, 2013 at 10:08 pm #


    • Chris April 1, 2013 at 10:39 am #

      Hey there!

      It’s hard to say whether he likes you or not.

      I think he finds you attractive, but men need more than looks to figure out if they like you.

      For example:

      I may walk into a mall and see a woman who I think is the pretties thing ever. But, unless she talks to me or I talk to her, nothing will ever happen.

      If he’s making eye contact with you on a regular basis, chances are if you want to approach him you can. Watch how he acts around you a bit more.

      Talking to someone you like is hard for both guys and girls, but if you ever want anything to happen, somebody has to make the first move!

      Let me know how things go!

    • Annalise May 11, 2013 at 8:11 am #

      Coming from a 14 year old that dated a 17 year old its not that bad just what they are ready for and what you may be ready for can be different, that was the ended in our relationship so be careful he’s not some hump and dump

  27. Liz March 30, 2013 at 5:30 pm #

    Known this guy for about 10 months, we spend a lot of time together. I told him about 3 months in that I “liked” him, and he said he didn’t have time for a relationship and he felt he was not a good enough person for me. Since then we have got closer and closer, we have dinner at least once a week if not more, really deep conversations and do a lot of things couples do together. So I do wonder what is going on. Here are a few of the things (amongst many) I have observed:

    He doesn’t touch me per se, but if we are out, he has a habit of walking very close to me and bumping in to me, or if we are sitting opposite each other he will wiggle his knee so he accidentally touches me. He hugs most of his other friends who are girls but never hugs me. I called him a ‘lady coward’ one day, just teasing him, and he immediately said that he was not and was forward with women he liked and then went very thoughtful.

    He teases me all the time, and slyly grins when I get irritated. He invites himself along to some things I do with mutual friends says he will only stay to say hi, and then ends up staying for hours. We go clothes shopping for him and he actually listens to what I say. He says how hot other women are.

    I just don’t know if he is really shy, if he is, is he ever going to do anything or I should cut and run now? Thanks, a male opinion would be great, all of my friends are girls!

    • Chris April 1, 2013 at 10:51 am #

      Hey Liz,

      This is odd.

      To be honest, if the roles were reversed, I would say you’re in the friend zone. BUT, guys usually don’t make a habit of having close friends that are girls, so I’m not going to go there yet.

      It might be weird to him, but you need to try flirting if you don’t already. If he responds with flirting back, then you should be safe to keep going.

      If he laughs it off and treats you like a sister, or gets weirded out by it, it’s probably safe to say that he only sees you as a friend, and nothing more. Why would he only see you as a friend?

      Well, has he ever had any girlfriends that you know of? If not, then you might want to consider the idea that he may be gay. I know of other girls this has happened to, and it happens pretty often.

      If he has dated girls, then somehow you ended up in the friend zone. If you REALLY still want to be with him, the best thing to do in this case is to make yourself disappear for awhile. Let him miss you! Afterwards, when you see him again, make sure you act like a woman that he should be interested in, and not like the sister he hasn’t seen in ages.

      Keep me updated on this!

  28. Andrea March 31, 2013 at 1:42 pm #

    I like one of my best friends, and we just started to get close these past few months. he runs an extracurricular club I go to every week, and usually we hang out in his room for a couple of ours afterwards. he’s incredible sweet and understanding, but he’s so guarded about things it’s hard to understand how he feels. he does lots of cute things like bringing me my favorite candy when he knows he’ll see me, and he drew me a poster over our spring break. when I make physical contact with him, he reciprocates, but I think anyone would in the situation. All of my friends think he likes me, they say there is something about the way that he looks at me, but I’m not so convinced. I don’t have much confidence in myself as far as getting the guy goes, and most men aren’t attracted to bigger women. I want to tell him how I feel, but I’m not sure if I should, because if he doesn’t feel the same way, I could very easily lose him as my best friend, and the thought of that truly hurts. Do you have any advice on how I should proceed? should I let him know how I’m feeling, or keep on acting like I’m just a friend to him? there is a formal dance coming up in my sorority, and I was debating on whether or not I should ask him, needless to say I’m very confused. Any input would be much appreciated

    • Chris April 1, 2013 at 1:14 pm #

      Hey Andrea,

      First of all, I want to tell you personally, DON’T be self-conscious about your looks. Do you want to know a secret?

      It doesn’t matter what size you are. Now, don’t take that as me saying looks don’t matter; they definitely do. But, as long as you take care of yourself, and keep up your appearance, that’s what matters.

      About this guy, do you flirt with him at all? In order for a man to see you as someone whom he could date, you need to make sure he knows you’re interested in dating him. You don’t have to be overbearing about it, but it will help give you a clearer picture of where you stand if you try flirting with him in your conversations.

      Secondly, a good way to really take the pulse of what your chances are would be to ask him if he would be interested in doing a “dating” thing. What is a dating thing?

      Easy. A dating thing is something any couple who is going on a date would do. This could be movies, dinner, or whatever else comes to mind. The important thing here is to make sure it’s just the two of you.

      Don’t come out and ask him first. When you’re talking with him, mention something that you would like to do. He may take the initiative and ask you himself. If he doesn’t, he may just be clueless about women, haha. In that case, you can go ahead and ask him directly if he’d like to do something with you.

      Do these things, and let me know how it works out for you.

      Hope everything goes well!

  29. Susan March 31, 2013 at 5:34 pm #

    Hi Chris,
    there’s this guy 2 grades below me, but only 1 year younger than me. He was very nice to me when we first met, and we always hung out together at his house. However he changed (not talking to me) since then until I put up a fake relationship status on fb.
    After a few months he has been very very nice to me (not sure if this has some sort of link with the fb issue).He talks to me on skype every day and asks me to go to his house to watch movies.He has a lot of physical contacts with me but his reason is:”my skin is soft” and “I love you as a sister”.I have asked him if he likes me. His answers were always like:I treat you as one of my close friend and I love you as a sister.I also asked him why he changed before, he said he was immature.
    So what do you think?

    • Chris April 1, 2013 at 1:24 pm #

      Hey Susan,

      Before we get onto the guy, I’ve gotta tell you to NOT play the Facebook game. Stuff like this will always come back to haunt you in the worst possible way, so it’s best to stay away from Facebook drama period.

      The “your skin is soft” line? Okay. That is one of the oldest in book. When I was younger, I used to use it because it seems sweet, but it also doesn’t blow the guys cover either. Definitely a line that shyer guys will use.

      The “I love you like a sister” line is also something that shyer guys will say to keep girls from knowing the truth.

      I can’t give you a definite answer here, because in order to figure out what he really means I would have to hear the way he said it and watch how he acted when he said it.

      My advice to you would be to pay attention to how he acts when he’s saying this stuff. Look for the signs!

      Keep us updated, and let me know how things go!

      • Susan April 3, 2013 at 6:22 pm #

        physical stuff: at first he started tickling me, then he likes to hug me a lot, including hugging me while he is lying down, and carrying me on his back when walking downstairs.
        he is someone that doesnt really show his emotions. when he says the stuff, his face is pretty serious sometimes, and also he says them in a jokey way—like a little kid. he says them to me often, and always before i go to sleep, and he also says this a lot:i care about you a lot and you are very close to me.

  30. Casey April 1, 2013 at 2:01 am #

    Hey there Chris,

    So, I’m in middle school and I think I’m starting to like this one guy. But I’m not sure if he likes me back. Sometimes I catch him staring at me (he doesn’t look away when i do) and whenever I see him after school and he sees me, he pulls out his phone and starts texting or something. I’ve never talked to him before so I am not even sure if I like him. But anyway, whenever I’m in the same room as him, he seems to show off and likes to talk with other girls in front of me.

    Do you think he likes me?

    Thanks a bunch~

    • Chris April 1, 2013 at 1:27 pm #

      Hey Casey,

      I can answer this one pretty easily.

      He likes you.

      But, be careful. Younger guys around your age often don’t have a clue what they like. So keep your guard up, and try to get to know him a bit better.

      Good luck!

  31. Bella April 1, 2013 at 12:33 pm #

    Hi Chris! So there’s this guy in one of my classes that I’m good friends with. In January he broke up with this girl he’d been dating for about a year and a half, but apparently things hadn’t been going well for a while. I’ve only known him for a year since I transferred schools. Anyways, we’ve been getting closer and talking alot more since they broke up. In class he always lets me prop my feet up on his legs in the tables and he puts his chair very close to mine. He pokes me in the stomach all the time and tickles me sometimes. He also teases me in a good natured way. He’s also very complimentary and sweet to me and he isn’t that way to other girls. His ex girlfriend hates me an I don’t know why, I don’t even know her! Anyways, when I prop my feet up on his legs he sometimes puts his hand on my knee, about a month ago in class we were watching a movie and he held my hand. The next day he did the same thing, but after that when we were walking to lunch together like always he said he just wanted to slow down because he wasn’t really ready to get in another relationship. I said I respected that and in class I’d pull my chair away from his and I won’t prop my feet up or anything and he’d ask me what was wrong an I’d just say nothing. After we had a school break though thigs went back to normal and he’s started initiating stuff like asking me if I want to prop my feet up or scooting his chair very close to mine or asking me to go on his phone and do something. That’s another thing, he doesn’t care if I take his phone and use it, he doesn’t he like monitor-I guess
    That’s a good way of saying it-what I do on it. He doesn’t even care if I go on his Facebook or twitter but he flips out when other people take his phone. Anyways we’re on spring break right now and the three days of school we had before we left he kept put his arm around me and he put his hand on my knee when my feet weren’t even propped up. He was also taking funny pictures of me and him- and normal ones- and snapchatting them to his friends. He’s been texting me or snapchatting me ever day since we’ve been on break and most of the time he tarts the conversation. I’m just not sure if he likes me or not, especially since he said that whole “not ready to get into another relationship” thing. What do you think

    • Bella April 1, 2013 at 12:46 pm #

      Oh, and I forget to tell you, his friends seem to know who I am, even if I don’t know who they are. Like they’ll add me on Facebook and I’ll ask you they are and they say oh I’m friends with him, as if that explains how they know me. Also he’ll invite me to sit with him at lunch on a regular basis with the rest of his football team. During those times that I do sit with him he pays alot of attention to me and not to his friends. And when I don’t sit with him I look up from my lunch and hell be sitting in the perfect spot for me to see him. It’s kinda funny actually. Anyways, after lunch, if there’s time, we’ll walk together on the way to my class. I’m
      Just really not sure, and in the hall he walks super close to me and looks and me instead of looking ahead.
      And if he likes me, how can I reciprocate so that he understands that I like him. Sorry, I’m just so confused.

    • Chris April 1, 2013 at 2:40 pm #

      Hey Bella!

      The good news is that he definitely, 100%, likes you. So you don’t have to worry about that anymore.

      As for why he said he didn’t want to jump into a relationship, the best explanation I see is that he really didn’t want to jump into another relationship, haha.

      This isn’t uncommon. When guys leave a girl they’ve been with for a long time, they like some single time so they can get used to being “free” again. This is especially true if the relationship they just got out of wasn’t particularly good.

      It sounds to me like you’ve got the flirting down pat, so I don’t see any problems there… But, about the phone thing, you should probably NEVER get on his phone, even if he’s fine with it. When you’re doing that, you may be throwing him signals that suggest you would be a controlling girlfriend that would need to keep a check on every aspect of his life. So, don’t check his phone anymore.

      If his friends know who you are, that’s a good sign that he thinks you are special enough to talk about with them.

      I’m not sure how old you two are, but maybe you should try to hang out after school sometime? Maybe you could see a movie or go over to each other’s house for dinner.

      Be careful that you don’t give him any wrong ideas though. You should not be coming off as someone who would get too physical too quickly. Many times, these boys in high school and middle school do things for “bragging rights”, so just keep your guard up, and make sure his intentions are pure.

      Tell me how things turn out!

      • Bella April 1, 2013 at 3:13 pm #

        We’re freshmen and I know about the physical thing, trust me, he is a really good guy. And we’re both Christian soo…yeah. About the phone thing, I really had no idea it was coming off that way. Also, we do hang out after school at school sometimes (our schedules due to sports is crazy during the school week) like he asks me to workout with him after school and sometimes we just straight up hang out after school. Anyways, thank you so much for all your advice! I think it’s so great that you actually respond to people because it can be hard interpreting the signs when you want someone to like you!

        • Chris April 1, 2013 at 3:50 pm #

          I’m glad to hear about you two both being Christians. Really, the easiest way to make sure you have happy relationships and marriages is to live according to the Bible. If everyone did that, then I wouldn’t have nearly as many people on here needing advice!

          The best advice I can give you is to make sure he sees you as someone who he could date. So, flirt with him! Just nothing too heavy. Everything done in flirting should be done in innocent fun.

          And thanks for the encouragement! The reason I run this site is because I see marriages fail all the time, and to be honest, I’m tired of it. Both men and women have a lot of work to do to get the divorce rate down, but the only way that can happen is for men to start taking their responsibilities seriously, and for women to start respecting themselves again. I just think that when girls expect better men for themselves, it leads to stronger marriages!

          • Bella April 12, 2013 at 9:18 pm #

            Chris, I really need your help. Your were right, he does like me! I know from his friends who are very trust worthy and relatable and came to talk to me about it. But the thing is, they said he’s on the fence about it, and I don’t know how to change that. I’m not very good at this, haha. I know I’m going to have to really put myself out there, but I’m not really sure what that would entail. So, I guess I’m asking if you can please me some examples of things to do/say.

          • Bella April 15, 2013 at 3:29 pm #

            Hey Chris, I was just wondering if you got the comment I posted in reply about a week ago..it’s not showing up on here. Anyways, I really need your help! So let me know if you got the comment, if not ill repost it. Thanks.

  32. Amara April 2, 2013 at 1:07 am #

    Hey, Chris. I really like this one guy in my class and seriously want to know if he likes me or not. He does stare at me…constantly. But not in a freakish way; a good way. I don’t know if I’m sending a bad sign, though, since I always dart my glance away as soon as I see him looking at me. Also, he seems to sit next to me whenever he has a chance to sit wherever. We joke around a lot and both poke fun at one and other and seem to have a ton of stuff in common. I even think I made him jealous when I joked around with another guy at our table! I guess the point of this messge is to ask what I should do. I don’t know whether or not to hold my gaze, stand next to him on purpose, or invite him to sit with me. Sorry that I’m not very good at this!

    • Chris April 2, 2013 at 3:41 pm #

      Hey Amara,

      For one, you’re thinking about this stuff too much! Haha.

      When it comes to your gaze, you can hold it if you want, then glance away while giving a slight smile. This lets men know that you like the attention.

      You’re more likely to talk to him if you’re standing close to him, and that’s the goal. You want to get to know this guy.

      As far as asking him to sit with you, this is completely up to you. You could just let him know that it’s cool if he wants to sit with you, and then he can decide whether he wants to or not.

      Just remember, the attraction game isn’t based on a set of rules or recipes. It’s all about your attitude and confidence.

      Hope this helps!

      • Amara April 2, 2013 at 9:15 pm #

        Thanks, Chris! By the way, I suggested to him and my other friend that they shave yesterday. Today, he came to school and he had shaved, so I am definitely considering this a really good sign.

        • Chris April 3, 2013 at 10:06 am #

          Haha, anytime a guy takes your advice it’s a good sign. It shows he values your opinion!

          • Blake May 25, 2013 at 11:26 am #

            Hello Chris!
            Great website you have here. However, I’m still not too sure whether this guy likes me.
            We go to the same school but we don’t have any classes together. But sometimes our classes are quite near each others, and just recently he started to hang out where I usually hang out in school. We stare at each other, steal glances etc. But quickly look away. I knew him since sixth grade (I think) and we whatsapp each other, but we have a habit of replying each other’s text and immediately go offline. I use my mother’s phone to see whether he went online or not, but recently I found out that he doesn’t go online, and when he does, he only replies me, then goes offline. What does this mean? There was twice when he came up to me to ask me completely random things. But that conversation was really quick. So I decided to go up to him and talk for a bit too, and when I came up to him, he held his computer up against his chest, more of a cuddle-ish. Also, I know that he still or used to like another girl that’s my friend. But I’m not so sure whether he still likes her. Please help. Sorry for the length of this ‘comment’

  33. Ginnie April 2, 2013 at 6:58 pm #

    Hey Chris, i’ve liked this guy for the longest time ever he used to tease me and one time when i lost my voice he kept making jokes about it which were pretty funny even though i couldn’t laugh right i’ve always been clumsy and stuff so that problably made he then stopped talking to me now in highschool we always cross paths we had a class together but he never really talked much and when he entered the class he would like search the room and we’d get eye contact. his friend asked me for my number i asked him why he wanted it and he said because now i don’t know what to do. before this my friend had told him that i didn’t like him for two time i don’t know why but she did so i dont know if its just me or what

  34. Ginnie April 2, 2013 at 6:58 pm #

    Hey Chris, i’ve liked this guy for the longest time ever he used to tease me and one time when i lost my voice he kept making jokes about it which were pretty funny even though i couldn’t laugh right i’ve always been clumsy and stuff so that problably made he then stopped talking to me now in highschool we always cross paths we had a class together but he never really talked much and when he entered the class he would like search the room and we’d get eye contact. his friend asked me for my number i asked him why he wanted it and he said because now i don’t know what to do. before this my friend had told him that i didn’t like him for two time i don’t know why but she did so i dont know if its just me or what

    • Chris April 3, 2013 at 9:50 am #

      Do you and him talk at all anymore?

      I’m going to need some more info before I can help you out with this one. I’m not sure what you’re asking me?

      From what you’ve said, I’d say this guy used to like you, and he may still like you. But, if he stopped talking you, it can only mean one of two things.

      Either he stopped talking to you because he’s been struck with shyness, or he just doesn’t like you in that way anymore.

      Give me a bit more information here, and use periods and commas so I can understand what you’re trying to say! Haha, I’m not being mean, but it’s hard to comprehend stuff when there isn’t any periods or commas used.

      Follow up with me!

  35. Rayna April 2, 2013 at 8:50 pm #


    Okay so theres this guy that I really really like. We’ve always flirted- ever since I met him. He’s got an awkward way of flirting though– he’s very sexual. But I can tell he’s flirting because he always laughs or smiles jokingly. He confides in me things he says he’s never told anyone else. But then maybe.. A month after I met him, I realized I had feelings- strong, almost like those sappy love movies describe. I told my friend. And she started making sexual jokes towards he and I. I guess this freaked him out, because he didn’t talk to me for 2 months and finally, when I tried to talk to him he was very mean and crude and he was telling me about how he was soo happy with new girlfriend. I was crying, right there in History. I was a wreck for days. I went home and cried. I didn’t talk to anyone for a week. I barely ate, or slept. I litsened to sad songs, about love and stuff that made me sad. Finally I gave up. I didn’t think about him for 3 months, up until my teacher moved me RIGHT NEXT TO HIM. I avoided him when he tried to talk to me ( I guess he and his gf broke up.) I left him alone, didnt think about him. Until… He started flirting with me, being so nice and sweet! I still had had feelings for him, I had just buried them deep down inside me. Now we got moved around, and he moved farther away from me, whew! And now… We flirt with each other, I’ve gotten much better, I’m so great at it. He acts like he likes me, tells me he likes other girls, but I’m so confused. He sends me mixed signals. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

  36. Rayna April 2, 2013 at 10:30 pm #

    Hey Chris,

    So there’s this guy. We hit it off– or so I thought when I first met him. He always flirted with me, but sometimes his flirting made me uncomfortable- he’s very sexual. But I knew he was joking. We talked ALOT. And I guess I’m pretty, but I’m not like mrs.popular, but he’s soooooooo popular, I was afraid he would be embarrassed by me. One day I told my friend I liked him, and her and her other friend started making really sexual jokes about he and I. I asked them to stop and they did, but he also stopped talking to me. For 3 weeks I didn’t understand. So I wrote him a flirty note, and he wrote back telling me about how happy he is with his new gf! I cried, right there in History, but no one saw. I cried every day for 3 months when I realized I was being stupid. I cleared him out of my mind, until.. The seats got moved. And I was sitting right next to him! Lord! I died inside. I avoided him when he tried to talk to me, I guess him and his gf broke up but idc, and finally he said so sweet stuff, I gave up. I still had feelings for him, I had just buried them. Deep. Now, we flirt, but he told me the other day he likes my BFF. I don’t think he’s being truthful, because he flirts with me more. But… There this other guy, and he’s always been there for me. Through the other guy. Thru the time I got bullied. Thru everything. We tried once, but it didn’t feel right. But now.. I think I might love him. I think I love the both . WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!?!?!?

  37. katey April 2, 2013 at 11:35 pm #

    I like this guy and he does the picking on me thing, but he picks on everyone, and if anything he teases me less than most people. Earlier today he said that last night he wondered what I was doing. We have a lot of the same classes and I talk to him a lot. We hang out in the same group and I don’t think he acts differently around me, but how would I know because I don’t see how he acts when I’m around. I’ve seen him look at me a couple times but not staring. And he suggests things to me like comedians to watch and says stuff like ‘you’ve never heard that band, I’ll show it to you sometime.’ So yeah, hope that helps.

    • katey April 3, 2013 at 12:00 am #

      also, he doesn’t do the touching thing, although I don’t see him touch people very often. And he’s complimented my writing but we were editing each others papers for English, so that could have been it.

      • Chris April 3, 2013 at 10:02 am #

        Hey Katey,

        My best guess would be that this guy likes you.

        Some guys don’t touch. Usually, the more social men will, but the shyer ones won’t. It really just comes down to personality and how comfortable he is with you. You might try grabbing his hand or playfully shoving him to see how he reacts.

        In cases like this, you need to watch how he acts around people. If he acts any differently when you’re around, it’s a pretty easy assumption that the guy likes you.

        Make sure you flirt with him! You can check out my blog post on approaching men here for some tips on flirting.

        If you need anymore advice with him, just let me know!

  38. angel April 3, 2013 at 4:48 am #

    hey chris!

    I just got a new boyfriend but i’m not even sure if he really likes me or just likes me for kissing i mean he liked my friend apparently and we are in a very open group he has shown all the signs pretty much and i used to think of him a a cute/hot older brother figure but those feelings slightly changed towards more of a crush.

    We made out and all that then its complicated but it was a dare. then over the next couple days he took a real interest in me i know it’s probs stupid because hes like im the luckiest guy to have you and all that but i have A LOT of options when it comes to guys and I realy havent known my current boyfriend for long. what do you think because i know he likes me a lot but i dont really know what way if its just physically or yeh. hes really cute and perfect im just wondering more or less i guess how do i get to know him better and also how do i know its not just physical.

    He says all these nice things to me its just yeh :P

    I know i sound a bit like a slut for making out and that stuff but its high school time to take risks, a life without them wouldn’t be worth it.

    • Chris April 3, 2013 at 10:17 am #

      Hey there!

      Don’t worry, I’m the last one alive that could sit here and judge you.

      You do need to get to know him better, and in order to do that you’re going to have to TALK to him. If you guys are always kissing, that’s going to be difficult.

      To do this, you may want to hang out with him in places where you can’t start making out. If you do that, you’ll have to find something to do other than kiss. Ask him to go and do things with you when you know there is going to be other people around, where kissing would be awkward.

      Secondly, high school is a time to take risks, but you want to keep a good reputation. Don’t ever let guys think that you’re “easy”, because then they will stop treating you like a person and start treating you like a conquest.

      Always try to be moral. I’m not saying kissing is wrong, but you shouldn’t be kissing guys that show no interest in you as a person.

      Hope everything works out for you!

      • angel April 4, 2013 at 5:18 am #

        thanx chris but i was wondering what to talk about i mean all he does is compliment me and talk about teachers and school its really hard to have like a proper conversation because he can be slightly awkward sometimes and i really want to get to know im but when i ask questions i normally only get one word answers he’s interesting its just really hard to have a conversation with him. and i feel like i need a bit of a break from him sometimes but because he hang around the same clique its hard and i dont want to sound like i dont want to be with him and i dont want to offend him and he really has like no body else that he hangs with. :( I spend time with friends but how do i stop possible clingyness and that because he may get to that point but its annoying because i cant have like a ‘proper conversation’ at the moment with him help ?

        and thanx for the advice im not that ezy to get tho :)

      • Ky'Risa April 17, 2013 at 3:04 am #

        Hello Chris,
        Me and this Guy were really close. Whenever his friends would pick on me or tease me he would always disagree with them and tell me the nice positive stuff, it really made my day. He would be the first to text me or message me. I finally asked him over text if he liked me, he said : Well…
        Now I know one of the people I’m insteresed in likes me.
        And I ask him who’s the other?
        He names another girl. I think to my self.should I date him? He likes me, but he also likes someone else too, that miieans I’m not going to be his first choice, and I’m always telling my friends not to a second choice. So I got tough and told him that I didn’t want to be a second . He said okay. And I said we could still be friends, and he said okay again. The next morning he asked : how do you feel when you look at me?
        I don’t re

        • Ky'Risa April 17, 2013 at 3:19 am #

          I told him I like him but I don’t wanna be second choice. I’m teaching my friends this they don’t listen they end up broken I don’t wanna be like that Kay?
          He said okay. And then afterwards I send him casual texts but he doesn’t answer. So after a while I delete the messages and his number cause it hurt to bad to see he research back. And then I have the messages to remind me what happened so I got depressed and deleted them. And now at school he doesn’t sit with me anymore. He doesn’t talk to me. Maybe an occasional hi or bye but that’s not how things use to be. He sat with me even when his friends wouldn’t sit with him, he would sit right next too me. At break he would tease me by taking my jacket and making me run after him for it, that would literally happen everyday.
          I guess what I’m asking Chris, is what happened to him? Is anything gonna be the same? I think he still likes me, he stares at me from afar, and he says. Hi even if I don’t say it first.
          Is there still a chance for us?

          • Ky'Risa April 17, 2013 at 3:26 am #

            Sorry if some of it doesn’t make sense, auto correction ….

      • jazmin April 30, 2013 at 9:36 pm #

        I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for almost 2weeks and we have already kissed and he just today texted me and told me he loved me what do I do bc I feel that I don’t fully understand what love is yet??

      • natasha May 3, 2013 at 9:42 pm #

        Hey chris,
        I can’t tell ifthis guy likesme to save my life!. Heeelpp!!!! I met him through his ex girlfriend and theyre really good friends now. I don’t see him that often just spiradically throughout the months. But everytime I get around him he always looks me in the eyes even if neither of us are talking. Its lind of a stare but I always get nervous and look away but when I glance back he’s still looking at me. Helives just down the road amd one time I was walking and he drove pastme and jerked his head to the side to stare at me. Id if it was an “I know that girl stare” or ‘im into her”. I hung out with him and his ex the other night and he patted me on the bcl when he left. Once agaon I cant tell if he was interested and nervous or justnot into me. Yesterday me and his ex went for a walked cause one of her loved ones died and we walked past his house and he came outhugged her and she was bent over crying after he hugged her and all he did was just staring at me almost smiling.. please tell me if he’s into me cause I can’t tell I’ve fb friend requested him and he accepted it. Plus he invited me and his ex to this concert Sunday amd said I realllly wish y’all would come. His ex and him are like brother and sister and never did anything sexual and I know he’s not into her so no worry there but HELP cause this guy is totally fine. Idk if I should ask him to hang out or what because I barely know him!

        • natasha May 3, 2013 at 11:23 pm #

          Also when she was bent over crying he mentioned he liked my tattoo and I said I needed to get it recolored and we just started conversation while the poor girl was crying lol He seemed Completely interested in me at the moment instead of her crying so idk. Just let me know what u think because I’m horrible at being able to tell if a guy likes me..

      • Laura May 9, 2013 at 10:12 am #

        chris! I was wondering! im starting to like this guy! and Hes 2 years older ! what do you do when theyres an age difference ? like i dont know how to act because i dont want to get the wrong impression! like when we hangout he cuddles with me and stuff but i still dont know if he likes me ! help

      • Blake May 25, 2013 at 11:25 am #

        Hello Chris!
        Great website you have here. However, I’m still not too sure whether this guy likes me.
        We go to the same school but we don’t have any classes together. But sometimes our classes are quite near each others, and just recently he started to hang out where I usually hang out in school. We stare at each other, steal glances etc. But quickly look away. I knew him since sixth grade (I think) and we whatsapp each other, but we have a habit of replying each other’s text and immediately go offline. I use my mother’s phone to see whether he went online or not, but recently I found out that he doesn’t go online, and when he does, he only replies me, then goes offline. What does this mean? There was twice when he came up to me to ask me completely random things. But that conversation was really quick. So I decided to go up to him and talk for a bit too, and when I came up to him, he held his computer up against his chest, more of a cuddle-ish. Also, I know that he still or used to like another girl that’s my friend. But I’m not so sure whether he still likes her. Please help. Sorry for the length of this ‘comment’

      • Nora May 31, 2013 at 7:24 am #

        I just saw ur site and I like it:) well like a guy I suspected he liked me but I wasn’t sure here’s what he did:he first initiated conversation with me by asking a dumb question: what chapters will be on the final? The thing is he’s a genius and when I told him he said there’s a chapter missing!! Another time when I was talking with him I was looking at him to continue the conversation he looked back at me and my reaction the shyly looked down at the ground..I think he looked up again but I was looking elsewhere .another time I complained that I wasn’t managing my courses and was under pressure so later on he gives me a time management cd he said he has a copy and listens to it sometimes..I have caught him secretly looking at my face when he thinks I’m not looking…but most recently I believe he’s trying to make me jealous idk ..he Told me he has mixed feelings about a girl and asked me if I wanted to know I said idk so he told me and asked me what should he do and then he was asking me about her I said ask a guy that knows her cuz I don’t that much..then I mentioned an even that she might go to he said no I’m not going to submit to her…idk it just confused me if u want I’ll email u what he said… Thanks a lot…

      • miley May 31, 2013 at 7:18 pm #

        I need help,I don’t like this guy but I try to impress him?what does this mean?

      • Lianna June 12, 2013 at 6:02 am #

        Hello Chris,I have this guy from my CCA class and he usually teases me and scares me a lot. I see him a lot of times by coincidence and he says hi in a strange way as though to scare me. He stares at me a lot and when I saw him doing that,he don’t stop and continues staring and makes me feel very embarrassed. He always annoys me and blocks my way when I’m trying to leave after class.He always talks to me and makes fun of me(not in a bad way) but I act like a total DORK and tells him to shut up but he doesn’t really care.I don’t know whether he likes me or not but I kind of like him.What should I do?

      • gracie August 10, 2013 at 6:25 pm #

        So I met this guy at a music camp we did three weeks ago, from the word go he was teasing me, flirting outrgously with me and just kept randomly appearing in my practice room and yeah, when we were at the venue for the gig at the end he was constantly sat with me and would always lean in really close when we talked and yeah !! And he said something at one point when he had asked if I wanted to do something and I’d said I didn’t mind, he was all ‘well, its not like we have to do the same thing, we’re not attached, god, I’ve only known you a week’ and then proceded to follow me aha !! Since then we’ve messaged loads, and he always keeps the convo going ands really flirty and nice, but he NEVER (well except twice) starts the convo !!! Then I went to watch a gig of his last friday and afterwards he came and found ME and told me he’d been looking for me, teased me about my height (he does that a lot, he found my height, or lack of hilarious and made loads of jokes about it on that course thing) when he hugged me etc. He also totally dismissed some of his friends who came up while we were talking more or less and when some random guy made some remark about us being on a date, where I got all blushy etc. He didn’t denny it !!?? He also remembered that I’d said I liked acting then said how he was a total actor cause he’s in his school show !!! He also was hanging out with me when he could’ve been hanging out with his band mate and his band mates girlfriend and her friends !!! And yeah, then he offered to play guitar for me at an open mike the next day, and when we were there on the saturday it was a similar thing really, he picked a totally secluded spot to practice in before etc. And yeah, he also makes quite a few sexul refecences when we chat on fb like asking if totally harmless sentences are inuendos and there are lots of ‘;)’ wink faces when we talk !!! One time I said something about girls just loving guys with guitars then he said ‘you would know ;) ’ but when I pressed him a little on that he totally clamed up about it !!!??? He does almost always reply like instantly though !! He’s met my parents at this festival and stuff and was really nice and my parents like him !!! All our mutual friends say he likes me, my mum even said that !!! He’s a year older than me and yeah aha, normally I’d think he liked me if it wasn’t for the fact that he never initiates conversations basically and yeah !!!!??? Does that mean he isn’t interested, ors just being boyish and confusing ?????!!! Sorry for the essay aha, I just really need some help !!! Thank you :) x

  39. Robin April 4, 2013 at 4:55 pm #

    I need your advice, I saw a guy who I haven’t seen or talked to in 10 years. He came into the room without saying hi to me. He talked to my mom first than talked to me. After the appointment was over he hugged my mom and talked to her. She left the room and I was still sitting in the chair. He just stood there with his back turned to me and had his arm out to the side. Like he wanted me to shake his hand or give him a hug. I wasn’t sure so I hugged him. Like a side hug and walked out the door. He started talking to my mom outside the door. and I stood there.As we were leaving he said have safe trip home and I turned to say goodbye and he was right next to me walking down the hall. There is more to this story and I just don’t know what to think.

  40. Chloe April 5, 2013 at 11:58 am #

    Hey Chris!
    I’m in high school and there’s this guy in my class and my friends say he likes me. We are 17 years old and we just got back from a school trip to Poland for a week. In Poland, we had to carry our suitcases and take them downstairs (and the elevator was takes so we went to the staircase). This guy offered to carry my suitcase 4 floors, but I said no thanks because I was too shy and I didn’t want him to carry it because it was very heavy. Later on, in the airport he told one of my friends that I’m a doll because I’ve been waiting for my friends at one of the lines. He looks at me a lot and we call each other “my friend” (I know it’s stupid but I’ve started it with my 2 best friends and he copied it so I just went with it). He asked me where is my seat on the flight back home. Once, I was talking to my friend about how gross the sandwiches are in Poland and I told her that I never eat them, he heard the conversation and said: “Chloe you must eat something you got too skinny” (I’m not sure if it was supposed to be funny).
    Do you think he likes me? I’m sorry it’s so long I just want you to know all the details so your answer will be as accurate as possible, thank you!

  41. NS April 5, 2013 at 1:19 pm #

    So I have been in love…yes in love with an ex-boyfriend for 20 years. We have just recently reconnected via Facebook. We have been chatting almost every day for 6 months. He even surprised me with a visit to my work. Our chats started mainly as friendly and still are mostly friendly. We talk about a lot things. Sometimes just silly things, normal life stuff. But it has escalated into very flirty and sexual in nature. Full disclosure…he is married. He would tell me how miserable he was at home. We have never been physical. We only have seen each other that one time at my office and he insinuates in his chats that “maybe one day we will be together.” We have plans to meet for lunch. She doesn’t know about our relationship. She and I know each other from our past and he and I both know she wouldn’t approve of us being just friends. I want there to be more between us but his behavior has me confused. I know he is married and that is a very big deal for me. I don’t take lately to disrupting a marriage. But if they have both checked out, I want to know if there is room for me. On Valentine’s Day, he and his wife didn’t go out on a date…he was home talking to me. He always asks me if I’m going out on a “hot date.” When I asked him why he keeps asking me that, he says because I never talk about going out on dates (with other guys) with him.
    What I am confused about is how he pulls away every once in a while. He won’t talk to me for a while. He has a son with special needs and I think he stays in the marriage because of him. I fully understand that. He needs to come first. I just need to know if I am wasting my time. I always felt a connection to him, even when I had to let him go 20 years ago. I don’t want to lose him when we could be so close. Please help me…please don’t judge me.

    • NS April 5, 2013 at 2:23 pm #

      BTW- Also, when we started talking again after 20 years, it was like time stood still. Like we just saw each other a few days ago. It was so easy. The connection was immediate. We constantly tease each other…friendly, flirty, everything. I told him how much I value our friendship that I wouldn’t want either of us to get hurt…without coming out and saying my true feelings. No, he doesn’t know how I truly feel about him. I mean he is married. If anything I am following his lead. I am thinking he is confused by his feelings. Scared of hurting me, himself and yes even his wife.

  42. Anny April 5, 2013 at 5:28 pm #

    Hi Chris,

    There’s this guy that I’m definitely interested in at work. We’ve known each other beyond first names for about seven/eight months now, which was when the flirting started. It took me until this pas December to realize I actually did like him, but according to a friend, it’s been pretty obvious since before that. Anyway, I’m 17 and his 21st birthday is coming up really soon. He’s asked me in the past when I turn 18 (later this year), and I’m quite aware of his views on physicality and all that, so I’m keeping that in mind. We work in a restaurant (different jobs but our paths cross a lot) and the flirting is still there, though we do manage to have good conversations despite the busy pace of a restaurant kitchen. He’s not much of a texter, so while I usually start a conversation that way, he always seems to have no problem keeping the conversation going. (We never talk about work stuff outside of work.) Sometimes he’ll even pick up the conversation almost a day after the last text. At work, he almost never fails in saying hi to me, even if it’s in passing. There was one night when my patience had been pushed to the limit, and even though I saw him maybe once after my breakdown, when I found him later to just be near him and chat (which never fails in calming me down), he asked me if I was okay and then ignored one of our co-workers so he could listen to the whole story. While he’s very playful and flirty with a lot of girls, sometimes he gets quiet and serious around me, like he doesn’t know what to say or laughs if he he doesn’t return some smart comment I made. I always catch him staring at me or in my general direction and typically when he sees I’ve caught him, he looks away or even holds my gaze for longer.

    Even as I type this out I feel like he probably likes me, but I’m still not sure. He’s always going to some movie or other restaurant with work friends, though I’ve chalked it up to my lack of owning a car (I got my permit late so I’m still catching rides from family and friends). Does he like me? If he does, is he just not doing anything because of the age difference? I know from mutual friends that he’s single, and he’s stayed single since his most previous break-up, which was around the time we started flirting and he started asking me when I turned 18, so whether or not he’s waiting for me to turn 18, how do I get through the next eight months?

  43. nyla April 6, 2013 at 4:27 pm #

    Yep, I have a crush that I need to ensure likes me back so I can ask him out. I’m in high school and this guy in art class calls me chicken ‘n gravy, a joke and nickname obviously, and has taken a pic of me ( still has it and threatens to put it on instengram). He always spells out my first and last name. When we make eye contact and hold it he gives me a smug smirk that I find sooo cute. He found out my student login and logged me in several times. ( sometimes during art he says something flirty like ” hope you don’t log yourself in this time!”). Also, why won’t he ask me out…? He doesn’t have a girlfriend..

    • nyla April 6, 2013 at 4:31 pm #

      Also, when I was absent from school once and returned following Monday.. My friends said my crush asked where I was. And thank you for the response Chris. (:

  44. Rhia April 7, 2013 at 1:39 am #

    Hi Chris. So this guy I like is a grade and a little over a year older than me. Over the summer, he sometimes drove me to cross country training. That’s how I met him, in carpool for training. I got to know him a bit, and this winter (it’s skiing) he drove me to practice with him every day. So we talked every day for almost an hour in the car, and we got to know each other really well. We shared music and everything. We had personal jokes, he teased me and overall I thought he liked me. On the last day of practice, he made a playlist of some of our favorites for the ride. He had asked me to go to watch him and the rest of the guys team at state, but I couldn’t because I had a big test that week. Once he got back from state, we only saw each other in the halls so we only said hi really. Then the new trimester started and I’m in two of his classes. We don’t really awknowledge each other. I’m socially awkward and would never be able to approach him with his friends there because I don’t know them. But he doesn’t talk to me. He’s not exactly shy, but he is a bit with girls, and he’s really sweet, so he wouldn’t want to bug me if he thought I didn’t like him. So I kinda messed up big time. I catch him looking at me in class all the time, and once we were walking in the hall to class and I caught up to him, asked how his weekend was, and he gave me the biggest smile. Unfortunately, we didn’t have time to talk much before the bell rang. He’s definately a bit different when I’m around, nicer and a bit more serious, still funny and silly but more mature, but his friends aren’t mature at all. He’s one of the few people not bothered by my classes (I’m a sophomore in three junior classes, two of which he’s in, he’s a junior), so not only do I miss him because I have a crush on him, but he’s one of the few people I can have a conversation with without worrying about offending them. I don’t know if he likes me or not. I need help!

    • Rhia April 7, 2013 at 1:47 am #

      I forgot to say: in class he angles himself towards me. also, I have a self-deprecating humor, and when we talked in his car, he wouldn’t let me say anything bad about myself, he would always deny it, and even after he would tease me, he would always go back and make sure I understood that he was kidding and he really thought the opposite.

  45. Sarah April 7, 2013 at 4:23 am #

    Hey Chris,

    So there’s this guy at my school that I like. And a couple weeks ago, he asked me for my number and we started texting. Then he called me and we were on the phone until like 2 in the morning. He said stuff like “we should talk more” and “we should hang out sometime”. Then that week at school, he completely ignored my existence and I had to be the one to talk to him first! And when i would talk to him he was kind of avoiding eye contact and it was just weird overall. He already somehow knew that I liked him too. But he’s complimented me and my friends have caught him staring at me when I wasn’t looking. He has a girl that he’s interested in but she Friend zoned him. But over the phone, he told me that he’s over her, then later that week he told my friend that he’s trying to get out of the friendzone. So he lied to me?? But then he asked my friend if I was mad at him because we haven’t talked since the phone call. And his friend knew about me and him because he talks about me to him apparently. But from what his friend’s heard it sounds like he’s still not over the girl that friend zoned him. I’m so confused, what should I do?? :(

  46. Shirley April 8, 2013 at 11:24 pm #

    Hey there Chris!
    Okay so everyone tells me that my crush likes me but I’m still nore sure. I guess it’d be cool if an actuall guy reassured me or just told me the truth. Girls do tend to just tell friends what they want to hear.,.
    Okay so I’m in high school and my crush is in my science and we sit next to each other. He tells me I have beautiful eyes and I look beautiful and just mushy things like that. He touches me, like a hand on my arm or shoulder. He also angles his body, most of the time, so its towards me. He’s mentioned several times that he knows I’m flirting with him and he probably knows that I like him. For the past couple of days we’ve kinda stared into each other’s eyes while smiling, that sounds cheesy but its true. We are both into the same things as well. Buuut he got his phone stolen and doesn’t talk to me outside of school. Sometimes he says hi and hugs me in the hallways or checks me out. We’ve talked about relationships in general and he’s said he doesnt like the drama or how they end and that’s why he doesn’t have them. He hasn’t really had any and doesn’t date/wheel girls. I’ve asked him to hang out and he said he would if he could but he has super strict muslim parents, and by the way I’m not muslim. He’s sexual to me but also to other girls… Buuut he doesn’t treat other girls like he does me, so no complienting or touching. We honestly act like we’re dating in class, and he doesn’t do that with other girls.
    I’m sick of playing this game if there’s no point to it. So be as brutally honest as you can be. What do you think? Sorry for how long it is, and thank you for your time.

    • Shirley April 8, 2013 at 11:27 pm #

      Oh and he also teases me but in a flirty way and he’s called me hun acouple of times, which is kinda cute:$

  47. JR April 9, 2013 at 7:03 pm #

    Hi Chris,

    I have a friend at work that acts just as you described above, I even tried to hook him up with my friend because he had mentioned he liked her. When I finally asked him if he would like to actually date her, he declined, claimed he was just joking and in a sarcastic tone said he actually had a crush on me; then said JK.

    We are no where High school age, but we act like we are two 15 y/o when we are around each other, we are a bit extra giddy. We flirt, we act as if there is no one else in the room, and we exchange flirtatious text messages here and there. It has been a few months that we have been doing this, but we are yet to initiate any type of talk about actually dating. We both feel that is not the best practice, to date someone in the work place. He recently transferred to a different facility, and promised and made me promise we would keep in touch. This guy is very shy, and rarely speaks to anyone else. I, on the other hand, am a bit more talkative and friendly, but get super shy around him. I was in a relationship for a very long time, years; and have not dated or flirted with anyone in that long. I don’t know what I should do next, I really like him and wish we could take that step to get to know each other outside of work. I don’t know if I should call or text him, or wait until he initiates the contact. I don’t know if I should ask him out, or wait until he asks. It’s so confusing! We were both raised here in the US, but our cultures also influence our point of views and how we approach the concept of “dating” and roles of males and females. Our age also plays a part in this.
    We are in our 30′s (me early, him mid), and we belong to the mexican-american and filipino-american cultures.


    And thanks!

  48. Rosalie April 11, 2013 at 9:07 pm #

    Hey Chris, I just recently found out about your website, and its amazing. I just have a question about this boy lol. Well you see, i’m not so sure what’s going on between us, like he would always look at me and smile, or make a funny joke, and when we look at each other, its always longer than what its suppose to be. Also, when we were in the computer lab, at school, we sat next to each other with my cousin on the other side of the boy I like, anyways we were on the computer messing around and what so ever, then, when my hand was on the computer mouse, he put his hand on top of mine and guided me to see something he wanted me to see. Also, during class one time, I glanced around and noticed he was looking at me. So,I looked back and after a few seconds we both burst ed out laughing , and then he puckered his lips and blew me a kiss. I’m not sure what that’s suppose to mean, like was he playing around or you know. Also my cousin is always picking on the both of us, saying “ooo Rosalie, you like him!” or he’ll be like,”Ya’ll two need to quit flirting.” Anyways, there’s more, but I’m pretty sure this is a long message, anyways hope you respond soon Chris:D

  49. Emma April 11, 2013 at 11:48 pm #

    Hey Chris,

    I’m wondering if you could maybe give me some advice about this. So first off, I’m 16 and I like a 24 year old, which seems pretty strange, right? We met at church and our parents are really good friends so we’re always at each others houses and stuff. He is quite flirty with me, so it seems. He’s always harmlessly teasing and joking around with me. But he’s just mean to this other girl that likes him. He’s very touchy, always putting his hand on my neck, shoulder, back. At church he sits across the room from me and I always catch him staring at me, sometimes he looks away quickly but other times he just keeps a dead stare. Also he always takes pics of me on his phone and I hide my face, so he keeps taking them until he gets one of my hands not covering my face. My friends think he likes me but I just don’t know.
    Idk if he’s just playing with my emotions or what haha. Because in my opinion I just can’t really get through my head that it’s possible for a 24 year old to like a sixteen year old. Or any guy to like me for that matter. Your advice would be greatly appreciated.
    Thank you(:

  50. Nicole Vasquez April 13, 2013 at 10:13 am #

    Hi Chris,
    I am a freshman in college and there’s this guy that I really like. We have talked several times and made eye contact. Also almost everyday I am a tad late to class (:p) and as soon as I open the door our eyes meet and that’s it, and everywhere I look without even trying I see him behind me. But he seems to be very timid around me! With his friends I hear him talking and laughing and as soon as I am close by he doesn’t want to talk and gets very shy, what is going on with this guy? :p

  51. Kate April 13, 2013 at 12:30 pm #

    Hello Chris!
    I like this guy who I went to the school dance with. The only problem is I’m not sure if he asked me because he actually wanted to go with me, or if he asked me because my friend told him to. Also, when we slow danced he moved in closer to me so that we were practically hugging. But after the dance things got really awkward and we didn’t talk for almost 2 months because there was a rumor going around that I liked him. Recently everything has been going good though. He picks on me alot and he seems flirtacious but he flirts with everyone so its really hard to tell who he likes. I have gotten a few compliments here and there, but not necessarily about my appearance. So what do you think?

  52. kandee April 13, 2013 at 7:21 pm #

    Hey i like this guy and he has done almost all of these things and i wan to tell him that i like him but dont know how to tell him

  53. Ethel April 14, 2013 at 12:55 am #

    Hi Chris,

    I have a huge crush on my boss. He’s 8 years older than me and at times calls me a baby since Im just 21. I’ve secretly given him gifts for 3 times already. The last gift was a box with a note saying i like him, but w/o my name on it. I’ve read all signs he might like you blogs, consulted my friends and i am somewhat convince that he likes me. Should I confess in time that I am that mystery girl who sends him gifts? And that i like him?

  54. liz April 15, 2013 at 3:41 pm #

    This past weekend I took a trip to san diego and met this cute boy that’s my friend’s friend. We had a good time at the club, hung out and took shots together and talked. After the club, we went over to his place and had some deep conversations about family and life for about 2 hours. After that, we went to the bedroom and stayed in bed watching a movie. An hour later we started snuggling and kissing. He held my hand and kissed my forehead during. Things started getting sexual and after the touching, he tried to get it in and I told him I wasn’t down. So thereafter we continued snuggling and kissing. He told me to let him know whenver I’m in the area and we already planned out things to do the next time I go. We haven’t really talked after however. Is he interested? Or should I leave it alone and notify him when I visit again in 2 weeks?

  55. Kerri April 15, 2013 at 4:08 pm #

    hi chris.
    theirs this guy at my school who I really like but I’m to nervis to talk to him can you give me some advice on how to talk to him

  56. Pooji April 16, 2013 at 1:51 pm #

    Hey Chris!
    There’s this guy in my class who I really like! But the thing is I’m super shy and barely talk to him.. I chat with him ALOT on facebook.. He has asked me why I dont talk in school a lot of times.. he even told me he hasnt heard my voice.. recently i got into a relationship that went wrong and he helped me break up with that other guy. I even caught him staring at my body one day O.O .. he has been looking at me alot these days and have been super friendly on chat.. he made me laugh when I was about to cry.. he listened to me and helped me get through stuff… I have only talked to him once and that day when I went online on facebook he said that he was happy we talked and that we should talk more often but me being scared and shy as I am.. never spoke to him in school again… what should I do?

  57. Amanda April 17, 2013 at 2:46 am #

    Hi Chris,

    So this guy and I have been friends for about a year now. When we first met, he had a girlfriend that he was pretty serious with, but they broke up this last August after dating for like 9 months.

    He told me right away that they broke up. Slowly, we started talking more and more (this was only like four months after we met). He kept pushing me in the halls, motioning to trip me down stairs… that sort of stuff. My friends all said he liked me. I chose to deny that.

    Then I went to this Bible study that he puts on for our university. He rambled about how great I was and how happy I was and how much I helped people while we were in Africa together, then proceeded to tell everyone he had no idea why he brought that up. No point whatsoever. One time after Bible study he told me “Good night, I love you.” then he looked all panicky and said “That was in general. That was to everyone.”

    I invited him to a concert and he said, “So, like a date?” I didn’t reply, but we went to the concert together. Afterwards he asked what I was doing and if I wanted dinner, which he would pay for. We sat at the restaurant for about an hour AFTER it closed just talking about anything and everything.

    Now he’ll come up to me or my friends randomly to chat about just nothing. He’ll high five me or slap me on the back. He texted me saying “lookin’ nice today”, after never having complimented the way I looked before.

    My brain is freaking out, because I want to believe my friends and believe he likes me, because he is FANTASTIC (and I am rambling right now & overthinking everything), but I am so afraid that he just wants to be friends. We are great friends and I don’t want to mess it up, but just the things he does raise all these questions.

  58. Lulu April 18, 2013 at 8:53 am #

    Hi chris
    I’m interested in this guy but I don’t know if he likes me back he’s in 1 of my classes and stares at me and for 4 seconds while I look at him he looks back. He put his hand on my leg I didn’t know what to do so I turned to face him and he toke his hand off my leg and said “na just kidding” then he walked off its so hard to read him!!!! He keeps saying hi to me when his friend says hi to his girlfriend (my bestie) this guy says hi to me before his friend even can finish saying “hi……..” What does this mean??? I’m lost?? Please help

    Thanks from Lulu <3

  59. Cassie April 18, 2013 at 10:19 pm #

    Hey Chris,
    I am just curious as to what you think. I do have a boyfriend already but we live an hour and a half away from me. However I have been hanging out with a friend of mine who is a guy. He has met my bf and they get along pretty well and I make it clear that I’m in a committed relationship.

    However, we spend so much time together, him often reaching out to me, I just wonder if he might like me a bit. What lass doesn’t like the thought of being attractive to others too. I do see him as a more of a big brother/ protector figure though.

    He is a military man, very self controlled so I cannot tell much about body language. He doesn’t touch me, but when among friends he does tend to stand near me, maybe put his hand on my chair if standing nearby. Yet for a rare hug it is usually just a one armed hug. He opened up to me on his past, both Iraq and other things that I knew a hardened soul like himself does not tell others readily. It took over a year before finding out such things. He will text me late at night or often throughout the day. He invited me to the park today where we went wandering the woods, finding critters and he did discuss how he usually only brought girlfriends out there since it is more of his serene get away from busy college life. He has complimented me on rare occasions for wearing certain dresses. I feel like he tries to impress me at times, randomly doing push ups in front of me -never seen him do it in front of other people besides the gym of course-. He shares with me his specific loves of music and Vikings which he doesn’t broadcast to many people. I don’t know what to make of this man.

    Also he throws couch pillows at me to mess around sometimes, pokes fun occasionally :p

    • Cassie April 18, 2013 at 10:22 pm #

      He is one of my few guy friends on campus so people are starting to assume we like each other and yes. I do as a friend, but I love my bf naturally, otherwise I wouldn’t be with him ^.^

  60. Andrea April 19, 2013 at 12:04 am #

    Hi chris,
    So I had this guy friend. We got close and everything but it was nothing serious. I thought we were best friends but then a week ago, he’s stopped talking to me. He’s been basically ignoring me. Do you know why he’s been acting like that?? I don’t like him or anything, it’s just he’s the first guy friend I’ve had in years and he’s not talking to me anymore. Please help. And thanks ahead of time.

  61. Ally April 19, 2013 at 12:06 am #

    Hi Chris,

    You seem to have some great insights and hopefully you can help me out!
    I’m 21 and have been in the same bachelor’s program as another guy for the past 4 years. We were both in relationships (both for 4 years) up until about half a year or more ago. Usually, I have no problems telling if a guy is interested in me, but this one is hard to figure out.
    He never really spoke to me much in the past few years unless we saw each other out drinking, until one night last weekend we started dancing together and we spent the whole night dancing. I took him back to my apartment and we spent the night together (although we only made out). Anyway, he said a lot of sweet things, like he had wanted something to happen between the two of us for a while but he was intimidated by my intelligence. He asked me out on a date, but didn’t specify a night.. he said he wished he wasn’t moving so we could spend more time together.. Oh yeah, we are both graduating this year and leaving in a week or so, but we will only be a couple hours away. He tried to meet up with me the next night but ended up having to leave because his ride showed up?
    I think he is amazing, the nicest guy I have ever spent time with, and I have been initiating texts with him the past couple days. He always responds but often will just stop replying after a while.. sometimes the texts get flirtatious. I asked him to get together to study and he was all for it but it hasn’t happened yet. I am always initiating things, and he told me he was shy.. but could it also be that he isn’t interested in starting a relationship with me? If that’s the case then why is he still wanting to spend time together and why did he ask me out again?

    Thanks a ton,


  62. Olivia April 19, 2013 at 12:34 pm #

    Okay so I like this guy but I don’t know if he likes me back
    Examples: He looks at me for a long time sometimes. One time when he was talking to a girl he looked over her shoulder and looked at me than smiled, once he drove me home (his sister aka my bff and his cousin was there)and when he got to a red light he look in his rear view mirror to look at me, when I talk to him his voice is very mature, when he is standing with his friends them all turn and look at me, when he is just talking to one of his friends he looks at me and talks to his friend at the same time.

    question how come when ever i talk to him we only talk about school?

  63. Chole Chang April 19, 2013 at 7:48 pm #

    Hey Chris

    I was wondering if you could help me shed some light on my “situation” please.

    My good friend is showing “romantic feelings” but is not exactly being blunt about it, so I’m a little confused. One moment he will be really nice and sweet next moment he’s an ass acting up with his friends.

    We have been good friends for 3 years, and at the start of it, apparently his friends asked him if he could who would he date and apparently he said me. I just merely brushed it off, thinking that he was joking.

    Over the years (3) it’s been more, he’s complimenting me
    “You’re really smart”
    “Your handwriting so nice like italic. I like it”
    “It’s your birthday, you should of told me, I would have got you something.” Etc… He’s been staring at me as well, recently I caught him staring at me. Usually we catch each other’s eye, wave and put our heads back down to work. What is recent is that I walked to class and he stared after me. It was the first day back at school, so my uniform was neat and crisp. My hair was in a nice hairstyle, hair all down, wearing eyeliner, no glasses, smiling. He was staring after me, actually watching after me as he was turning.

    He’s really nice, I did ask him if he liked anyone, but he said he didn’t. My friend says he’s lying, trying to hide feelings. Everyone is rooting for us to berogether.

    So please help me and give me your thoughts and advice.
    Thank you so much!

  64. Kiara April 19, 2013 at 8:26 pm #

    Hey Chris so theirs is this guy in my school his name is scott since he first came to my school i liked him since than but then he stared picking on me alot i just dont understand why is he doing this alot i am so confused because i dont know if he likes me or not!!! Help!!!

  65. kassie April 21, 2013 at 12:23 am #

    hey chris,
    i like this guy and he is really sweet and cute but i dont know if he likes me which he probably doesnt but anyway at the end of school last year this really mean girl knew i liked him and also knew that one of my frienimies(did i spell that right) liked him so she told him to ask her out and at first i didnt think he would because he is sooo shy but he did! and this year he was scared of her so i didnt think it would go that far and plus his gf is mean because she dated other guys even though she knew that she was dating my crush.and my crush thought that they were still dating so i felt reall bad for him. now every day i see her in the hall when we leave school and she gives him a high five and he blushes. it makes me angry and sad at the same time. please help im falling apart because of anger sadness and hate. what do i do???? btw none of that probably made sence.

    • kassie April 21, 2013 at 12:29 am #

      sense not sence

  66. BellaC April 21, 2013 at 6:07 am #

    Hi Chris,
    There is this guy I like but I am not too sure how he feels! I catch him looking at me though he barely talks to me- so I then always have to make the effort but the last two times I have seen him he has approached me and he always seems very happy and smiley… But there I another girls that he is close with and I know she likes him but I don’t know if he does… When I send him an inbox he only ever replies once. He shows a few signs but I’m still not sure. Sorry if I’ve confused you but I don’t know what to do! He is 3 years older than me btw.

  67. music April 21, 2013 at 8:54 pm #

    hi chris! i’m 14 and i think this boy might like me but the thing is i don’t know him that well and i’m not sure what kind of guy he is (btw he’s 15) but my sister keep telling me that he likes me and that he’s shy but i don’t think he’s that shy. she actually ask him dose he like me, right in front of my face. his answers was “no i like her” and he pointed his feet towards me, so my sister said “oh you do like her!!!” and his reply was “not her…her” (that confused me. i think he was joking he dose that alot) they went on for a minute. but he would still point to me every once in a wail in that minute. but he would act like he didn’t mean to. he would just keep pointing at me then at nothing and when he stopped he said “just kidding”( only my sister and his sister were the only other people there) from that moment on the night was awkward. some of the things he do is he’ll turn then look away when i look at him,he’ll do things to get on my nerves, when we play games he’ll always want to be partnered with me he said because we’re both tall (well compared to my sis and his sis) but i always find a way out of it, it’ll be awkward (i think it will and plus i’m a little shy myself).and he’ll suggest a game and in the middle of the game if i don’t want to play he’ll say “music doesn’t want to play we’re not playing this anymore” and he’ll say we’re doing what i want to do, he also will often ask where i am. i don’t really know him , but he acts like he know me, for an example: if i’m hanging out with his sister at my house he’ll come right after she came, but he haven’t done that when i’m not there. and i never had a one-on-one conversation with him. but we did play truth or dare (i picked truth most of the time they were some kinda personality questions, and
    this is the same time my sister ask him dose he like me) he actually looked like he was interested in what i had to say, but at the same time he was having a conversation with my sister, he was looking at me the whole time. i’m really confused after all of this and don’t know what to do about it or if i should do anything about. i’m not even sure if i like or if i don’t like him. i don’t really know/see him. so i’m not sure if he likes me.

    please help!

  68. Sarah April 22, 2013 at 10:45 am #

    So i’ve liked this guy for years and he has liked me too but there has always been something holding us back. Now there is nothing holding us back, we hang out all of the time but it usually isn’t just the two of us. We kissed once, but it was backstage in a play and it didn’t feel quite real. This weekend I went to watch him and my best friend run a half marathon and we were really touchy all weekend, he kept kissing my hand and brushing my stomach and putting his hand on my lower back, he even kissed my neck, but he still wouldn’t actually kiss me. We are really good friends and I want to be more but I think that his feelings could be purely physical, how do I know?

  69. Sarah April 23, 2013 at 8:31 am #

    Hey Chris, I really like this guy and i’m not sure whether he likes me or not. The only problem is, i only really see him when he’s drunk. When he sees me he always does this thing where he taps me on the shoulder and i look round but he’s on the other side of me. He’s come over to talk to me a few times when he’s drunk but he always seems like hes laughing at me when he talks to me and the conversations don’t last very long. I also sometimes feel that he’s looking at me but i’m not sure whether he is or not. Also when he’s drunk and i walk into the same bar as him, him and his friends start shouting my name. I always think that when he’s doing these kinds of things that he’s just trying to take the mick out of me. He offered to buy me a drink once but i stupidly said no. He’s touched my hair a few times. He beeped and waved once when he saw me, while he was driving his car. He also once danced with me and my group of friends in a club even though all of his friends were there as well.
    I was just wondering whether you could give me advice on whether he likes me or not. Thank You :)

    • Sarah April 23, 2013 at 8:40 am #

      also when i try to talk to him on Facebook, he reads my message but then doesn’t reply back

  70. Lina April 23, 2013 at 8:37 pm #

    Hi Chris,
    I have a huge crush on this one guy, and everyone keeps telling me that he likes me. He already knows that I like him, but he’ll always say stuff like, “If I was desperate, I would consider dating you.” So I’m really confused. My friends think he likes me by the way he acts, but I still don’t believe it. He is a triplet, and has a brother and sister. If they know, then why don’t they tell me? And if he really does like me, why doesn’t he ask me out? I pretty much admitted to him that I like him.

    • Lina April 23, 2013 at 8:38 pm #

      Oh, and he teases me a lot…

  71. Chandler April 24, 2013 at 4:04 am #

    Hey Chris,
    So I kinda like this guy and I think he might like me too I’m just unsure, there’s been a few signs that have me confused.
    As we’re both in high school we have a couple of classes together, and two of which we actually sit next to one another. As I’m looking around the room and in a certain direction, he’ll look over at me and shortly lock eyes but I quickly change it. Another, is as some joke got started I rubbed his arm and now every week during a certain class he’ll do the same to me.
    Although, another is that when his mates have pulled a joke on me he’ll sympathise for for me and say it’s okay… and when I’m stressed he’ll usually ask me “am I okay?”.

    So I’m just not sure how to take these things.

  72. Justine April 24, 2013 at 8:22 am #

    At my gym there is a guy that I am very attracted to. I stare at him every time he crosses my path. Dose he know I’m looking at him? A couple of times we had eye contact for about 4 seconds, but most of the time he just is in his own world. I wonder if he’s attracted to me too. I want to start a conversation with him but I don’t know what to say. I was thinking just start by saying hi whenever I see him and smile. Then maybe he will take it from there and ask me out. I don’t know if its a good thing to approach a guy cause I feel I would have to do all the work.

  73. Cheyanne April 24, 2013 at 9:42 am #

    Hey Chris,
    There’s this guy that makes eye contact, makes jokes, laughs a lot, joke around with me like all the time, He acts different around me i think anyway, he is kinda mean to me sometimes whenever he’s around his friends, and yesterday I’m math class he asked me if I was riding the bus like he wanted to know or something. Please Help, I really like this guy.

    • Cheyanne April 24, 2013 at 9:49 am #

      I like him a lot because he’s sweet and not like any of his friends.

  74. heather wood April 24, 2013 at 6:58 pm #

    Ok so I think he likes me, but is he just after sex? How do I know the difference ?
    Florida girl

  75. Gail Anderson April 25, 2013 at 8:26 pm #

    I saw a man I new from about 5-years ago at a mutual friends wedding. He asked me to dinner and we went out. He hugged me goodnight. We were to have lunch together but he had to cancel as he had to take conference calls from corporate. People asked who I was and I told them just an old friend of his. When he got off the phone he introduced me to his staff as the person going to fill a high level position. He gave me a big hug and said he had more calls. He said I looked like a gangster in the pinstriped suit. I received a text from him saying I looked nice. When will I get more than a hug?

  76. Katherine April 27, 2013 at 7:11 am #

    Hey Chris,
    I realise that i like this guy who i’m not really close with.
    Whenever i try to be friends with him by trying to ask him out to hangout, he’s always busy and just gave me a shy smile in return.
    Now that i find that it’s pointless … i stopped whatever i was doing. But then i realise he would always take the same bus as me almost everyday in the morning suddenly and would try to walk beside me to school. (Some people even misunderstood that we’re together). I would always catch him looking into my direction most of the time. May i know what is this all about? Thanks (:

  77. Kamilla April 27, 2013 at 6:18 pm #

    Hi chris
    I’ve admired this guy for a few months and finally plucked up the courage to (indirectly) ask him out- asked him to help me with something he’s good at. I’m seeing him tomorrow and I don’t know what he thinks of me. I don’t know if he’ll find it a burden or enjoy it. I’ve never dated (always been against short term relationship). I’m scared as ive never had an intimate relationship. He does look me in the eye but it’s difficult to concentrate on him when you feel like melting at his voice. I’m scared he’ll think of me as just another girl or worse an annoying little girl ( he’s older by 1 1/2 years).

  78. Laura April 27, 2013 at 8:54 pm #

    Hey Chris!

    Ok so I go to Panera a lot to study and lately everytime I’ve been one of the guys that works there has been around quite a bit. Every time I go in he calls me by name no matter what I’m doing or what he’s doing; he always addresses me by name and I’ve only seen him once before in the entire six months that I’ve been going.

    He always makes it a point to stand in my line of vision while he’s working and if he’s talking to one of the girls he works with he talks to them in front of me, but he is always kinda leans towards the spot where I sit.

    Because I spend the majority of my time there and basically eat all my meals there he also makes it a point to be around the register; if I’m talking to whoever is taking my order he makes himself busy, but I know he’s listening because he’s only up there while I am and if he takes my order he and I only want one thing he’ll either convince me to add on or he’ll ask me if I’m sure and then slip another random question in there, like the other day I only wanted pasta,but he was like well you can add the side dish and it’ll cost less and I know you need some food because you’re studying awful hard so…what soup do you want and where do you go to school? and then after that little exchange he high fived me which was the first time he’s made any physical contact.

    Then when I was wrapping up my school work he kinda hung around until he was sure I was leaving (once again making himself look busy)and only left once I did. Normally I don’t usually pay much attention to guys who are so nice because I figure most people are nice by nature or at least to the strangers they encounter,especially because it’s the food industry and I am a paying customer,but this is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced and I don’t really know how to interpret it.

  79. Anne April 28, 2013 at 1:11 am #

    Hi Chris! I would love you forever if you could give me some advice on this.

    There’s this one guy I go to school with. We made friends from the very first day and from that moment on we’ve spent a lot of time together. He teases me all the time, he pokes me, bites me playfully and he always sits next to me, touching me everytime he has the chance(as you said, not in a perverted way). We have a lot in common so we talk and laugh and joke around all the time… and also he always walks me home from School. Now, here’s the thing: He claims he is in love with one of my frieds (the same one that is actually madly in love with him as well) asks me what does she like in a man and that kind of stuff… and everytime someone implies to us that we look cute together or that we should give the next step, he backs off and doesn’t talk to me for a few days. I’m all frustrated, does he or does he not like me?


    • Anne April 28, 2013 at 1:58 am #

      Oh, and I forgot to mention, I do tease him all the time too. How far can I take it before it becomes annoying? How do I know when to stop? I don’t want to… bother him.

  80. Melissa April 28, 2013 at 12:53 pm #

    Hi Chris,

    Usually when I’m on my break, I go to this fastfood restaurant to relax. There’s this guy who’s there like every other day… probably on break also and I (think) he first started to look at me with that “side ways” stare. Then he once saw me stand on the side walk and he gave me a “double take” although I will admit I hold a simple advertising sign but I wear regular clothing right now… no costume and was just simply holding it. Also… I was getting up from my seat and about to leave for the day and I saw him standing behind me so I smiled at him for a few seconds. He looked directly into my eyes and looked “friendly” although he didn’t literally smile… he looked at me for the time I was willing to look at him. His posture was “straight” and “open”… no closed arms or hostile expressions. I could be just making assumptions but I was wondering about your thoughts on all of that.
    Thank You so Much, Chris :O)

  81. Ami April 28, 2013 at 1:28 pm #

    Hi Chris,

    Well I really like this boy at school, I’ve liked him for about 8 months now, and I need help trying to figure out if he likes me!

    We first started talking properly like 7 months ago, and at first he talked to me quite a lot, if I saw him walking home he would talk to me with or without my friends (he’s usually alone) and if I saw him in school or before class he would smile at me, and sometimes if there was enough time he would talk to me, but recently if I see him in the hall way he would look down at the floor and before lesson if I see him when I’m waiting for my friend and he’s waiting to go in class, he would usually talk to me quick before but now he ignores me and speaks to other girls and if he’s not I can sometimes feel him looking at me! I’m confused?

    Oh and also when I see him walking home if he’s with a mate he will ignore me , but when I walk past he will look at me, and when I’m with my friends he won’t talk to me and he used to do it regardless! But when I leave my friends he will look and notice me all of a sudden, and he will talk to me, but only when I’m by myself!

    And when he does talk to me he’s like, teasing me an he gets closer! Oh and he says things like ‘you want me to kiss and cuddle you, all the time’ he’s a year older and he’s quite popular I need help?

    • Ami April 28, 2013 at 3:16 pm #

      I also forgot to say that when he’s in front of me walking or just near me, he flirts with other girls, I pretend that I don’t notice but it makes me upset that he’s flirting with other girls, I don’t know if he’s trying to make me jealous because he’s flirtatious guy? Thank you!

  82. Natalie April 28, 2013 at 2:04 pm #

    This is going to be long: I recently started an internship where my supervisor is 2 years younger than me. I can never tell when a guy is interesd in me. I started getting the feeling my supervisor likes me because one day while driving our clients somewhere me and him were having a conversation and while he was suppose to be driving he kept just trying to look at me, once he almost ran a red light because he was trying to just look at em (I know dangerous). Then I started noticing he would compliment my glasses, my outfits, work ethics, even my shoes. At the beginning he had a girlfriend but about 6 weeks ago they broke up and then he started asking me advice on dating other women. He says he doesn’t like dating but then I remind him he is dating 2 females and he’ll deny it saying they are nothing. But other times he’ll ask me how he can know if she is interested. He’ll tell me she laughs at his jokes and he himself recognizes he’s not that funny, and to that I laugh and so he’ll ask me you think I’m funny right. My answer is maybe she’s. Trying to be polite. And then he’ll say in schock you don’t think I’m funny? So I just sit there smiling and nod.

    I’ve also caught I’m staring at me from the corner of my eye. Once I aacepted to drink tea with him (after basically guilt tripping me because he always asks me but I always say no and this particular time he said when will you say yes to something I offer you…so I said yes). And so he prepares the tea and we go sit with these two other female emploeyees that I don’t reallly know. Hes talking to them but as I’m about to take a sip I catch him starring at me from the cornenr of my eye and I start laaughing he makes me so nervous and so as the other female is stalking to him he asks me if I was okay and I just nod saying I was laughing about something that happened earlier. This happens a lot him starring at me and when I turn to let him know I can tell he’s starring we just hold our eye contact until I break away.

    I don’t know if I’m over analyzing things and hes just doing his job, hes very confident. If he sees a pretty girl he’ll mention it to me so then I think he doesn’t like me. Plus he’s dating these other girls and asking me advice on them. Is he just being a player?

  83. andrea April 28, 2013 at 10:47 pm #

    First of all, I think it’s great that you willingly help out women like this, thank you :)
    I’m in high school and I like this guy who’s a bit of a flirt and player, but he’s a good guy. Last year, we were flirting with each other a lot and made a lot of eye contact, and he wanted me to sit with him in classes and such. He specifically wanted a picture with me on the last day of school and he put his arm around me for that.
    When we came back to school this year, the flirting stopped but we started texting HEAPS, like everyday, and that’s continued for a few months. For about a week and occasionally now, he would call me in the morning or I would call him to wake me/him up. I remember once, he went completely out of his way to say hi to me, he was so far away, I didn’t even see him. I can’t help but notice that he seems to smile a lot whenever he sees me. He has also come up with nicknames for me.
    But like I said, he’s a bit of a player and he’s linked with some other girls in my grade as well. I don’t know how he acts around them though, what do you think?
    Thanks :)

  84. Leah April 30, 2013 at 2:07 am #


    Theres this guy in my show and most of the girls all have HUGE crushes on him. Theyre always around him, offering him things. I get it… He has an AMAZING personality, talented and he’s HOT. However, I’m not ALWAYS around him (i’ve known him for a few weeks). In the beggining he seemed to make LOTS of eye contact with me… He would be looking at me then I would catch catch him staring and vice versa. Then we would start having small conversations between rehearsal and he’d make me laugh alot. We had a good mutual friend and she would sometimes hang with him, and I would too. From there it progressed. This past weekend we got SUPER CLOSE… Super fast (which I dont mind), we shared drinks and were being stupid backstage. We were laying down on a round table because we thought it would smart to share 4 energy drinks… We crashed. And he was resting his arm on me and we were basically cuddling. He offered to give me a back massage and he massaged me until I was asleep. Then during the show we were on opposite sides of a staircase, he told me to scoot, so i scooted and he rested his head on my lap and we slept like that and later I did the sae with my head, our friend took a picture w/o us knowing. He then found out about it and said “Hah, look what she took a picture of ;) ”. Another thing was during break he would always try to find ways to touch me more. Like when I brought an empty cup (my hand was infront of him slightly closed) he slivered his hand so it was under mine and clasping his hand and told me something. Also, he told a joke to a group of friends and litterally NO ONE else except me and him understood it. He then said “YOU out of all people, come here” and gave me a hug. Things like this happens all the time. Does he like me? He doesnt do this with anyother girls

  85. miranda April 30, 2013 at 5:04 am #

    Hi. I like this guy inn my uni. When i come in i see him he looks at me in the eye i look back. I was oncr talking to my freinds and laughing then he looked. I like him bt i dont knw if he likes me back

  86. Sofia April 30, 2013 at 4:47 pm #

    Hi Chris , I don’t know if this guy likes me or not today I was in school no one I school was just he’s class and I was near my closet and suddenly he get out I didn’t see him but I felt was he then he’s friends was out school but he didn’t out ,he call he’s friends and start to talk to them then I look at him then he get out to them I think he want me to know that he is here ,and he always play next to my closet with he’s friends and fight and during he fight he look at me then look to he’s friend and make a small laugh to him and all he’s friends and I always see him near to me and when I look at him he look at the floor ,oh I’m not following him in Instagram but when I put a pic he put pic &when I change my pic he change it &put pic parallel to my pic,thanks to hear my story but please tell me if he likes me or not

  87. lola April 30, 2013 at 6:41 pm #

    Hi, i liked this website , its preety cool…
    Well here is the thing : I have met this guy..we are in the same class at high school, and i am not sure if he likes me or just behaving like himslef .I catch him staring and we had the eye connection BUT: when he is with his friends he ignores me .sometimes he is talking to them but looking towards me..othertimes he is flirting but then looks back and often smile..and then he turns his head away…recently he strated to kick my leg and cuz i smiled or what ( did say what is he doing ) but i didnt say like : STOP .. So , he is popular and really i dodnt know if he is just joking and treating me like a friend, by the way we dont talk mutch , ..So what is the matter with him , or me ?

  88. Laura April 30, 2013 at 10:56 pm #

    So I’ve known this guy since elementary school and were we’re friends before I left for three years. When I came back, we were at the same school but never talked. Four years later in high school, I happen to have a class with him and last week, I think I might have noticed some of the signs.

    1. He hasn’t been his crazy, outgoing self who I reacquainted myself with a few months ago.
    2. Whenever we go places in my class, he walks with me and he always happens to walk closely as if he is incapable of walking in a straight line and if I walk farther away, he always seems to end up walking close enough to almost bump into.
    3. He switched seats with me when I said something about the sun being in my face
    4. He touched my shoulder (close to a light tap) last time and told me he would see me later
    5. He always wants me as his partner or in his group during projects

    So there is a possibility that it’s just my imagination, but I wanted your opinion on the matter.

  89. Lauren April 30, 2013 at 11:53 pm #

    Theres this guy in my class I think might like me.. beacause I told him to go out with this other girl who likes him but he said he wasnt going to go out with her because He said he was waiting for someone to come around… and he was looking me right in the eyes when he said this…. what does this mean???

  90. Akira May 1, 2013 at 7:48 pm #

    Hi Chris!

    Well theres this guy in almost all my classes that i like, but we never talk, hang out, or anything, and ive tried talking to him but he is really quiet and when im in class i always catch him staring at me and he will get up and walk twards me, but then it always turns out that hes going over to one of his friends that are around me. My friends keep saying that i should ask him out but, i dont know if he really likes me or is just acting the way he is…

  91. Sophia May 2, 2013 at 12:37 am #

    Hey Chris so there’s this guy at the gym and I feel like he likes me then I don’t . He talks and smiles, he’ll joke around with me. He always let me know if i need a spot he’ll spot me. But sometimes he knows I’m there and won’t acknowledge me?? He is six years older than me. What should I do I really like him??

  92. cherry May 2, 2013 at 5:57 pm #

    If the guy stares at you, should you stare back or brake eye contact?

  93. cherry May 2, 2013 at 5:59 pm #

    If a guy stares at you, should you break eye contact, stare back or pretend you don’t know?Just tell me what you should do

  94. Jess May 2, 2013 at 10:11 pm #

    Theres this guy that I’ve been crushing on for a while and we’ve grown really close lately, im not sure if he likes me as a friend or more. He flirts with me alot and is always teasing me and complimenting me and wanting to spend time with me, we also text all the time and even when hes away and its long distance he makes the time to email or call me. I thought he was showing signs that he liked me too but just recently we were talking and this girl’s name came up and he said he thought she was pretty cute and joked about dating her. What does this mean? does he still like me or was i completely reading too deeply into things? And if he does like me why hasnt he made a move yet?

  95. Liv May 2, 2013 at 10:29 pm #

    I like this kid in my grade. I have no classes with him but he is on my bus. and we are in the same lunch.

    I am friends with his sister (same age)

    he knows I like him

    his sister is just a little mad at me for ‘flirting” with him

    and worst part is I am very shy around boys

    I don’t want to ruin my friendship with his sister but I realllly like him. and he is starting to flirt back(I think)

    for an example, today was his birthday, on the bus way home I gave him a piece of gum (because in the morning I gave him cookies and shit…)he held out hid hand until I fist pumped him back

    also the other day when I missed the bus, I saw him in the hallway, he went down a different hall just to walk me half way to class.

    my group of friends are nice, I am starting to get excluded (4 of us) his sister doesn’t really talk to me unless she wants something…

    I am almost super sure he likes me back


    just the other day I was snapchatting a family friend that goes to my school, in my math class

    hes not supper cute and I don’t like totally like him I just want us to be closer friends

    he snapchatted me: I think we should hook up, or I want to hook up wit you

    I am pretty sure it would be his first. and his parents are super strict, more than mine,(and I got my fone taken away for 3 months…)

    what should I do with guy # 1 (I like) and guy #2 (okay)


    ps: I love this website

  96. May May 3, 2013 at 9:00 am #

    Hi Chris
    i have this issue and i need your advice
    one month ago i met my new friend(guy)…we text each other,call…and he ask me out four times but i was busy so i blew off that chance…and he always told me that if im bored or anything i can just text or call him..so i did just that…but he never really reply straight away he will just reply me a few days later or sometimes never at all…i dont know what he is actually thinking…i dont usually text him just a few times he does the texting all the time…i cabt read his body language at all …its was very confusing…please help me

  97. Ashley May 3, 2013 at 2:52 pm #

    Hello Chris,

    Okay, so I’ve been in a bunch of pages and I think you are the one that can help me the most. He happens to be my coworker and it is just the two of us and I see him all the time but the thing is he has girlfriend. We play around and we tease each other and I guess we throw indirects. When I ask him about his girlfriend he really doesn’t like to talk about her but I just don’t know. We’ve gone out a couple of times but he has never made a move on me. Sometimes when I try not to talk to him, I guess he notices and starts bothering me or going to where I am. He confuses me a lot so I really don’t know if he likes me or not. Also, I never go out for lunch but when I do he starts asking me where I’m going and why. Or when I don’t go to work he asks me why, where was I and all that until he finds out what I did. I don’t really know, Please some feed back, we’re young, only 20 so I don’t know

  98. "Deeeeee" May 3, 2013 at 8:36 pm #

    Hi Chris! So Theres this guy, we have two classes together, but we rarely talk. I mean RARELY, in the past two months, we’ve inly spoken twice, and both lasted less than a minute. Hes friends with most of my friends. Hes friendly, and always smiling.I usually catch him looking at me, and we’d make eye contact. This happens frequently. When we pass each other in the hall. I messaged him once, and never tried it again cause he didnt reply. Yeterday, as we were leaving the school, i saw two of my friends an noticed he was walking with them, and they were laughing. I approched my friend cause i was looking for someone. As soon as he saw me approching, his smile went away. And he walked away faster and left my two friends… I dont know what i did, or what is going on…

    • "Deeeeee" May 4, 2013 at 3:20 am #

      Ok, so i dont think he likes me, but any explanation on the sudden change in attitude?

  99. Miranda May 4, 2013 at 2:57 pm #

    So there’s this guy and his name is Justin. He always looks at me, no matter what! His best friend’s name is Gaelyn and he’s my friend as well. Justin and Gaelyn always tease eachother saying “there’s your girl” as i pass. Justin went up to me the other day and said Gaelyn told him to give me a hug. When it was just me and Justin, he was nice, he shook my hand, touched my shoulder every time he passed, etc, but when he’s with his friends, he turns into this confident and cocky guy. Then a few days ago Justin told me to come with him, and Gaelyn was saying “I’m gonna kill you, I’m gonna kill you for like a week” to him. Justin said “he wanted to say hi to you(:” i said “gaelyn did?” he said “well both of us” i said “hi gaelyn(:” justin said “hi miranda(:” and then i proceeded to say hi to him and then that was it, because i had to go. And when I asked gaelyn about it, he said “why do you care, does it bother you, etc”. So I asked Justin, and he said “Tyler wanted me to. We were giving Gaelyn crap” (as Justin was rushing to class, he seemed kind of nervous) so what’s going on with this?? also, many of my friends said they can “tell” justin likes me. Please help, I’m so confused?!

  100. Sarah May 4, 2013 at 10:13 pm #

    Hey Chris, I’m kinda in a big mess right now. A year ago I was dating this guy and everything was really great, until I got freaked out and I dumped him. Then I was sorry and was trying to make everything okay again. It didn’t really work out. He dumped me then. He started to date someone else and so we didn’t talk for a year. Now, a year later, we became friends, but it’s really weird. We’ve been friends for quite some time now, but we’re like always fighting for some really dumb things. And he’s always mean to me. Yet, I can’t really move on and forget about everything. I tried to lose touch but we have all the same friends, so we hang out every weekend. I also tried to tell him that I still kinda like him, but I’m not sure that that’s a good idea. At the beginning, when we started to be friends again, he asked me out and I rejected him. I’m not really sure why. We were texting all the time and went out for drinks. But we were never really alone, not ever since last year, ’cause he always calls someone to join us. So yeah, we said we were gonna be friends, and I tried to be his friend. But it’s like he can be nice to everyone, except me. There’s always some drama. Once I didn’t text him back for like an hour and he was all mad and stuff. And then there are these jokes that he makes about ‘his girlfriend’. He doesn’t really have one, he’s just always telling me this. It’s funny,’cause when someone else asks him, he’s single as fuck. Is it possible that he still likes me and is just trying to make me jealous? Or is it too late and should I move on? He also told my best friend that it’s probably for the best if we don’t date again,’cause he would just hurt me again. But then again, he’s always telling something and then doing the other thing. Please help me if you can.. I could really use an advice right now.

  101. Amby May 5, 2013 at 12:04 am #

    I need help!I’ve had a crush on this guy for a year and half, he is Mormon and I’m Indian. I’m a junior and he is a senior.He is super funny,helpful,nice, sweet, cute and simply amazing! Many girls have a crush on him, but he doesn’t like any of them. He has known for over a year that I like him. But he is very religious and lives by his principles.He doesn’t want to date in high school which I completely agree with. We both believe that its pointless to do so if you aren’t trying to get married. And despite that he knows that I like him he’s always been super kind!We both play the tennis and tend to see each other often, whether its at practice, matches, or club meetings for the clubs we both are involved in. He always gives me mixed signals, for example he stares at me although we look away. He waits multiple minutes for me just to hold the door open for me. He tries to talk to me. And always is trying to help me.
    So one day I go up to him to ask him and this convo follows: me: Hey do you have a minute?
    him: Yeah
    me: I wanted to tell you I was really confused by your answer yesterday
    him: … *staring at me*
    me: All I wanted to know, was whether you felt the same way abt me as I feel abt you. Just answer yes or no. I know you don’t want to date. And I understand that cuz I don’t believe in dating in high school as well.
    I just need to know your answer, if you say no, its my problem.
    him: No, its not your problem. Its not anybody’s problem.
    me: And if you say yes, then the least we could do is be friends, we could get to know each other, and there won’t be any regrets. Don’t think that saying no will hurt. Just answer the question. Do you like me?
    him: Yes, I do like you. I just don’t want to date anybody, right now. I’m not at a point in my life where I want that kind of relationship.
    me: I know that and I understand but that’s wht I am trying to say. I think your confused. *At that point I avoid looking into his eyes, and looked away.
    I’m just asking you for an actual answer. *bell rings* A yes or no.
    him: Okay, so if I say no wht will it mean and if I say yes wht will it mean?
    me: If you say yes, we could actually spend time together, be friends and get to know each other. There won’t be regrets. If you say no, its not like I will ignore you or something. We could still talk and be friends.
    him: In that case it will be a no. Its not like I don’t like you. I like you, for who you are. * again I look away, but this time at the clock. For a second think I’m gonna be late for third.* And we could be friends and still talk.
    Me: *super confused, with a lot on my mind* Umm, okay. I gotta go, I’m gonna be late to third.

    And then days later, he comes up talks to me asking abt my break. Couple of days after that he tells me “Good job! You played great during your match!” (I know he watches my matches all the time. But he always acts as if he isn’t watching them. For example: he will be watching me and smile when I score a point but will act as if he is watching the match on the courts next my partner and I) And the following week after practice, my parents couldn’t pick my sister and I up so we decided to walk home. He overheard the conversation. And after we walked around the block. He pulled his car over (he was driving, his brother in passenger and a guy on our team that asked for a ride in the back) and his brother asked if they could give us a ride. And when I said “oh its okay, its only half a mile or so.” His brother said nothing but he asked multiple times “Are you sure?” But when I refused, they drove away. And for a week we didn’t talk but then he came up to me as I was making prom arrangements and asked “Did things come across to you wrong? I still want be friends with you.” I told him “No, it didn’t come across wrong. I realize that you still want to be friends and all. Did I do something to make it seem like it did?” And says, “No. I was just wondering.” and when it gets quiet. he tells me, “Have fun with those (referring to the flowers in my hand)” And I say, *sarcastically* “Oh, yeah, its going to be blast!” And I laugh and so does he.

    So what am I supposed to make of this? Does he like me or not? or not? Is he just trying to not keep us from not getting closer? Specially since he is graduating at the end of this month and then he leaves for his mission.So at the end it probably will just hurt us both.

    (Sorry this is so long! But I really need an answer! I don’t want things to end in the wrong way for us.)

  102. Natalie May 5, 2013 at 1:31 am #

    So I’ve been talking to a coworker, he is 2 years older than me. The age don’t matter but we’ve been txting and I really thpught we were flirting he would invite me to his place , to pizza, or just a ride in his car. we haven’t had a chance to do any of that anyway but than he mention that during work he got this girls number and he was happy about it, I just told him ” Haha Good for you” that just made me think, is he just being really friendly or what. He still asks me when we going to hang out and when i told him about a guy that likes me he said “he only wants to get it on” so im not sure what to think.. if we’re just friends” or if he’s fliring

  103. Anonymous 1 May 5, 2013 at 9:38 am #

    I have a crush who is a month younger than me and im not sure if he likes me or not. Some girls sometimes sit round us and he every time starts a joke to the girls, he always stares at me. He stares at me alot and if i stare back, hes not bothered. So does he like me or what?

  104. Lara May 5, 2013 at 9:53 am #

    Hey, Chris!

    I really, really happen to like this kid that I work with. But it’s hard to tell if he likes me back, since he’s a pretty friendly, outgoing guy in general.

    We talk everytime that out shifts overlap, even if it’s just in greeting. We like the same video games, the same music, and our sense of humor is almost identical. He pokes fun at me sometimes, like he might tell me to ‘get back to work’ if he catches me without any customers. I always joke back, but I worry if it’s more ‘friend-zoning’ than light flirting.

    Sometimes, when we talk, his gaze only rests on mine briefly, before flitting away again. Other times, when he catches my eye, he’ll start singing song lyrics to a band that we both like really loudly, as if to snag my attention. If he happens to catch me glancing at him, he might start playing air guitar or banging out some drum solo. . or basically acting like kind of a dork. I always laugh, though, and I haven’t really seen him act like this with anyone else in the store. . .

    Recently, we developed this sort of inside joke, where we both talk in British accents to each other. When he is talking to someone near me, sometimes he slips into the accent and glances over, to see if I’m paying attention. I know it’s silly, but I also know that he doesn’t speak in an accent (at least, not at work) when I’m not around to hear it.

    Often times, too, he’ll walk outside with me when I leave the store (his position allows him to go outside frequently), and he’ll ask me about this new song or this new game etc. etc.

    There are a bunch of concerts coming up this summer that I know we would both like to go to, as well, but I don’t just want to invite him if this isn’t how he sees our relationship. Plus, he seems like that kinda guy who would rather make the first move. . .which he really isn’t. . .

    So, what should I do? Does it seem like he likes me? Or has he friend-zoned me?

  105. Phoebe May 5, 2013 at 10:59 am #

    Hello chris,
    theres a guy that sits by me in class, he moved by me not too long ago because a new student who apparently tried to fight him once sat in front of him. Anyways, he pokes me quite often instead of calling my name and the other day he asked if i was going to see a move and i think he may of hesitated to ask me out…
    Does he like me?

  106. Megan May 5, 2013 at 12:36 pm #


    I have a guy friend who has caugh my eye all semester at college, and we’ve hung out many times in a gorup setting. This past weekend we spend a lot more time together one on one. We went out star tipping (a game where you look up at the sky and spin, then someone shines a light in your eyes and you fall to the ground- kind of stupid, but fun) last night with a mutual friend. Our mutual friend left, so it was just the two of us outside at 11pm. We decided to keep playing our stupid game, and we were laughing, bumping into eachother, touching eachother’s shoulders, and he even helped pick me up when I would fall. He was very gentle and at one point I really thought he was going to kiss me. There was just this very short moment where he had his hand on my shoulder and we made intense eye contact, but then nothing happened. This is just one recent instance that I made me wonder if he likes me. I wasn’t purposefully flirting with him, but I noticed that I was flirting. I’m falling pretty quickly for him, but I don’t know if he is interested or not. He is very shy and quiet, even around our friend group, but he is very laid back and fun when he is around me. Thanks Chris!

  107. Vanessa May 5, 2013 at 3:04 pm #

    Hi Chris!

    So I was at prom dancing beside my best friend and her bf was dancing with her. Then this guy that I’ve known for 3 years but never really talked to started dancing with me. I watched in awe bc he can dance better than anyone there. Then he said something I cldnt really hear, whispered something to my friends date (a football player), and walked away. I felt like he may have thought I didn’t want to dance with him (not the case) and later convinced him to dance again. He had a prom date (but he’s single) but she’d left him. Hes a football player and I’m kind of a nerd. So clearly he’s out of my league. Now im a little confused. Does he like me or was he just being nice?

  108. Taylor May 5, 2013 at 10:15 pm #

    There’s this guy i like. He and i are on the cross country team. He flirts with me a lot and he exhibits a lot of the signs above. But there is this girl( we’ll call her Ashley) well Ashley started cross country and all of a sudden he talks to her a lot yet at a cross country meet they were sitting together and he would keep looking at me. He still flirts with me yet he talks to her alot. That’s another problem i have with him. He never talks to me really. He’ll pick on me forever and a day but he won’t have a normal conversation with me. I am just wondering if he likes me. Do u think he does?

  109. Ginny May 6, 2013 at 1:10 pm #

    Hey , so there’s this guy I like, we don’t actually know each other he works at this place I go to sometimes. I started liking him and then it seemed like he liked me to, we made eye contact for like more than 3 seconds and he kind of had a little smile on his face but I know that he’s very shy and inexperinced as my friend knows him well, then the next couple of times that I went there he kinda smiled at me and then he had to serve me and was acting different and he barely spoke. So anyway I contacted him over Facebook and told him I liked him, he saw the inbox and never replied. A little while later I contacted he’s friend and he said he would speak to him for me anyway he did and apparently the guy said he just didn’t have time for stuff like that so I started to think maybe that was he way of saying he didn’t like me but that’s not very clear, I get that he probably doesn’t want to seem mean and say he’s not interested but he could have just for he’s friend to say that. Anyway we recently passed each other on the road and as we were driving past each other we made eye contact and he didn’t try to avoid me or anything. I’m not the on,y one that thinks he’s interested but I’m just wondering could a guy be to shy to do anything even though he already knows I’m interested or am I just fooling myself and he really doesn’t like me. It’s just there were so many signs that he did and then I to,d him and nothing and I’m to shy to approach him face to face exspecially since he ignored my last attempt. Should I try again to you think he likes me or am I wasting my time?@

  110. Taylor May 6, 2013 at 5:43 pm #

    Hey Chris,

    I hope you don’t mind me getting some advice from you. There is this guy (we’ll call him Jake)that I like. He flirts with me and shows all the signs above, but there is this girl (we’ll call her Ashley)that also likes him (she actually told me this). They talk a lot and they kind of flirt with each other too but when he does flirt with her he looks at me I guess to see if I am looking. I don’t understand why he would flirt with me and flirt with her. It just makes me plain irritated. I don’t necessarily like this girl as well. He will just pick on me for forever and a day, but he barely picks on her. What does this mean? Does he like me or Ashley?
    Thanks so much, Taylor

  111. Mady May 6, 2013 at 9:44 pm #

    hey! OK so I’m in high school and I am positive that this guy likes me or my best fiend. His best friend is obsessed with my best friend. I like him, however her flirts with my friend and I… we normally joke around and are sarcastic, he compliments me on how I look, how smart I am, and stuff like that. He does similar things to my best friend. The main differences is how we shove each other in the hallway, and we joke around at each others lockers… My friend is positive that he likes me, but I’m sure he likes her… Thanks for your help!

  112. Jade May 6, 2013 at 10:10 pm #

    Hi Chris,
    I have this really good friend who i’ve liked since forever, we see each other a lot in the summer. But since we only see each other in the summer, my affection for him is on and off and so is his. We saw each other a few days ago and I was really hoping he would still show signs of affection or me, due to the fact I haven’t seen him in a while. But sadly I couldn’t really tell. He did “play” with me and was friendly with me, but thats his nature. The only big remark i saw was that he stared at me for a while thinking i wasn’t watching.
    Does he still like me?
    Thanks a million,

  113. lily May 7, 2013 at 2:30 am #

    so I have this friend he has a girlfriend but he still hangs out with me all the time. it seems like
    he would rather be with me than with his girlfriend. his girlfriend doesn’t like me but he told me not to worry about it. he is so flirty do you think that he likes me?

  114. nidhi May 7, 2013 at 1:29 pm #

    Can you help me decipher whether this guy likes me or not ..
    see, he is my married boss and am married too..i have a huge crush on him..and he acts differently around me, though he is extra nice and caring for everyone, like you can say he is too good to be true…every girl likes him..and once, he said to me that i am one of the best girls around..(that was work wise i guess) ..am a good hard working employee..what i want to know is how to know if he likes me or is just being nice..or may be keeping me as an option, having an idea that i like him or may be, treating me like a good employee.
    i have observed his body language, seems to be in my angle only most of the times, and he does looks at me at times, when am not looking .. also, he talks to me in a very friendly way(that is the way, he talks to everyone) when for work…but otherwise..he is just casual ..
    also, when i was out of office, he knew for how many days, still he asked 2,3 times my friends that when will i come back ..
    pls. guide me as to am i imagining things or is there something. ??
    P.S. – i love my husband and have no intentions of spoiling anything, just want to be admired by my object of admiration…pls. reply soon..thank u !!

  115. Ashley May 7, 2013 at 2:56 pm #

    So there is this guy and he is a total player. He flirts with a ton of girls and is extremely confident around the whole flirting/girl topic. He started taking interest in me about 4 months ago when he saw that I wasn’t the usual girl who sucked up to him and instead I was kind of the “hard to get” kind of girl. Even if I would ignore him and stuff and act like I wasn’t interested, we would flirt sometimes so that I didn’t seem like a jerk. So this on and off flirting thing has been going on for a while now and supposedly my friends think that he actually likes me. I’m not even sure if hes trying to get me to give in to him/we are playing the “game” or if hes starting to fall for me. So once my friend told me that she was near him and this other girl and this girl was like yelling at him because he thought she was me. So he called her by my name and she turns around and gets really mad because she’s jealous. Ever since then, he hasn’t been talking to me/ignoring me. I don’t know if it was because of that or its because he wants me to talk to HIM instead of the other way around. Also, he teases me a lot and calls out my name when hes with his friends and stuff. But he also touches me and says he “wants” me. I’m just not sure if he actually likes me or just wants me sexually. OK I know this is lot of information but my overall question is, does he like me? And why do you think he starts ignoring me sometimes?

  116. Aly May 7, 2013 at 6:45 pm #

    Hey Chris,
    So I’ve been talking to this guy for a while, and I really like him… I met him through my best friend a couple months back (when I had just broken up with my ex), and he asked for my number, and we’ve been talking ever since. We hang out almost every weekend (with my bestfriend and alone), and I think he does like me. He moves closer in to me when we talk, puts his arm around me, and smiles a lot when we’re together, and he’s even told me that he thought I was beautiful…
    The problem is that he hasn’t ever told me he likes me, or say anything about our “relationship”? He’s never tried to kiss me or hold my hand either… What is he doing? And does he for sure like me? If so, what is the hold up? It’s been over 3 months now!
    Thank you!

  117. Lydia May 7, 2013 at 7:34 pm #

    Hi Chris! There is this guy that I really like. He is very shy . We went on a field trip where he followed me around and kept on touching me. He even carried my bag, and I’m not sure, but I think that he was about to kiss me(he leaned in and was staring at my lips), but my friends came out of nowhere and dragged me away.He would text me, call me and stare at me in class, but after we came back from the field trip he is kind of ignoring me and not talking to me like he used to. My friend asked him why he was ignoring me and not talking to me, and he said he didn’t know that I thought that he was ignoring me, and that I was kind of annoying. I need help figuring out if he likes me or not and what to do . Thanks!!!

  118. Yb May 7, 2013 at 8:26 pm #

    Hello there Chris,

    I’m really confused about a guy, please help me out here. Advice will be greatly appreciated!! Thanks in advance :)

    I first met this guy about 2 months back in a club, with the night ending with us making out at his place. He didn’t ask for my number, but he did add me on facebook. Since then, we’ve been meeting up regularly, sometimes for a movie at his place, but always ending with a make out session at least.

    Well, you’d think that he’s just interested in the sexual bit, but then he’s really sweet and nice to me. We talk quite a lot through facebook message and I’m not always the one initiating conversations or asking questions to keep it going. I’d say probably half the time he’d initiate, asking me how I am and stuff. When we’re together, he makes a lot of eye contact with me, especially when we’re just lying in bed. He’d stare so deep into my eyes (not in a creepy way) and he’d smile at me a lot. We’ve only really gone out on a date once (technically it wasn’t exactly a date, I slept at his place the night before and we just went out for lunch and then grocery shopping haha), he paid for my meal (I wouldn’t assume anything about this since he’s a really polite person). But when we were walking along the streets, there was no physical contact between us at all, we just acted entirely as though friends.

    Complication is, he is leaving the UK to go back to Germany in a month’s time. I’m guessing that’s what that is holding him back from allowing this ‘friends with benefits’ relationship to develop. But that is if he’s even interested at all. For all I know, he has been nice to me only because that’s just how he is and he’s nice to all his friends.

    What do you think of this? Please do let me know. Thanks again!!

  119. Michelle May 7, 2013 at 10:48 pm #

    Hey Chris ,

    This is a really late reply xD but Iv really started to like this guy in my judo class and iv had a few people say they think that he likes me but I’m not overly sure . He’s a year or two older then me , and he’s super handsome . I resently took a while off judo because I hurt my back and I just returned tonight , the first thing he said to me is ” I haven’t seen you in three weeks (I never kept count of how long myself) , are you alright ?” I explained to him about my back and he understood . When it came to partnering up he did his usual look around the mat then ask me to be his partner but I didn’t have my judo belt on right then so I had to go grab it when I came back he was partnered up with one if the teachers , for the whole time we were doing that activity I kept noticing him glancing at me . Later on when we started ground work he imdiently asked me to be his partner and of course I said yes , while in one of the hold downs he mentioned that he liked the perfume I was wearing and that my hair was really soft . The has complemented me a few times before and always gets mad when I say something negotive about my self . His dad is also typically the teacher and when he isent there his dad puts extra focus on teaching me . We also hug before we leave judo and I mentioned that I needed a French tutor and he volunteered pretty quickly , so I do have his number but I’m so scared to call him .

    I think he might like me but I’m afraid of asking him out then making things awkward at judo if I just read his signals wrong . He’s pretty funny and not often seriouse but when you get to know him he’s really smart . I think maybe he’s just like this with everyone ? What’s your opinion ?

  120. nessa May 8, 2013 at 3:16 am #

    I have been friend with this guy since high school and we used to live in the same neighborhood. Four months ago he moved away and since then we had stopped talking, about a week ago he texted me and he told me that’s he’s going to the army for a year or two and he said that he liked me since the first day we met. I know that I liked him too and I told him how I felt. Sometime we spent hours talking and other time he just ignored me or he is waiting for me to text him first and I’m the one always ask him questions he never asked me anything. I don’t know why he told me he likes me now when he’s going away and does he really likes me? Or he is just a player? He keeps calling me gorgeous and pretty every time is that even mean anything because that’s all he has been saying about me? I’m confused I don’t know what to believe. Please if anybody can give me any advice that would be nice thank you.

  121. lexi May 8, 2013 at 7:30 am #

    hey its like i have a crush on one of my FRIENDS , he is not in our school and its like i have 2 questions.
    1)how to show him i like him ?
    2)any tests to know he likes me ?
    i actually think he likes me you know like many incidents have happened because of which i had to think again and again that he does like me like once-
    i got hurt on my leg and one of my friends were forcing me to do lock ( i do water ballet its one of the steps) in the swimming pool and he came and actually kinda yelled like ‘she has got hurt god leave her alone’
    and then once i vomitted and he was running like a mad person to bring things for me and all….
    tell me please if he likes me and
    1)how to show him i like him ?
    2)any tests to know he likes me ?

  122. Mahi May 8, 2013 at 1:47 pm #

    Hi Chris.

    I have this friend who is a guy that I’ve known for years,we have the same group of friends and i’m really close with his brother. But i’m not sure if he likes me or not. Last year he was being extremely flirty with me in the things that he was saying and trying to touch me loads, like stroking my arm, putting his hand on my shoulder trying to hold my hand and things like that. My friend confronted him over Skype about the way he was acting towards me. He said i was reading into things. so i left it. At the beginning of this year he started acting like that again, but he’s a little different he seems more genuine. Like this time he keeps asking how my day has been,if i want anything from the shops he offers to buy it for me. When ever we go out to eat in a group of friends he always finds his way next to me been jokingly suggesting we get together in the future. But then sometimes if my arm hits his by accident he shouts don’t touch me or even if i put my legs on his. But gets funny if i don’t high five him, and his friends have been teasing him about another girl that he has been texting alot that he likes. But when he’s brother said to him that i would never go for him he sat there quietly. Is he just being flirty because he wants attention?

  123. Marie May 8, 2013 at 3:46 pm #

    So I got my first job three months ago at a paintball/ airsoft facility.. I am the first girl to work there. Ever. I get along with everyone ok but there is this one guy that I kinda had a crush on ever since I saw him. But I was in a relationship so I just let it go. Unfortunately my relationship is falling apart after four years due to his drug habit and refusal to change. Last week, while working this guy randomly asked me if I was married. I said no and just went on. Later on that day he asked me if I was in a relationship or single or in an open relationship. I just told him that it was complicated mainly because I still love my former ex and want to work things out but I know that as long as he is doing what he’s doing and won’t seek help that it is a loss cause. I know this probably sends up a red flag but I’ve been off the market for so long and have such low self esteem that I’m just so confused. Not to mention I’ve only been in one relationship. I really like him but I’m scared that its too good to be true. After reading this I remember how when we ref together how he always comes extremely close to listen or talk to me but I just thought maybe he couldn’t hear me well, also when I was aggravated one day when I came to work he came up from behind and hugged me and told me everything would be ok. Am I missing all these signs or am I just getting all worked up for nothing?

  124. Giafani May 8, 2013 at 5:20 pm #

    Hi, Chris!
    i have been reading your comments and your kind respond to every person.
    i feel like sharing my part of the story too.

    First of all, i like this guy a lot. (at times when he’s around)
    He always makes me to have my full attention on him. somehow.
    We ONLY hangout with the groups. So, there are five guys in the group and i’m the only girl. They are all a joker. I joke back too if they started to flirt with me.
    however, there is one guy in the group that really catches my attention. At first, i like him because of his smile. as times goes by, he started flirting with me. look at me, touches me (my hands and like smile at me but still won’t let go of my hands) but then after awhile, he said: “just kidding” and start talking to the other guys. and show like he likes me. like: calling me names. sometimes he would be like “baby,” or “honey,” or even “wife.” (that’s before tho)
    But they all know that i am a flirt and i know they are all do too!
    Back then, we texted a lot.he even called me a flirt in the text. But he never ask me out by myself. Now, we don’t text each other anymore.
    We had some serious conversation too, we talk individually. when all the other guys went smoking outside. He used to ask me, any guys or something like that. and i would say, nah, I’m not really looking for relationship and etc. and he would say: same! me too!
    He is a friendly guy but cool in someway when it comes to girls. i guess.

    So yeah, but every time we met. i always like him.
    Does he likes me? or because i am the only girl in the group that he can be flirting with?
    and why he never asked me out individually? But other guys in the group, at times, would ask me out personally?


  125. Lauren May 8, 2013 at 7:53 pm #

    Hello Chris! (:
    I have this friend and I like him alot. But the signals of him liking me I can’t tell if he likes me or not. I’m in high school, he’s one of my close friends, we have 3 out of 4 classes together. He sits by me all the time, takes my seat in class, picks on me, he makes me carry him around, he’s always around me. He hugs me gets close to me like we’reabout to kiss. Stuff like that. We used to text all the time but we don’t talk anymore unless it’s at school :/ he doesn’t always give me signals like this. But he has been the last couple of days. So does he like me? Do you think?

  126. Jessica May 9, 2013 at 1:45 am #

    Hey chris! Help me in my situation please? :( i have a crush on a guy in my class, i shall refer him as X from now. Usually we talk and suddenly i treat him like my good friend and yes i do still like him but i prefer us to be best friends. His best friend once told me that he like me but i chose not to believe it because well, his friend is always such a liar. Anyway,my friends like to pair me up with X , im fine with it as long as they dont say it front of him. One day he sat at the table beside me (single row!) and they were like “ohhhhh” then his friend asked me if i could change seat with him because he want to talk to X , to prevent my friends from teasing me in front of X, i switched place. But how wrong am i, they told his friend that he is breaking me and X apart , RIGHT IN FROMT OF X! They also asking him if he like me and etc. Thanks to that, we dont talk or even have eye contact and smile or whatever to each other. Can you help me? Really want to salvage this friendship with X.

  127. Payton Rifley May 9, 2013 at 2:38 am #

    Hi Chris :D
    I’m in high school, and I have a crush on a kid who is new to the school by a couple weeks. He always teases me (like takes my things when I’m not looking and smiles and laughs when I try to get it back) and I tease him back as well:). we only have one class together, and I get butterflies when I see him in the halls because he always says hi and stuff :D . He lately has been walking me all the way to my bus, and if I’m walking alone he usually gets my attention by throwing a snowball at me or something (I do it too lol). I caught him once looking at me in class, and he just smiled and kept doing his work :) . I think I really like this kid and I really think he likes me back, but I don’t know! I don’t see him often enough to know how he acts around other people and if that’s just his personality? Could you give me your advice? Thank you (:

  128. elle May 9, 2013 at 4:50 am #

    Hey Chris, I’m in a bit of a situation.. There’s this guy that ive known for four years and within the four years we have always had this secret thing going on, but we never admitted to ourselves. But when i say “thing” i mean we are physical but friends at the same time. Within this time i have developed feelings for him which have had me in tears before and never have told him, but ive convinced myself that i don’t like him, but really i do. Hard to understand proberly but yeah basically hes a very hard emotion shower and doesn’t reveal a lot. He recently in September moved to uni but each time he was back he would invite me over. I visited yesterday and he was really different because he was alone and i thought it was going to be awkward. He kept saying ‘i hate you, soooo much’ i was saying Really?! But we could tell we were kidding and then he kept saying i love you whilst play fighting holding hands.. Basically because its gone on for so long i find it hard to get an answer. 1. Why would he bother with me for 4 years if he didn’t care? And 2. WHAT DOES HE FEEL FOR ME? Sorry for essay please help!

  129. Alisa May 9, 2013 at 8:52 am #

    Hi Chris,

    There’s a guy at work I like. He’s been making an effort to get to know me, working ‘later’ to finish at the same time. Runs little errands for me without my asking that aren’t a part of his job. Even offered me a ride home a second time after refusing him the first time. Tells me his younger brother likes me etc. and then on other days he ignores me!! He’s driving me insane. Last week I thought I’d bite the bullet and ask him over for a dinner party with friends, less pressure but he was busy. And this time round he told he didn’t have any plans for the weekend – even though I didn’t ask if he did. I feel like I am going crazy. Can you help me out and tell me whether its all in my head or whether he’s just shy? The body language is there but I don’t understand how he can be so ‘hot’ for a few days and then ‘cold’ the next. When I ignore him in return he comes running again. Am I being played and should I just move on? The frustrating thing is that I really want to get to know him. One minute he comes across as confident and the next he’s shy as hell. Would really appreciate any insight you might have.


  130. Daniela May 9, 2013 at 9:34 pm #

    so i have a tiiiny crush on this one guy. I don’t know him. Like at all. The first time i saw him was after school when we were sitting across from each other waiting for our parents to come by. (Oh, by the way, were in high school). So, a couple days later I see him with a group of friends standing by the spot we sat. As I approached the area, they all looked directly at me. I hate to say this part but his friends started laughing at me, and there I see him, giving me a face of guiltiness. Like he felt bad for me that his friends were all laughing. After that, I’ve been seeing him around school a lot, and just the other day I saw him looking my way, smiling. When I caught him smiling at me, he just looked towards the ground still smiling lol. I think he likes me, but I’m not sure what to do of the situation. Help me please, It’s been bothering me a lot lately.

  131. Nish May 9, 2013 at 11:57 pm #

    Hey Chris :)

    This is a good site you have, and I appreciate the stuff you have on here. I’m hoping you will be able to put my dilemma at rest for me though.

    I’ve known this guy, a really good friend, for a little less than a year now. I moved from my home country and live on my own, so I met him after I’d gotten used to the new country and the study program and stuff. Anyways, we really hit it off as far as two people who meet each other out of no where go. We could talk for ages, online and otherwise, without realising the time. In fact, we still do. We started actually hanging out just before the break (and before I left on holidays), and the last time we went out and were at a party, he kissed me.

    After I left, we still kept in constant contact, but didn’t talk about the kiss. When I came back and we hung out with our friends, everyone came up to me and asked if we were dating because we seemed really close. We randomly touch each other while talking, have our inside jokes so we’re always laughing together. Everytime we’re out, he’s usually sitting closer to me, and talking to me more often. We hug more often than not, and spend hours together without planning to.

    My friends have reached a point where they can’t believe we aren’t just dating already :P The only problem here is I cannot bring myself to tell him I like him, on the off chance things get awkward if he doesn’t. I can’t afford that. But he’s not made a move either. It’s been a couple of years since both of our last relationships. I’m thinking I may be in the friend zone by now, but I figured, I might as well get another person’s opinion on this :)

  132. Essence May 10, 2013 at 8:43 am #

    Oi Chris,
    I’m in a dilemma, I go to this rock climbing gym and this guy there is really cute! Sometimes he catches me staring at him, or sometimes I catch him staring at me(at least I think he is!). One day he kept walking past me(super close)! The same day he sat by some guys that weren’t to far from me, he sat on the other side of the bench so he had to turn his body slightly to talk to them, the way it was angled, it faced me! Another time was when I came in the gym and I was paying to get in, it’s glass behind the counter so if you are in the gym you can see the front desk. Me, looking to see what’s going on out there, sees him and he’s staring right at me (I think… don’t mind me I feel in denial). But yeah that’s all it’s ever been though, when he sat on the bench I could’ve made a move but my mom came and I had to leave. I’m 17, about to be 18. I’m also a homeschooled senior, so the crush feeling is so new, I haven’t had it since private school. When I see him again I will say hi. I don’t know if he has a girlfriend or not, but he’s really cute. Do you think he likes me? I like him and I can’t get him off of my mind. I haven’t went to the gym in about a week and a half because of work. So I don’t know, :/ maybe I imagined it.

  133. Aly May 10, 2013 at 9:26 am #

    Hey Chris,
    So I have this little dilemma I was hoping maybe you could help me out with…
    I’ve been talking to this guy for a while (maybe 3 months?), and I really like him. My best friend had known him from her ild school, and she introduced us, and we have been talking ever since then. We hang out almost every weekend, with friends and alone. Whenever he’s around he does things like puts his arm around me, smiles a lot, and “makes fun of me” and stuff. Seems like he likes me, right? Well, he has never told me straight up that he likes me, or hasn’t even tried to hold my hand or kiss me…
    So does he really like me? What is he doing? I’m really confused…

  134. Taaka May 10, 2013 at 11:17 am #

    Hi Chris,

    I just found this post and thought “this sounds like it’s been written by a guy who can help me!!!” (sorry it’s a long one–I just wanted to give you some background on his personality as well in case that helps get a fuller picture)

    About 11 months ago I met a guy at my church who I noticed right off the bat. He’s known for being shy and quite hard to read regarding dating but he’s always saying that inside he’s quite the sweet romantic, plans to marry, etc. In all other areas of life (work, with mates, at the pub) he’s very social, assertive, witty and really easy to get along with. He has mentioned occasions where he has kind of stumbled over himself when a woman he finds attractive chatted him up because he was so nervous, and he told me himself that it takes him a while to open up to people. One of his best guy friends also joked with me that he’s really shy so from all that I get that it’s going to be hard to crack how this one feels.

    The thing is, it’s really, REALLY hard to crack how this one feels! Lol I can’t tell if he’s just a nice, friendly guy, if he’s interested but mildly so and I’m nothing to write ‘ma home about, or if he’s definitely interested but afraid. He’s gentle and kind toward his female friends (polite conversation all around, occasional hugs for the ones he’s known a long time) but with the guys he’s your typical man’s man (they go camping, have great banter, etc.) so he’s not socially shy or afraid to get involved or take the lead in their shenanigans.

    At first all he would do was stare a few times from across the room, then kept saying my name throughout our conversations until he gave me a nickname he now ALWAYS uses. Lately he’s even started making up variations of it on the spot and I have to laugh because they’re just so silly. He teases me often and finds ways to touch me like putting his hand on my shoulder. Or he’ll always sit/stand really close to me so that we’ll touch, he moves away temporarily, then touches me again (“lather, rinse, repeat” more times than it says to on the bottle). He also leans his body in to mine or if he’s across the room will face my direction with his body no matter who he’s talking to. I’ve even tried the mirroring thing several times (every now and again to make sure it wasn’t a one-time fluke) where I’ll change my body position after a few minutes and sure enough his body mirrors mine almost every time.

    He compliments me a lot on things I know he doesn’t care about (my nail color for example then he’ll take my hand for a closer look) or things that aren’t in any way formidable (my totally plain navy sweater) and jokes why don’t I like HIS sweater or how HIS glasses look on him if I don’t compliment him back. He’s helped me out when I haven’t asked him to a few times but it’s stuff like pouring me a cup of coffee at church or serving me some food at our casual weekly group meetings or taking over to clear a pile of plates I’m already clearing so I wonder if he’s just being chivalrous? (I haven’t seen him do this for the other girls in our church, but it’s so something he would do generally. So just because I haven’t seen it doesn’t mean he hasn’t done it for others, right?)

    The thing is we see each other at least twice a week but it’s always in a group setting so I don’t know his reaction towards me individually. I’ve upped the flirting (smiling, a bit of teasing and a gentle hand on his arm) just to see if he’ll move away or ask me to stop but he never has and his behaviour remains unchanged. But now it’s like our interaction has hit a wall? It doesn’t progress past this same level even after about 3 months of me consciously trying to show him I’m interested. Other times the two of us will make small talk aside from the group and he’ll give short answers and just stand around like he can’t think of something to say but he doesn’t leave or anything and it just feels so awkward. Those are the times he seems to be blowing cold so I get the feeling he’s just not interested and/or has other things on his mind. Then the next time we see each other he’ll be warm again and smile and chatty if there’s at least one or two other people talking with us. He’s been single for over a year and though his friend knows who the girl in our church is who he likes and has been encouraging him to ask her to hang out more, very few people are even sure who it is. He’s pretty laid back and talks to other girls about life in general much more easily than with me. I’ve felt before like maybe he’s talking to me in a group out of politeness then because on our own sometimes the conversation’s a bit tense? All of this has been going on for about 10 months now, every week, without fail. Yet at the very least if he just wanted to be friends then it’s strange because our interaction with each other isn’t the same as how we both are with our mutual friends (and we both find it easy to be friendly to others; I’d even say I more so than he).

    What gives?? Does he get that I like him and he’s signalling that he just wants to be friends, or is he like typically English?–that’s not meant to be an insult, he actually is English and those boys reaaally like to hide their bottom line under an avalanche of jokes, smoke and mirrors haha. Thanks for reading the ramble, just been holding it in all this time and as an American girl who likes to know what’s what I just feel utterly lost!!

  135. RJ May 10, 2013 at 5:13 pm #

    Hi Chris!

    I need some advice. I’m confused.

    I have this guy friend for 2 years now. I met him at college during my 1st year. I liked him back then and he seemed to feel the same since he jokingly calls me his girlfriend sometimes and I constantly catch him looking at me. I dont know what to think since he’s the confident type. I constantly thought that he was just playing. I brushed off the signals go by and eventually lost contact with him when he left college. I’m on my 2nd year of college now and I just happen to see him somewhere in town with a friend. We said hello to each other. I thought about him after that and looked him up on facebook. I added him, he accepted and messaged me. He admitted to liking me and so did I. We met the next day at college (He actually made an effort to come even though he didn’t go college any more)He was so touchy feely though that I felt as if he only wanted me for the ‘booty’. We don’t speak much. I don’t put in the effort to talk to him and neither does he but he calls me to meet up with him occasionally (in private though, not in public). I slept with him a month later. I thought it was the end since I thought he got what he wanted. He told me I could be his girl (told me just to come clean with things i do and who i’m with. I brushed this off) and asked me if I love him, I didn’t know what to say. I said I liked him but love I didn’t know. This happened 3 times within 4 months of meeting each other once in a blue moon. I started feeling love (atleast i thought it was)after sleeping with him twice. I never told him, I hoped he’d put in some effort to talk to me but nothing came. I cleared things up the third time we met up. I asked him what we were. He didn’t know what to say, i suggested ‘friends with benefits’. He didn’t want to agree with it, but its how I felt but he did say ‘yeah we’re friends’. Not so clear but it stuck to my head. ‘I’m not going to gain anything from this. Walk away.’ I didn’t contact him since then, neither did he.

    Last week I was playing basketball with a bunch of guys. He was with his friends. I said hello as he walked by. I saw him constantly glancing at the basketball court. 2 days later I wasn’t with any boys this time in the basketball court. Just girl friends. He and his friends came by, he tried playing with us and constantly stood beside me. He even asked about the guys from 2 days ago. He asked whether they were better than him at basketball. He and his friend left but he said my name and goodbye before that.

    I know its looong but I had to explain everything to get the whole picture. I don’t know what to feel. Where do I stand? Btw, I’m 19 and he’s 20. Both of us had been cheated on by our exes.

  136. Emily - Jayne May 10, 2013 at 9:53 pm #

    Hi Chris,

    I like a guy I used to work with (i was his assistant so I could never ask him out), we saw each other a few times socially (once i asked him where a place was as I was meeting friends and he invited himself along)and at the first work christmas party we were both at, he was stood next to me then put his hand on the small of my back for a few seconds, took it away, then put his hand back again for a few mins until I decided to try and take a pic of us, then he posed with his hand round my waist for a couple of pics. shortly after this he left, said goodbye to everyone else, stared at me then left without saying goodbye to me.

    Moving on a year later, we met up in the holidays and he told me he was leaving the weekend before he handed his notice in, so I knew before even the boss did.

    At his leaving drinks I was the first person to arrive and we were sat chatting for a while before everyone else arrived, we were sat next to each other (arms touching) for quite a lot of the night, then at the end of the night he insisted on walking me to a taxi (despite my protests that I would be okay), i linked arms with him for a few seconds, then thought I might scare him off, so let go. We then got to the taxi rank, i was quite tipsy by this point (I thought he was quite drunk too, but he claims that he wasn’t)and i asked him if he’d ever been in trouble with the police (long story!) to which he gave vague responses, to which I said “you don’t like me very much do you?” to which he said “you’re being paranoid”, I said that whenever I asked him questions I never got much back from him, then he stared at me, held out his hand and said “we’re friends yeah, thats it, friends” kinda in a questioning sort of way, still whilst staring at me, i took his hand while saying “yeah, yeah” (as if to say yeah of course we are, I know that – duh!) and we shook hands. (I thought he was asking whether I understood that this was all we were, but then a few friends said he may’ve been challenging me)I then said “why do you think I LIKE you!” in a sort of “disgusted” tone (self-defence on my part!) and he said “what did you say that for?”, so I said something along the lines of “well you just said about us just being friends” then we were both silent. A few seconds later my taxi arrived and I’d already said that he could share with me, so I gently held onto his elbow to guide him into the taxi and he loudly went “get off my arm” and moved it away. When the taxi stopped at his street, I got out to wish him good luck with new job and he gave me a kiss on the cheek and walked off.

    We text quite a few times after that and he sent me an pic via email of his new car, but then our boss said that he’d been bad-mouthing everyone, so I asked this boy whether he’d said to the boss that I’d been applying for other jobs and he said not. however i asked him again by text and he said that he hadn’t said anything about it at his leaving drinks as “you were next to me all night”. I stupidly said “I wasn’t next to you all night” then continued the rest of the text message with light hearted stuff. I didn’t hear from him for a few months, he didn’t respond to a text that I sent asking if he wanted to meet up and I tried to call him a few times and he didn’t answer. I eventually decided to call him one last time before giving up for good when he answered. I said that i wasn’t sure if he was speaking to me still or not and he said “you’d pissed me off by asking if I’d said anything to the boss”, he said he was out at the min and could I call him back later or the next day. I said okay, but he phoned me back a few hours later and we chatted for about 20 mins then he had to go as it was getting late.

    I’m confused as to whether he likes me as a (now-ex) colleague/friend/something more, or maybe if he did but I messed up at the first Xmas Party by missing out on signals from him!? I’m rubbish at this kind of stuff, so I apologise for the extremely long message, I just like this guy alot. Your help would be much appreciated!!!! :D

  137. Annie May 11, 2013 at 12:02 am #

    Hey Chris,

    I’m confused here because I, like the stupid girl I am, fell for my best friend. I’ve known him for over a year and have liked him for the majority of that time. He teases me and comes up with nicknames for me. His group sits a couple of meters from mine and often they merge. If they don’t though he will sit with either no one or one of the guys or stand on the outskirts of the circle near the guys, never near a girl. When he gets bored of his group he will walk over to mine but he never does anything more than smile at my friends and say hi. He will sit next to me or help me up so I can stand with him and he teases me playfully and we have a small game of ‘he playfully insults me so I playfully hit him and he runs away playfully even though he’s really scared i will kick him in the nuts’ and whenever I mention my ex he threatens to bash him because he hurt me. In class he always turns in his chair and sits facing me with our legs touching. If I’m upset he’s the first to notice and always asks me what’s wrong and all our friends say he likes me and have told us to date already but I’m scared to tell him even though I flirt my ass off. His favourite thing to do is annoy me, scare me or tickle me. If I’m off school my friend will say he was whinging because he couldn’t annoy me that day. From a guys perspective am I friend zoned or do I have a chance or his he playing with my head??

  138. Carlee May 11, 2013 at 12:36 am #

    I have met this boy in school this year and I really like him. I don’t know if he is flirting with me when for example we are playing wall ball at PE when it Is my turn to throw the ball he will come up behind me and hit my arm to keep me from throwing it the just sort of smile playfully. He also gives me LOTS of high fives and smiles at me alot, while talking to me. Help!!! Thanks!

    • Carlee May 11, 2013 at 12:47 am #

      One last example :) is that I the cafeteria, I was walking to my lunch table and I sighed REALLY loudly and he can up beside me and asked me what was wrong and acted like he really actually cared! Thanks SOOOO MUCH CHRIS!

  139. Renee May 11, 2013 at 6:45 am #

    Hi Chris,

    I am having a difficult time with knowing if this guy is interested in me and what makes it worse is that I know he is single and isn’t currently seeing anyone. I work with him but we dont always have the same shifts. When we do I try to be around him but not too much where its obvious. We are friends at work and recently I have hung out with him and a few others outside of work. He is “perfect” to me at least hes very sincere and genuine but the issue is he for the most part acts the same way around the rest of the girls and no he isn’t “fabulous”. But he talks to me when he sees me and he laughs at alot of things I say and do so I guess thats a plus but I just don’t know.
    On one instance I came into work and walked past him but I didn’t turn to acknowledge him until I heard him exclaimed “Whats up!” then I turned and said hi to him.

    Another time I was helping another coworker and was rehanging clothes around the department which was in his view and when I went over to him he asked me “having fun out there?”

    I was in my department one night and I was walking and I heard someone behind me say “Hello how are you this evening?” and it was him but he was going to another part of the store.
    I also am not sure what your take would be on if a girl offers a guy some of her food and he refuses or accepts if that could be any sort of indicator or obviously polite manners but I went on my lunch break and when I came back with my food I offered him some of my fries but he refused which I think was just courtesy but idk.

    We have had plenty of moments when we have been alone to where he could have said something or tried to find out if I was single which would have meant that he was interested but I’m starting to come to terms with the fact that he only sees me as a friend.
    There was a time when I was walking towards his direction and he was behind the register counter and there weren’t any customers around, he was staring at me the whole time as I walked his direction and then as I got closer he waved but I think he was most likely spacing out.

    I’m beginning to think that he is simply not interested and is just genuine and isn’t interested in anyone at our workplace. Which sucks but it also good for me? haha. idk.

  140. Kat May 11, 2013 at 3:49 pm #

    Theres this guy thats been in my classes since like middle school and we’re in high school now. He’s always trying to converse with me but i don’t even try to talk to him. IDK why i can’t find anything to talk abt and just hang with my friends. Im a bit introverted so i don’t talk much to other people. He has called me really pretty and talked abt marrying me when we’re older (to other people) My friends though he liked me but since he got a gf its kinda died down and stuff. I thought the same thing. Hes also keeps asking my friend why do i hate him.
    Does he like me secretly or is he just trying to be super friendly? Thanks

  141. Crystal May 11, 2013 at 9:14 pm #

    hi, i have liked a boy in my high school class for a while now and am wanting to know if he likes me back. all my friends say he does but im not sure if they r just being nice. they say he looks at me a lot but i have never caught him at it. he is nice to every one and whenever i see him he holds the doors for people. we seem to have a lot in common like i once mentioned i was a bad cook and he said he was to, things like that.

  142. Sarina May 12, 2013 at 11:41 am #

    Hey Chris,
    Well I really like this guy a lot but we don’t really talk much (I worked where he lived (receptionist in a hostel). In the beginning he would ask me if had a boyfriend and I just thought of him as a creep and never gave him the right answer and eventually I gave in and told him that I didn’t have a boyfriend. He would give mixed signals one day he will be all happy and would talk to me or smile at me and then other days he would just ignore me. at times he would just randomly come to me and shake my hand and won’t really say anything just a handshake. one day he tried to kiss my hand after shaking it and I just pulled my hand away and he said other girls would have loved it. I don’t really understand him. one day he asked me if I would go out with him once he leaves and I didn’t really say anything to him. then the day before he was to leave he asked me if I would go out with him and I asked him why he would like to go out with me. he answered me saying that because he likes me and don’t want anyone else and then he said he was joking. I don’t really understand him.

  143. Shi May 12, 2013 at 8:44 pm #

    Hey, so there’s a guy in the grade above me and he’s ALWAYS talking to me and touching me. Once he Put his arm around me and whenever I was alone he would catch up with me and playfully bump my shoulder and ask how me how my classes were. Alot of people like him and he’s very popular. How do I know that he really likes me?

  144. Caroline May 12, 2013 at 9:20 pm #

    Ok so hey Chris!
    There’s this guy at church that I’ve liked for a long long time and I know he likes me but we don’t see eachother very often and he doesn’t carry his phone with him very often and were never on fb at the same time. But he try’s super hard to get my attention at church and sometimes I give him my attention but we don’t see eachother very often at church. I’ve txted him a couple times in the last month and he’s responded both times but the entire convo is like 5 messages and then he just stops responding I mean I’m not a great responder so the 5 message convo can last hrs! But idk how to interact with him if he has issues talking over text and were not on fb at the same time and I don’t know when I’ll see him at church again… I know I’ll see him on the work trip in 6 weeks and probably before that but idk when exactly… How should I talk to him? Should I try Txting him or fining him? And if I did try that I don’t know what is say cuz it’s pretty much up to me to carry the convo outside of church anyway… Were both in hs and his mom knows and is totally cool with it… But I don’t know how to move forward with this…
    Sorry this is a long message… :)

  145. Marnie May 13, 2013 at 12:58 am #

    Hi Chris,
    Alright, so I started going out with this guy a little less than a month ago. Prior to going out, we were friends for a bit, but after he asked me out I thought he would start holding my hand or at least put his arm around me. He has not done anything, and the one time he did put his arm around me I put mine around him and he said, “I just couldn’t hear what you were saying.” Then he removed his arm. He still treats me like a friend even though we are officially going out. I seriously can not tell if we are more than friends because sometimes he will give me nice compliments but then he will treat me just like he treats his other friends. I even flat out asked him if he liked me as more than a friend and he said yes, but then why hasn’t he done anything? You should also know that I am not the type of girl to make the first move. It is really annoying, so what can I do about it? Thank you!

  146. Ohboy May 13, 2013 at 4:01 am #

    hey chris. theres this guy I used to hang out with in high school and we would talk all the time and he would make a lot of eye contact for a good amount of time and touch my arm, now its a few years later and I hung out with him again and it was exactly the same, except the eye contact felt more intense (but that might be just me) he kept touching my arm as he was talking. and we were laughing a lot. but I have a boyfriend and he knows, so idk if im just imagining things with him because I like that he makes me feel good and I have fun with him. And our hands touched lightly a few times and he didn’t pull away. but he is a flirty person. so please help

  147. Beatrice May 13, 2013 at 8:31 am #

    Hello Chris,
    It’s weird and confusing because I think I like this guy in my class and I think he likes me too but he seems to always piss me off. Sometimes he’s super kind and funny but he can also piss me off so much. He sometimes offends me but I feel like hes just playing with my mind. He seems to get a bit mad when I talk to my other guy friends. I feel like he has a crush on my best friend but I don’t know. He seems to always ask for me and my bestfriend’s (the one I mentioned earlier) opinion; not really anyone else. That’s why I’m pretty confused on who he likes. I get closer with him as our friendship develops. I’m just really confused and would like a reply. Thanks (:

  148. Anonymous May 13, 2013 at 8:15 pm #

    Hello, Iv been wanting to get some advise about this situation am in for a while,but am to scared to openly discuss it through the internet. But am hoping for some reply. Iam in a current relationship with my fiance so i feel a bit weird talking about another guy especially when they are related.He has a twin brother that am assuming has some small interest in me.which i find a bit intriguing because i had a crush on him before my i met my fiance.I always have almost lucid dreams of me and him,hanging out talking and having a good time,never anything sexual but i always have that sensation of a long lived desire.once i wake i feel uncomfortable like wth am i thinking? iv searched online of what that can mean,and apparently,i feel unsure or insecure about this person or have some desire towards him.and it makes me very confused. especially when he shows acts of attraction towards me,like for example eye contact,wanting to be around me,or wanting my attention,imitating my body language,any time he gets a chance to talk to me when no ones around he will.and i always catch him looking at my breast haha .iv read online the signs of when a guy likes you obviously,and some seem to connect while others don’t because am with his brother and he has a fiance too.So i feel confused and want an answer,of what i can do about this funny feeling.

  149. alondra May 13, 2013 at 8:59 pm #

    Hey Chris nice to read all of the great info u have post.

    well my case is that is this guy that I met at my job and at the first day we met he told my friend that I was pretty, but he doesn’t talk to me when we are together working alone just when I ask him something he replies back and talk a little but that’s it. he also smiles when he says to me something. he also act differently when I’m present and act silly with others while playing around . the other they he was showing his arms muscles with my friend but I was in front of them watching so idk if he did it on purpose or no. I like him but Idk I he likes me I’m so vonfise or its just ny brain is thinking that he likes me . thanks for your help really appreciated.

    • alondra May 15, 2013 at 12:00 am #

      How much time does he take to answer ?

  150. Reanna May 13, 2013 at 9:01 pm #

    So theres this new kid and I kinda have a crush on him. He is athletic, funny, and outgoing, and I have several classes with him. He acts this way with his friends, but when hes not sitting with them hes a little quiet.

    In math we choose our seats and he sits behind me(its almost like he tries to sit behind me in each class he can),but sometimes the teacher makes him sit in front, and i swear, it looks like hes looking at me. Sometimes I think hes looking at me, like he positions his head so it isnt obvious, and he does it out of the corners of his eyes but I can kinda see him.

    In p.e., he sometimes glances at me straight on, and i look away, because I am super shy. He sometimes talks with other girls and I think it may be because he doesnt like me, and he might be constantly looking at the clock? Gah, I don’t know, I’m so confused I even found this page!

    Oh, one time, we had a project, and he stayed by our booth and just kinda talked, like maybe teasing me ’cause he was with his friend. And accidentally in p.e. we kicked a ball and he, um, fell to the ground and it was really funny we laughed… but hes one of those funny people, so i dont think it hurt that much… He talks to other girls normally, but he doesnt talk to me… I am so confused, what do I do?!? Thank you so much, please reply.

    • Reanna May 15, 2013 at 5:42 pm #

      I’m a freshman is that helps somehow

  151. alondra May 13, 2013 at 9:57 pm #


  152. Leah May 14, 2013 at 3:51 pm #

    i dont know if this boy likes me? we sit together in a lesson, and we always talk and laugh, and it’s like we are good friends, he also uses my stuff (pencils, sharperners) without asking and i give him la dirty look, but he smiles. we constantly talk in this lesson.
    but in every other lesson, he says he hates me and says that im ugly and fat? is this because his friends are around him? does he like me? i’ve never had a boyfriend before but i know that i like him. i dont want to say anything to him though.
    thanks in advance

  153. lala May 14, 2013 at 6:07 pm #

    say you name 10x
    Say your mom name 5x
    Say you crush name 3x
    If you do this yo crush will asked your out on the nearest Friday . If you don’t and you’re reading this you will have very bad luck.

  154. jay May 14, 2013 at 8:10 pm #

    Hey chris, i recently broke up with my bf of four months because he said “he didnt like me romantically anymore”. However, he constantly checks up on me to see if im doing well, still texts me and calls me hun, and if i dont answer his messages for a long time, he’ll ask my friends to check up on me. His friends all look at me like they know something i dont, yet none of them talk to me anymore. He doesnt completely ignore me in real life, yet its clear we’re not a couple anymore. He was my first boyfriend, and i really miss him, yet he insists he doesnt want to get back together because he wants to move forward. His behaviors are so conflicting, do you think he still likes me?

  155. Barbara May 14, 2013 at 9:11 pm #

    Hi Chris,

    So I recently started liking this guy in my class, i’d say since like Late March, early April. He sits behind me and through out the year, we’ve gotten closer. We’ve gone from not talking at the beginning, to talking the whole class now. He’s always making jokes and such, and he also does pick on me. He’s also gotten touchy-feely. Like he’ll poke my arms or grab my arm or if i’m wearing a sweater he’ll start playing with the strings of my sweater and when i tell him to let go he’ll be like “nope” and he’ll smile and we’d ‘fight’ for it. Today he was extra touchy feely though, we were talking about something and I made a comment and he’s like come here (meaning to move my face closer) and i’m like no…. cause his hand was like outstretched towards me and I thought he would pinch my cheek (we’d been talking about having chubby cheeks when we were little) and he’s like no I wont I promise. So I said ok and moved my head closer to him and instead of pinching my cheek like I thought he would, he caressed it. For almost a good minute. I was just taken aback because he’d never done something like that before.

    The only problem, besides not being sure if he likes me/has some interest in me/ is just being flirty….is that he has a girlfriend. They’ve been going out for like a year now. That’s the number one reason i’m not going after him, because I wouldn’t wanna be a homewrecker/the other woman. But that’s why I’m not sure if it’s just him being playful and flirty or whether maybe he has some interest in me but he doesnt wanna admit it because of his girlfriend? I dont know, it has me really frustrated and confused. :\ I’d love to hear your opinion!

  156. Lia May 14, 2013 at 9:20 pm #

    Hi, so there’s this guy I go to school with. last year, all we did in French class was flirt. This year, hoping we could start where we left, he came back with a girlfriend. I know it sounds like I should leave it there, but every once in a while, he’ll come up and talk to me (in a class his girlfriend isn’t in) and he’ll disagree with everything I say. then I catch him looking at me, and definitely made eye contact for a while. he’ll make a joke, and look at me, or something crazy. but he doesn’t do it in any other classes. in fact it’s more like I don’t exist in the other classes we have together. all of my friends noticed. I don’t know what this all means.

  157. Esther May 15, 2013 at 4:46 am #

    Hi Chris,

    There is this guy i met at one of the gathering .. after a few months we met he contact me .. then after a few more months he asked me out for lunch .. after a few months he asked me out for dinner .. from then onwards he wil lask me out for dinner like every other month . He seldom text me and nvr call me before .. but everytime we go out for dinner he will talk to me like i am his long time friend .. we’ll stay up till late chatting and talking .. but after that he will only contact me the next month again .. i am confused .. pls help

  158. Gina May 15, 2013 at 7:40 pm #

    Hi Chris so the guy I like started holding my hand one night and I kissed on the cheek now he’s giving me mixed signals and said I was starting to be a bit annoying to one of my friends what so I do?

  159. Kairi May 16, 2013 at 12:28 am #

    He Chris,
    So there’s this one guy I like and he moved to school this year. He’s in my bestfriend advisory and they became friends , when I told my friend I liked him she started encouraging me to try to talk to him but I never tried cause of fear of being rejected. But Everytime I’m sitting in the lunch table with his friends and he’s in the lunch line He faces his friends with his back towards me but there’s time where he faces my direction , sometimes when I catch him looking at me he’ll hold the gaze for like more than five seconds and sometimes he looks away fast or pretends to be looking behind me. Does he like me or am I just imagining things?

  160. Stefanie May 16, 2013 at 12:44 am #

    So there’s this guy who I’ve had a crush on for a couple of weeks now and I met him when I was in Phoenix visiting my brother and my sister in law. The guy is their best friend and I’m not sure if he likes me but when he looks at me he always makes eye contact and grins at me. His eyes are always half closed when he looks at me I even noticed he winked at me once but it looked friendly so that sort of confused me. My sister in law keeps asking what I think of him and if I think he’s cute even though I’ve never really showed that I like him. He teases me a lot but in a very playful way, he pushed me in a pool with my clothes on once and then he jumped in after me and he gave me his towel because he said I looked cold even though he was freezing himself. What made me start thinking that he likes me was by the way he looked at me and that he’s sort of a show off at times but I’m not too sure because he’s almost 6 years older. I’m 17 and he’s 22 he’ll be 23 in november. So do you think there’s any chance he does like me because I can’t stop thinking about it.

  161. Cherry May 16, 2013 at 4:35 pm #

    He shows all the signs already that he likes me but I don’t know what to do now. I smile at him when he stares but I don’t know what’s next to do.

  162. Rylie May 16, 2013 at 8:02 pm #

    Hey Chris!

    Look, there’s this really cute guy I have a crush on, his name is Brandon. Sadly, I’m only in 7th grade and he’s in 8th. Brandon PLAYFULLY argues with me, he PLAYFULLY hits me, but very lightly, he isn’t afraid to talk to me in front of his buddies, he once ignored his friend till I finished answering a question he asked me, he looks at me a lot (it’s just a look, no smile or anything), and he gives me advice on how to stand up to this bully who everyone hates. Do all these signs mean he likes me?

    BTW, when I sometimes try to talk to him, SOMETIMES his answer will be IDK, or something really short.

    Also, SOMETIMES he will be Mr. Serious, and most times, he will be the Brandon I know and love. What do you think?

  163. stephanie May 17, 2013 at 1:11 pm #

    hi. my boyfriend broke up with me yesterday and i need to know if he still likes me but idk how to tell… he said there is a girl four years ago he has another chance to ask her out i still crying all night and all day it hurts me.

  164. stephanie May 17, 2013 at 1:23 pm #

    hello, i really like this guy and hes 16 like me but we dont really talk but i know so much about him and adore him i rejected 2 boys because i think im faling inlove with him. i just dont know if he knows it. he is really nice and funny and he jkes with me every once i a blue moon but i cant tell if he likes me. he looks at me a lot but wont throw any other signs out and its bugging me. :/

  165. libby May 17, 2013 at 1:27 pm #

    hi i was wondering how to know when a guy wants to kiss. i am scared but want to i havnt had my first kiss and idk how haa i know sounds silly cause im 16 and yea… waiting for that special guy i guess.

  166. Jennifer May 17, 2013 at 9:02 pm #

    Hi Chris, there’s this boy, that I really like & he’s a year older than me, I feel like he likes me but then he’ll do something that makes me think he doesn’t, for example when we first started talking he met my sister & tried to be super careful with her & he held her & kept her warm, but I’m not sure if he was just being nice, he also lets me hug him everytime we see each other & I started playing with his hands & he started swinging them with me, also whenever we talk or hug we have eye contact, another thing is he’s really shy but when he’s with me I could tell he tries to open up & I tend to joke around by saying I’m ugly & he’ll tell me I’m not that I’m actually pretty. But then he’ll do things like stop texting me or hang out with other people or make our texts awkward, but then I have people telling me he likes me & saying that when he’s around me he lights up, but I’m not sure I would really love your opinion thanks c:

  167. rose May 18, 2013 at 11:21 am #

    Hi umm i like this boy he is in some of my classes but i think he has a gf and we never talk i seen him in a computer room at school being stupid with is friends i dont have any friends so i want to know if he likes me becasue i seriously like him :(

  168. Aria May 18, 2013 at 2:09 pm #

    So hey chris,
    There is this guy in my class and i want to know if he likes me . He occasionally stares at me and sits near me but in the table beside mine. He always looks when I’m laughing with another guy. We don’t really talk because we are in different social groups (not like dork and popular people stereotype thing. i know his friends really well but i don’t really know him, he’s new). He’s always flirty with his best friend who is a girl but thats normal, but when he does it he looks at me and always hesitates when saying my name. He’s asked me out on Facebook once but i never responded not knowing if it was a prank or if he was telling the truth. What do you think?

  169. Adrianna May 18, 2013 at 9:13 pm #

    So there’s this guy I met at the beginning of the month, so far, I usually only get to see him on the weekend. we have each others number, but that was my moms doing. When I go to work with my mom (campgrounds so I met him as a camper) at first he walked around by me until Id catch his gaze and say hi, and today since he was hanging out with two other girls he just waved until I got over. When its just us its hard to tell whether or not he’s the same around me as others, I mean I just met the guy. He did ditch one friend to hang out with me and we are usually always making eye contact (which is typically hard for me) Well he talks a lot when we hang out, but when we text its like he’s annoyed of me. My mom thinks hez a player cause es always hanging out with girls, but I don’t know cause when I show up he just hangs out with me. He’s actually very hard to tell if he likes me then other guys

  170. Jamie May 18, 2013 at 11:02 pm #

    Hi Chris,
    So, this is kind of complicated. I have liked this guy for a while. A long time ago he would joke around with me and I thought he liked me, but then he got a girlfriend and I laid off the flirting. Well they broke up and now he pokes me and can’t seem to pass me without touching me. He is in my gym class too and when we were done running the mile he walked with me to do a cool down lap. It was just him and I, and I was freaking out the whole time (excitedly). After that he was going to try to do a handstand, but before he did it he looked at me and made sure I was watching. I walked away with my friend and within 5 minutes he made his way towards where my friend and I were standing. But I feel like he talks to a lot of girls and I just don’t know what to think anymore, he i complicated. Oh, I almost forgot , we make some eye contact and once when we were playing a game we made eye contact for a loooonnnnggg time. Anyway I just need help figuring this kid out.

    P.S I am 14

  171. Lexi May 19, 2013 at 9:31 am #

    Hi there is this guy I like and he got my phone number because he was messing around with me and took my things so I took his bag and he told me all he had was his phone in there. So i took it out and started looking through. The girl I front of me asked for this guys # and saw that he gave her the wrong #. Then he told me he has a specific group of friends and told me I cold put my # in so I did. 2 days later he text me back late at night till about 12. The next day I text and no response . But he texted me at 10 saying he was busy with work and he was sorry. My question is if he likes me because he already has a girlfriend and my friends said I shouldn’t text him back if he text me. By the way he is a senior and I’m a sophomore .

  172. Maya May 19, 2013 at 11:29 am #

    Hi Chris,

    After reading this, I think the guy I’ve been crushing on *may* like me back. (Im still not sure.) Problem is he’s my supervisor at work. I’m leaving the job in two weeks, and I’d like to make a move before then, but I’m not sure how. It’s not easy to approach him due to the nature of our job (healthcare), and as one of us seems to be busy when the other is free. (Not to mention I work the shift after him, so I only see him for about half an hour.) He actually never initiated conversation with me until he heard I was leaving for a new job. (He was pretty chatty with everyone else except me) He said goodnight to me that night, but then turned around and walked back to talk to me about a rather rediculous subject (cups and the old stocking system for them) before wishing me a goodnight and leaving. Of course I couldnt stop smiling the entire time. I honestly think I was so surprised he approached me that I didn’t quite register the whole conversation. My coworker said she saw him checking me out a few minutes prior, and he makes eye contact and smiles at me when we cross paths. He seems shy and I’d be happy to make the first move, but I just want to be sure hes interested before I do, and figure out a way to introduce the idea of grabbing coffee. How can I subtley give him a bit of a push to see if he’s open to it? I just want to be cautious since I only see him at work and it’s rare I see him alone.


  173. Nicole May 19, 2013 at 11:04 pm #

    I found ur site and thought I would ask you !
    So there’s this guy that always looks at me ..
    He flirts kinda and when he looks at me he smiles..
    He touches me nicely
    And he gives me compliments but he’s also confusing idk what to do
    Before right I front of he he started flirtin with my friend I got jealous but find try to show it because e kept looking at me when he did it so idk? Please help if you can .
    It’s young love so idk:) haha thanks

  174. Rene' May 20, 2013 at 1:32 am #

    Omg… this is so awesome. A friend of mine offered to take me to a concert because I never seen the band. I have talked to him over a period of time. Started off Facebook, then texting and both calls and texting. Found it quite interesting in the fact that he called when he was stressed. Because I am into meditation , Yoga, and stress free life as much as possible. We always have a good time conversing and would maybe a 1 or 2 times a week. some times not for a week. But we went out a few days ago and I found it surprising that as the evening went on and it got more fun he had his hand on my waist, or if we were walking down the street he would hold my hand. I found it sweet. I know beer or booze never lies. But ever since that night he has text or called me at the very least 3 times a day. I am in shock. I keep telling myself he is being sweet. I hate reading in to things. But this kinda set my instincts into stone. I am so not gonna jump into conclusions but I am totally digging the attention. It is nice and if he decides I am not for him I would never quit our friendship. I appreciate our friendship so much all this is sweet but I will wait til he tells me straight up.

  175. KJ May 20, 2013 at 2:02 am #

    Hello Chris!

    Okay, so I recently met this guy in an advanced class we took together over this spring semester. Actually, I knew him the semester before, I just hadn’t really interacted with him until this one. Let it be known when he would see me, in the previous semester, he would stare for a little while and then take a seat in front of me. Anyway over this semester, we have really gotten close, and during this time, I’ve always caught him staring at me. Before, when I would catch him, he’d look down, at someone else or just away quickly. Now, when I catch him, he smiles and just keeps staring. I smile back usually and say “What?” but he just shakes his head and says “Oh nothing.”

    Also over the course of the semester he’s gotten more touchy feely, and playfully violent. When going over structures in a group he’ll gently touch my arm or lean over me, completely disregarding the fact that we are touching, his chest to my back. He lingers there for a while too in both cases. If we are going over a test together, and I get something wrong but I’m so convinced its right, he’ll show me why its wrong and when I finally realize how wrong I am, he’ll elbow or poke me softly in the side and slyly says “So shutup.” Vice versa also happens.

    He’s very vulgar with me sometimes, dropping f-bombs usually when I’m right and he’s wrong. Not that he hasn’t when others are around, it’s just more so with me. I am not sure if this means he’s more comfortable around me or he just wants to show he’s masculine and macho. It’s actually quite funny.

    Lastly, and I do mean lastly, when we were going over a certain male region, we were taking a biology class where we had to dissect a pig(we got a male one), as we were trying to figure out structures with some mutual friends, he was staring at me. I tried my best to look everywhere but him because I felt looking at someone during this kind of talk, would kinda mean something other and less than a relationship, would be discussed through eyes. Evidently, it didn’t work, and we locked eyes for what felt to me like forever but was really for a minute, maybe almost a minute. I couldn’t tell what he was thinking and I think my eyes might have widened but I know for sure his did. It was hard to break away from that stare(which is why it lasted for a minute)but I was victorius eventually.

    I don’t really know what all this means. Admittedly, I do like him in a romantic way, and because of this I feel like I could be over-analyzing the situation, which is what I am prone to do. Before when I didn’t know him very well, just watching from afar, he would casually touch other girls , but he wouldn’t linger and as of now he has stopped.

    Could you tell me, put my over-analytical mind at ease? Especially for the man-junk thing.

    • KJ May 20, 2013 at 2:44 am #

      I also forgot, (so not the last, sorry) we are constantly shoving each other. If he shoves me, I’ll shove him back and he just smiles. The last time he did, I turned away, and he caressed my arm. He’s rubbed my lower back on occasion also. Finally(FOR REAL this time!) after his presentation for the class(we were each required to pick a topic and present)which he texted me the night before and the morning of, to help him overcome nervousness, I went out with some classmates/friends and he went home. My other classmates had gave complements on his presentation as he was calm(funny how he was freaking out the night before). I texted him this and all he said was Thanks but then asked me what I thought, what my opinion on how he did was. I mean I told him about a third of the class liked it, so in my head I was like “what’s my opinion gonna do?”
      Could you tell me?

  176. Krystal May 20, 2013 at 3:55 am #

    Dear Chris,

    According to my online research, all signs point to my guy best friend of nine months liking me more than a best friend, but we lack an essential element: touch. I don’t like touch, but I would happily make him an exception. At the same time, I wonder if he is afraid to make a move because of this fact. What should I do?

    Thank you,

  177. Jackie May 20, 2013 at 4:53 am #


    I work at a private recreational club and have met a member whose similar age and we have some common hobbies. We started off as chit chatty friends, like usual, I’m a pretty easy going and friendly person. I sense we are similar in a way, good hearted.

    He often stops to chat with me while I’m at work. When he found out I play the piano, he wanted to learn. I tried to help him and we occasionally would play together.

    He once, randomly, text’d me with some compliments and also said something like “he’s intrigued but afraid of me at the same time”. He somehow worked up the courage and asked if I’d hang out with him again and of course, I said yes.

    But nothing came out of it. We once made some plans, but it had cancelled and we did not have any rescheduling or anything.

    We ended up randomly hanging out after work today. I do know, he has many female friends that he hangs out with. He mentioned they are married.

    He hasn’t asked me out on any day yet or ever, I think.

    My question is: is he being flirty for fun or are their genuine interests?

    I can provide more information if needed.

    I have pretty much given up and labeled it fun flirting, unless there’s a serious sign of something.

    What signs should I look out for? Or not?

    Thank you.

  178. Agnes May 20, 2013 at 9:20 am #

    Hey Chris!

    There’s this one guy in my class and I like him. When I compliment him he gives me a raspberry or looks at me like I said something ridiculous (and it’s never anything really big, more like “wow, you should wear this more often” or “you have beautiful eyes, ever told you that?”). Once I told him that he looks great with a little overgrowth and he HID HIS FACE IN HIS SHIRT. And we’re both 17-18 for God’s sake. Anyway, we don’t usually meet a lot as he’s very busy, but when we do he’s being very serious (usually he talks about getting wasted with his friends; when he’s with me, he talks about global politics or stuff like that). On one hand he ignores me a lot, but when I just don’t give a damn about him for a sec while talking to my friend, he pulls closer all of a sudden, sometimes even to the point where we’re almost touching). His best friend goes as far as to say “there’s no separate you [to him] and her, there’s only one plural you”… don’t know if it was a joke or not, but my crush looked like he tried real hard not to tell him to shut the eff up and piss off. All in all, most of the time I’m trying to be very clear about being attracted to him, but I never get a strong reaction, as I’ve mentioned before. I’m confused a little bit. It’s been going on for half a year…

  179. Syd May 20, 2013 at 3:30 pm #

    Hey Chris,

    So I have a BIG crush on this guy in my class. Ever since I met him I have had this crush (which was like 7 years ago). It felt like love at first sight.

    Well I was in 3rd grade and I didn’t really know what love was, but something about him felt “right”. Eventually we became best friends all throughout 4th – 7th grades because we carpooled together to school. I would go over to his house sometimes, and he would come over to mine. We were pretty much like family. Just innocent childhood friendship (those were the days…).

    We liked all the same things. My love for him grew. Eventually around 6th grade, we were hanging out outside after a soccer game and told him I liked him. He looked away and didnt know what to say. In my embarrassment, I walked away.
    The awkwardness of that eventually faded away and we resumed our friendship.

    But around the end of seventh grade, we grew apart in friendship, and now were just friends who know a lot about each other.

    Now, in 10th grade, he’s a bit intimidating and quiet around others. But when he is with his friends he’s very talkative and outgoing.

    I think I can point out some signs to see if he likes me.
    Constantly, he looks at me. He’s a naturally shy person, so he looks away whenever I look at him (and vice versa for me as well). About a half a year ago, he offered to carry my heavy backpack for me after a cross country meet, and I let him (it was a girly backpack too. And he is the type of guy who doesn’t really do nice things for people). His excuse to his friend after putting my backpack in the car was, “I was just trying to be nice…”

    Sometimes he sticks up for me in conversations too, even against his friends. He also likes to bring up the past a lot. Like, I was sitting at a table with him and another guy who was deemed “cool”. It was my crush’s birthday, so I gave him money for a present. (I didn’t know what to get him lol) The “cool” guy looked at me and was like, “Wait, what about me? Why didn’t you give me money on my birthday?” I apologized, but my crush said, “We were best friends when we were little. I practically lived at her house.”
    Those are all the signs i can think of right now.

    So to recap, I think he likes me, but I’m not sure. I’m not sure what to do next. I want to become better friends with him first, but he’s just so intimidating sometimes.. And it’s hard to know what to say around him! There’s many awkward silences.
    What should I do?

    (Sorry for that huge wall of text)

  180. ellisha May 20, 2013 at 9:28 pm #


    I need to know if this guy likes me,
    we are not close to each other big NO.. we don’t talk, we’re not friends.. but I really like him…
    there’s one time that we’re on a same room, end to end of a room, it happens that I need to go to my friend on the other side thats where he is, then when I go there he just flew away, he went to other side of the room…that’s maybe I realize that he doesn’t like me, but when I go out I saw him looking at me from afar.

    then there are times that I saw him looking at me, our eyes really met each other but he doesn’t even smile so I don’t know what’s in his mind.

    then one time he tease me, I would say a friendly tease, and when I look a him,first time he was smiling at me and he was looking straight to my eyes.. I’m a bit shock bcoz where not close really,where not friends, and when don’t even talk to each other.. I’m just confused!!

  181. Haley May 20, 2013 at 9:36 pm #

    Hi Chris ,
    Okie dokie , well the guy I like is always friendly to every one but he got offended once because when someone told him to kiss me , I said no. He asked if he wasn’t good enough , if something’s wrong with me , he’ll keep asking me what’s the matter & try his hardest to get me to tell him. He’s fought my friend over who got to sit in my lap while i was swinging. Wensday , he put his arm around me while we where watching a movie to comfort me.
    Here lately he’s been touching me more & he knows my sides are super ticklish. He pulled me up so I could sit down in front of him. He made me move over , so he could lay beside me while I was trying to nap , then when he got up & came back he grabbed my feet & laid them a cross his lap , then laid his head on my side. He laughed a little once when I sneezed because I guess my sneeze is cute or funny maybe. Then , when three of my friends kept telling him to kiss me while we were laying down , he told them to stop it or shut up & his face got really red & he got embarrassed. Then , he got asked if he liked me then he didn’t answer the question , he just kinda raised his hands in the air. He’s even moved over a few times so I could sit by him even though here were other seats available. He’s put his arm around me while watching a movie once as well.
    Plus , he guessed that I liked him & he seemed pretty happy about it.
    Yesterday , at the library we were siting outside & he came up behind me & put his arms around my stomach & bent me backwards over the concert step thing they have. When he touches my face , I threaten to hold his hand. I’ve done it before , but he still does it to me. Every single time he touches my face , I threaten to do something to him but that doesn’t stop him at all. Then , I’ll tell him I’m going to hold his hand if he does it again but that doesn’t stop him either.
    He wouldn’t quit leaning me backwards over the little step/seat thingie. He even grabbed me by my hands & leaned me backwards. One of my friends even asked him on Facebook if he liked me & he ignored the question but he saw the message. He finds some way to touch me all the time when school was in session.
    He tends to ignore the questions that involve me

    • Haley May 20, 2013 at 9:54 pm #

      Plus , everyone who I’ve asked says he likes me. We have the same friends & he can get really shy around girls that he likes as well. He teases me about I say the words stop & quit. When he hugs me he puts his head directly into the side of my neck & he hugs me until we’re pretty darn close. When he hugs me , he kinda dances with it & tries to make me think he’s going to drop me but he never does.

  182. brooke May 21, 2013 at 1:35 am #

    Hey chris .. okay so I met this guy through a group on facebook and I’ve never actually hung out with him. Any way I was having a bad day and posted it on facebook and he messaged me which eventually turned into texing everyday then came the comment where he was having a bad day and I told him it would get better and he said it already did once he heard from me. I’ve given him hints and he told me that his friends wanted him to go do something but I’m much cooler to talk to and that I’m the first person he talks to everyday and that I’m cool because everyone expects so much from him and i only expect him to be him weve talked about places wed like to go to and hang out and finally he asked me to hang out with him so i agreed and up until now I’m was sure he liked me. But I’m wondering if I was thrown into the friend zone today because instead of texting me first like he has done everyday mostly because he gets up for work earlier than I do he didn’t so I did and then he started to tell me about some girl babbling to him at work and I said well who knows maybe ur helping her just by listening amd he said maybe I have with a smiley face. Then proceded to talk about how this other girl was creeping him out and staring at him and he said she was pleasing to the eye except for when she opened her mouth so I changed the subject and it never returned to it but then he wasn’t as flirtly as he normaly would be. Is he trying to c if I’d get jelous or is he starting to push me away and into the friend zone? I’ve told him that talking to him was the highlight of my day and I’ve told him things that I liked about him I.e. he’ always teaching me something new eachday. And we alwaus txt each other good night and i always say sweet dreams. Am I not sending off the right signals?I’m confused help? Sincerly brooke

  183. Rumi May 21, 2013 at 4:53 am #


    There’s this guy I’ve known for just over 2 years and I have a huge crush… We bump into each other occasionally because we run in different circles. But when we do see each other he will often ask what I was up to and if I want to grab a coffee together. He will usually insist on paying for my coffee and we would sit and chat a bit for a bit. I do notice sometimes when we go for coffee with other people he doesn’t offer to pay. He would also always open doors for me etc. I’m not sure whether he was just being polite or chivalrous. A few times he has complimented on how nicely I was dressed. Other than that he would never initiate any contact either by phone or text or email…

    Few months ago we had a group dinner with a bunch of peole where partners were invited. He brought along this girl he was dating at the time and I was devastated so I basically avoided him for a few months after that. But then I couldn’t stay away and initiated contact again. We chatted and he mentioned that he was single in passing. I’m not sure if that meant anything or not but I was so relieved.

    Recently we’ve seen each other a little bit more frequently and I’ve noticed that his body language towards me has changed. There never used to be any body contact but now when we walk together somewhere he would do these light pats on my back (I thought they were “affectionate” but it could be just wishful thinking…). More recently, he has become more familiar… We would be talking as we walk and then he would put his arm around my shoulder for a quick squeeze. Not a greetings squeeze on the shoulder or hug, but more out of the blue I guess.

    I’m not sure what to make of this… So confusing because I don’t know whether he’s just being nice and friendly or whether he likes me back. I don’t usually hang around him so I can’t tell how he usually behaves around other people especially other girls or his female friends. But he is generally a very friendly guy. Can you please give me some insight as to what this all means??

  184. sam May 21, 2013 at 7:19 am #

    Hey Chris!

    I really like this guy that’s in my group circle but it’s hard to tell whether he likes me or treats me as ‘one of the boys’. He makes eye contact with me and picks on me probably more than anyone else. He also mucks around with me/ play fights, this usually occurs when he takes an item of mine. He doesn’t really talk to me much on facebook but today, he randomly asked one of his friends for my number when he didn’t really need it. Ah i’m just so confused. Any help or advice would be great :)

  185. Aymen (@zarrypeasant) May 21, 2013 at 7:55 am #

    Hi Chris!

    I’m not even sure if you’ll see this, but I just wanted your opinion on something.

    So there’s this guy in my class who I just got close to, a few months back. I don’t like him, but at times I do get hints that he might like me. As in, a lot of times in class, we make eye contact and its really awkward. And every time we do, he starts looking around trying to cover it up.

    We have seating arrangements according to which the teacher makes us sit and i had been sitting next to him for a month. We got pretty close at that time but now that we don’t sit together anymore, we aren’t as close. We’re still reallyy good friends though.

    He did ask for my number a couple months back and we have been texting almost everyday. He always starts the convo but only seems to talk about school and homemork, although I think that’s just an excuse to talk to me I guess :/ but I’m still not sure cause he treats me like every other person and i wouldn’t know if he werr any different when im not there. We joke around a lot but i think im thinking about it way too much.

    Oh and he just broke up with his girlfriend a month ago. Anyways, I have no clue what it means. Help?

  186. annie May 21, 2013 at 2:54 pm #

    Hey Chris,
    Okay so obviously there’s this guy that I’m really into right. And I’ve never really dated a guy or thought about it seriously before because I’ve never found anyone, so its hard for me to tell if he likes me or not. All I ever hear from everybody else is how he’s so annoying, all he does is talk, he’s a player, blah blah blah..but I don’t see any of that when I’m with him. I don’t find him annoying at all. And he had told me one day that everyone thinks he’s a player because he’s messed around with a few girls so they all assume. But he told me that! I don’t know if he’s just messing around with my emotions..but he does pick on me. Like he dangled me over a pool one day when we were trying to work on a school project and he’s always trying to play footsies with me. Maybe just to see my reaction? Like I said, I don’t know what’s going on really but o really like him and no one understands why. Help??

  187. Miss Purple May 21, 2013 at 6:53 pm #

    Hi Chris. There’s a guy I like that seems to like me too.. I’ve sorta checked his body language and he does what was said, he tries to touch and hug me when he can, he tries to make me laugh a lot, he asked me out to lunch with his friends, and my mom talked to his mom and his mother mentioned how intelligent and cool he says I am. (My mom met his mom for the first time because I’m new to the school.) Do you think he likes me?

  188. Riel May 21, 2013 at 6:57 pm #

    Hey Chris,

  189. Riel May 21, 2013 at 6:58 pm #

    Hi Chris,

    I just discovered your website. I love it! You have great advice.

  190. Riel May 21, 2013 at 7:16 pm #

    Hi Chris,

    I just discovered your website. I love it! You have great advice. I have a question for you. So there is this guy that I like, that I can tell likes me. He started liking me first. A few months ago, I had changed my hair and I saw that he noticed and would sit next to me in class and say random comments to see how I would react. At the time I didn’t know if he actually liked me, I just thought he was just being odd. So later my school announced that the dance was coming up, and he would constantly mention this right in front of me. He soon started showing up wherever I showed up. It didn’t hit me until a week before the dance that he wanted to ask me to the dance, because he then soon stopped showing up wherever I went. Later I asked him ( thinking it was too late) if he would like to go with me to the dance. He said in a mean sort of way that he’s going with someone else. Now, after the dance he still keeps looking at me until I turn away. He also gets mad when I laugh at my guy friend’s jokes and talk to them. I also notice that his friends look at me a lot too. So my questions are: Does he still like me? Why did he get mad at me when I asked him to prom? Why does he get mad when I talk to my other guy friends? Why does he not talk to me anymore? and Why does he and his friends look at me a lot?

  191. Laura May 21, 2013 at 8:03 pm #

    There’s this guy I’ve known since he was eleven and I was thirteen. Now we’re fifteen and seventeen, and we’ve been friends since we met, and I’ve always liked him, but recently I’ve realized I’m attracted to him on top of all our history. But he’s best buddies with my younger brother, and I’m good friends with his older sister, and all four of us are pretty much inseparable so it’s hard to tell if any things changed on his part, or if I’m just super eager for him to like me and we’re really just old friends.
    Yeah, we make eye contact, and recently it’s seems he’s been more than just looking at me but looking at my body.
    Um, occasionally he brings himself up in conversation, (he used to be super skinny, and he’ll talk about gaining weight, that kinda stuff).
    He used to be really chivalrous, but he’s recently stopped, and I was really surprised when he held the door for me just the other day. Could he be hiding that he cares?
    He’s taken to teasing me really gently, calling me a social networking butterfly and other stuff.
    Me and his sis were chatting and he came and sat close to us, and would seem as if to join the conversation, but then leave, like oh I’ll leave you guys be, even though we’ve always accepted him. As if he couldn’t decide — in or out.
    We played Halo (the four of us), and he ended up sitting by me which isn’t exactly typical, and I’m an awful player but he made sure I didn’t feel bad. It was almost insulting how many times he said he didn’t mind being on the loosing team, and praising me for getting one kill or assist.
    The other day he held me steady while I figured out this weird skateboard thing and was really helpful. I’m pretty sure that was the first time he ever touched me in a manly way.
    Sometimes we text (sometimes for a whole day straight), but other days he’ll just be asking me where my brother is, or why he’s not answering texts. I’ve hypothesized that as a crappy attempt at talking to me, but when I try and keep the conversation going, he’s really indifferent.
    Last but not least, we flirt. But we always have, and nobody even notices if we’ve taken it up a notch.
    So there’s usually another pretty good explanation as to why he does what he does, other than liking me. Help?

    • Laura May 21, 2013 at 8:33 pm #

      By the way:
      We didn’t text before. It used to be him sending one text for every two of mine. And we go to a church with a reformed background, so it’s uncommon for boys and girls to be friends. So I usually end up seeing him at work (I work for his dads company), or when the four of us get together. Rarely are we alone.

  192. goldy May 22, 2013 at 1:15 pm #

    Hey Chris,

    I have a concern because I have a crush on this guy and I don’t know what is going on. I only see him when he is working and he smiles and says hi and how are you….makes it a point to help me and also looks at me many times. The last time I saw him I was with my bf so that is why I am wondering what is going on here. I have never had a crush on anyone before especially while being with my bf????? He saw me and my bf when we were at the store and I wonder what he was thinking????? I am confused and this is driving me crazy….Please help

  193. Olivia May 22, 2013 at 4:10 pm #

    So.. uh there’s this guy in my class who seems like he likes me but doesnt at the same time. My friend has noticed it too. Where I sit in the class that were usually in, I can look almost straight ahead and see him perfectly. So for the past few weeks, I’ve noticed that he keeps staring at me. Not like staring at me, then looking away. I mean, STARING but eventually he looks away. So after a few days I started looking back and holding his gaze for a few seconds then looking away. Hoping that he would get the message that I like him. And plus in the cafeteria, he purposely positions himself so he can look at me from time to time. AND he always seems to move to sit with the people near me even if he’s not very close and a group/row or so away. But wenever I try to talk to him, he tries to stop talking to me and he avoids me as much as possible… Help please!

    • Olivia May 22, 2013 at 4:11 pm #

      (Im in middle school by the way)

  194. Briana May 22, 2013 at 10:49 pm #

    Ok, so I like this guy and I think he likes me back. And all of my friends say that we would be a cute couple. He likes to poke me in the side a lot… I’m pretty sure that he does it so that I cringe, because whenever I cringe I lean forward, and generally right into him. I guess that falls under the category of picking on me as well. Sometimes he’s a little immature, though…But sometimes I’m not too sure if he does likes me… It’s getting really close to the end of the school year, and I basically just met him. Also, he’s a grade ahead of me, and in none of my classes except my study hall. I don’t really know much about him but I can’t figure out how to really bring it up. My friend blurted out one day that he should just ask e out already, and he got a little angry at her. I just really want to know if he likes me, and how I can show him that I like him too… without really going to fast…help.

  195. Georgia May 23, 2013 at 5:43 pm #

    Hi Chris!,

    at highschool there is this really hot boy who is popular in are class (loads of girls have a crush on him aswell:(. During class Harry (my crush) has been making quite a lot of eye contact with me (he does it the most to me then the other girls;)so I wanted to know if he had a cush on me back, please help because I have a massive crush on him and I keep on thinking about him everyday! I am actually quite a shy girl so imbarresed to talk to him and go close to him1 plz help:(

  196. Georgia May 23, 2013 at 5:45 pm #

    OMG!!!! Harry is soooooooooooooooooo hot I wish he was mine:( i’m really sad because I don’t know if he has a crush on me back!:(

  197. Jewels May 23, 2013 at 7:02 pm #

    Hey Chris,
    there’s this guy in my class and he’s actually really cute!

  198. Jewels May 23, 2013 at 7:05 pm #

    He’s always staring at me or kicking me ( in a nice way) sometimes he even rubs his legs against mine! It’s weird but I like him and all my friends say he likes me but they don’t talk to him so how would they know! I really want to know if he likes me back! THANKS

  199. Naomi May 23, 2013 at 9:22 pm #

    Hey Chris!
    Me and this guy have been friends for 2 years now, and I really, really like him. He’s really nice to me, we have steady conversations and have a lot of things in common.
    Recently, I noticed that he’s been touching me more than usual (you know, innocent things you wouldn’t really think of, like leaning across me to fetch a book or something). And we skype and talk a lot more than usual. And he sings to me (badly lol). He’s even admitted to stalking me on twitter :$
    I don’t want to make too much out of it, because he has liked another girl before and I realized how he reacted to her isn’t the same as he reacts to me, but I still feel like something is there. I don’t want to jeopardize our friendship by telling him I like him, because he really is lovely, but I don’t want to keep my feelings to myself either. Help?

  200. Ava May 23, 2013 at 11:47 pm #

    Hey Chris,
    Well theirs this boy I like on my club soccer team, he’s perfect, shy, outgoing. He texts me everyday everynight, always keeps the Convo going, he teases me ALOT, but I always know when he’s joking. When he talks to me, he’s always smiling or laughing and stares me in the eyes. But when I saw him he was with all these girls and he always looked at me when I seemed to be close near him. But also one night he said he thinks me and my i guess ex should get back together cause we text consinatley, but were just friends, by telling me he thinks me and my ex should get back together does that mean he only thinks as me as a friend even tho he does all Those other things?

  201. Helen May 24, 2013 at 7:58 pm #

    Hey chris, so im in high school right now, and theres this guy, all my friends say he likes me, and the thing is that he’s really popular and well… Im not THAT popular. Well so he stares at me A LOT, and teases me in a friendly way a lot. Like we r friends but… Not close. He always leans into me when i talk and for some reason he’s always there when I’m somewhere… Like hes following me! This guy is friendly so he does joke around with girls but when it comes to me, he just stares… Like he told my friend that he liked me, but kinda jokingly… Like the convo was like this
    My friend: why do u always bother helen?
    Him: cause i like her
    My friend: WHATTT!?!?!?!?!
    Him: hahaha… Just kidding… Dont tell her i said this…
    My friend: umm ok…
    Him: *walks away*
    ALSO my other friend caught him talking about me to his friend it was like this

    Him: Helen…. She… (My friend didnt hear what they were tlking about, it was too loud in the hallways and they were muttering)
    *my friend catches him talking about me*
    Him: *blushes* has a serious face… And walks away

    Sooo im kinda confused… I mean… I really don’t know… Plz reply ASAP!

  202. Blake May 25, 2013 at 11:27 am #

    Hello Chris!
    Great website you have here. However, I’m still not too sure whether this guy likes me.
    We go to the same school but we don’t have any classes together. But sometimes our classes are quite near each others, and just recently he started to hang out where I usually hang out in school. We stare at each other, steal glances etc. But quickly look away. I knew him since sixth grade (I think) and we whatsapp each other, but we have a habit of replying each other’s text and immediately go offline. I use my mother’s phone to see whether he went online or not, but recently I found out that he doesn’t go online, and when he does, he only replies me, then goes offline. What does this mean? There was twice when he came up to me to ask me completely random things. But that conversation was really quick. So I decided to go up to him and talk for a bit too, and when I came up to him, he held his computer up against his chest, more of a cuddle-ish. Also, I know that he still or used to like another girl that’s my friend. But I’m not so sure whether he still likes her. Please help. Sorry for the length of this ‘comment’

    • Blake May 25, 2013 at 11:35 am #

      Sorry Chris, but I suddenly remembered that once, I know that he knows that I’m looking. And he just walked past a group of girls (they were doing a handshake or something, awkward….) and just playfully shook his hands on theirs. I got kinda jealous…

  203. Merrie May 26, 2013 at 7:23 am #

    Hi Chris, I have known this guy for abt 4 months but we rarely talk, usually i might be the one that initiate the conversation and i know nothing abt him. I am in mid twenties and he is older. Everytime when we happen to see each other, we will hav eye contact and smile(longer than usual). I caught him staring at me when I walk past him and when I turn and look at him, he didnt turn away, he will look into my eye and smile. On a few occasions, he looks surprised to see me out there, his eyes became bigger while looking at me. He will turn back to look at me after i walked pass him, i could see through the corner of my eyes. He does wink at me at times sometime with the present of other colleagues. However, I got to knw that he gossip to his female partner about me, and I don’t have a good feeling abt this. Recently, we talk alittle (he initiated this time round). He doesn’t feel shy or nervous while talking to me. There was once when he walk pass my room when i am still in the office after working hours, he did a cute knocking action on my door and tells me it’s time to go home and I just replied goodbye. I did not see him doing this to other female colleagues I guess because most of then are married. I am confuse, what is he thinking?

  204. Juliet May 28, 2013 at 3:39 am #

    Hi !
    Im a senior in highschool and I like this guy but he’s a freshman … We just started getting to know.eachother after school and he usually holds eye contact , jokes around , touches me, but then im left confused because.he hasn’t really made an effort to do more. I really like him and im willing to give it a shot , does he like me or is he just seeing if he.can get an older girls attention ?

  205. Julia May 28, 2013 at 11:21 am #

    I don’t agree that you should have to wait untill marriage to have sex. We are human and we have instincts that are hard to ignore. If you hold it in it will usually result in perversion. Because so many people get married after 30 these days I think it’s unrealistic for people to remain virgins after they’re 25 years old

  206. Aurora May 29, 2013 at 1:35 pm #

    Hey Chris-

    I recently started crushing on this guy who is in a band.We are friends on FB and I had messaged him a few months back to try and get to know him (pre-crush). I’d send it, he’d read it the same day,I’d get a response about 2-3 days later, and it would be closed response. My first thought was ok, he isn’t interested in being friends,so I stopped messaging. However, over the last couple of weeks, he’s been staring at me and smiling when I go to his shows, even during soundcheck. He’s gotten flirty with the looks during the shows and stares quite often. He’ll even try to get my attention by doing funny things on stage. There was one time that I happened to be standing behind someone and he couldn’t see me, so he booked it to the other side of the stage and angled himself to stare at me. On a side note,his buddies also stare at me a lot, which is creeping me out. His friends will see me at places when he isn’t there and still stare.

  207. Cece May 29, 2013 at 5:01 pm #

    Hi so this is was some great advice. But for the dude I like he would always hug me all the time but he did with other girls too. But he would also always have these long talks with me in person where it was only the 2 of us and wouldn’t do that with anyone else at least I think and I always wondered why. And then in our conversations whether it be in person or on text he would always be so interested, especially when I wouldn’t tell him something. Btw we are good friends. But also there was this time where he saw me upset and I told him a small part of the reason was because of a boy that i liked but I wouldn’t tell him who he kept asking who but I found out that he knew all along that it was him and just wanted to hear me say it.

  208. Alexandra May 30, 2013 at 12:07 am #

    Hi Chris!
    So there’s this guy I’ve liked for several years now & we’ve become really good friends throughout high school. He is constantly trying to make sure I am smiling or laughing or both when we are talking in class. He also likes to poke fun at me, never in a mean way though. Recently we got a group project in one of the classes we share & he practically yelled that he was claiming me as a partner & eventually got into an argument with his brother about whose partner he was. He’s always making sure he keeps whatever he promised me even if he’s sick & he’s always asking me for help with homework & class stuff. He also trusts me enough to tell me about his problems & things he won’t tell others. I don’t know if he likes me or just sees me as a really good friend. I’m also worried that we won’t see each other a lot anymore since we are both graduating next week even though we promised to keep in contact & he recently got out of bad relationship but he hasn’t spoken to the girl in a month. I know thats not very long but still haha. Any suggestions? Your help would be greatly appreciated. :)

  209. Alexandra May 30, 2013 at 12:24 am #

    Hi Chris!
    So there’s this guy that I’ve liked for several years now. Throughout high school we’ve become really good friends. He’s always trying to make sure I’m smiling, laughing, or both. He also likes to like fun of me but never in a mean way. He always makes sure I laugh too. He trusts me with a lot of things he wouldn’t tell others & he’s willing to help me out with anything I need should I ask for his help. He always tries his best to keep his promises to me even if he’s sick, even if the promise involved schoolwork. He’s not one to care about school very much but he does very well. He just doesn’t do the work. He always comes to me for help in classes & he hardly asks his friends for help in school (as far as I know). Recently, in one of the classes we share, we received a group project & he practically yelled that I was his partner as soon as our teacher let us pick our partner. He even got into an argument with his brother about who his partner should be. I don’t know if he sees me as a sister or something else. Also I’m worried we won’t be able to keep in contact as we are graduating next week. Even though we promised to stay good friends & keep in contact I’m still worried. Also he recently got out of a bad relationship & he told me himself that he hasn’t talked to her in a month. This probably sounds bad but he said he’s disgusted with her because of some things that have happened. Any suggestions? Your help would be greatly appreciated. :)

  210. Anonymous May 30, 2013 at 8:15 pm #

    Hi, I was wondering if you could help me on wether or not my crush likes me, we’re both 18 and seniors btw. So anyways, I’ve liked him for about 2/1/2 years now. He stares at me any time he sees me, but sometimes he avoids me or ignores me. We have only talked once before, but it was because we both had to do a project together, but when he asked me a question i replyed really quickly, and we looked each other in the eyes, but i looked down quickly and he was still staring. One time i heard him ask a guy if he did something and he shook his head no, the my crud said “dosent she make u nervou?” And then he said something about being as beautiful as a butterfly. Few days later i saw the guy he talked to, and he sort grinned. There was one time when i saw one of his friends that was a girl and that he was talking to look at me, so i looked really quickly and it sounded like he said she never looks at me, but idk. I’ve noticed some of his friends look at me too. Usually when I look back he looks away. So if he likes me, why would he avoid/ignore me? An also my prom is this weekend what should I do if i see him there? Keep in mind i am VERY shy, ESPECIALLY around him. Also he’s only quiet around me? Help me please! Thanks!

  211. Anonymous May 30, 2013 at 8:43 pm #

    P.S i try to act like i don’t know when he’s staring by not looking back, could he think i don’t like him? Except idk why he’d think that since i added him on fb, and liked a couple of his pics. Also sorry it’s so long i would really like to know though as its been almost 3 yrs.

  212. nora May 31, 2013 at 9:22 am #

    i like this guy and i believe he like me…there are some signs but im confused im maybe my emotions are blinding me…hes the one who first initiated conversation with me-he asked me a dumb question”what chapters are on the final”>hes a genius first of all second he told me that im missing a chapter and third he waited specifically after another class to ask me-because i was talking to another teacher after the class..he always smiles when he sees me-but usually close lipped-the time i saw him after i added him to my facebook i saw him after saying hi to him smile to himself:D…another time when i started talking to him there was a pause as he said hi to that person with his body face to me so i was looking at him to continue he looked back and saw my face and looked at my reaction-then he shyly looked down-i think he looked back up at me but i was looking elsewhere..i do catch him occasionally staring at my face when he thinks im not looking,most of the time he chooses to sit right behind me in class if not a few seats to the side..last semester i was complaining to him the i wasnt managing my time and i had a lot of pressure from the courses i was taking..so later he gives me a time management cd he made himself-he said he has a copy and listens to it and wanted to help me out as a friend…and sometimes he is so fidgety around me,a few times he keeps going back and forth in front of me…a few days ago we were swapping songs we liked through facebook.. but recently whats confused me is that he confided in me and told me he needed me to help him out as a sister if i was willing to listen(we chat sometimes and when we do—we really do for like 2-3 hrs- nothing romantic of course)and i was, he told me he has unstable feelings for a girl-he asked me if i wanted to know i said idk- because its non of my business and its up to him..he told me who she was(but before he did he said “u killed me” i was like “??? me” did i like scare him??)and he just wanted my input of what he should do-he told me “she’s messing with my heart,i havent talked to her for a year… and i i havent even said hello to her,ive been through too much internal-conflict,whenever she passes by i naturally feel terribly weak”and he started asking me about her-i said i dont know her too well..i said why dont u ask some guys that do-he didnt answer that..then he was making assumptions then asking me if they were right he said she was socially smart,humble,the next conversation he told me hes trying to just gather info about her to just get a grip on the situation and not let it consume him then he want on saying shes diplomatic,has self confidence but a strong ego,tough,provocative…then i closed the subject cuz i felt a bit awkward:P i was just wondering since we are not that close-sine recently why he told me this-was he trying to make me jealous or did he trust me as a true friend…

    • nora May 31, 2013 at 9:35 am #

      sorry for this being sooo long but i forgot to add the part that confused me so me and this girl are in an environment program and i told him why dont u join it so u can be close to her and get to know her he said “what do i need to learn about her for?? nora since ive done nth wrong and never intended to i dont use the forfeit alternative to try to learn about her and no i am not planning to follow in her steps im not a phony behind that someone… i always try to build a dignity of my own and dont worry im going to do that… trust me, i wont be happy if i did follow the same steps as her if she’s really going to be that so-called “volunteer”… in fact its going to be disappointing nora i refuse to get carried by these type of girls…sorry i don’t trust her… she makes me sick

      but thank u anyway nora,nora i want to know more about her… but if so.. i don’t want to get the hunt the easiest way… i like challenges… and im planning to choose from a couple of opportunities…” which makes me wonder if he was just trying to get me jealous..and when we chat he types my name a few times as u just saw if that means anything..one time i counted during 1 session we were chatting and it was 11 times..

  213. Ultimatecougarfan May 31, 2013 at 4:49 pm #

    Hey Chris,

    I just started liking this guy, I’ll call him “A” on here, who happens to be the most popular guy in school.
    My friends say he likes me but I’m not so sure. In p.e. we play soccer, boys vs girls and the teacher never pays attention so we play unfairly. “A” was at my goal so I ran over there’ and tried to shoulder check him but he’s way stronger than me lol. We shoved against each other until he finally scored. Then on his way to the other side of the field he called out, “your afraid of me aren’t you?” With a grin on his face. Later I tried scoring on his goal and he blocked it and said in a low scratchy voice, “get some”. And in science class I was making a go-cart and mine went the furthest so he told me good job, gave me knuckles when my hand was on the desk, and then he sat on the empty desk linked to mine. His friend rarely comes over to me and tells me “A” liked me last year and I say an awkward ok.

    Do you think he likes me?
    Thanks Chris

  214. miley May 31, 2013 at 7:22 pm #

    well I don’t like this boy,but he looks at me and treats me like I’m special?and I try to impress him but I don’t fancy him?

  215. Alex May 31, 2013 at 8:31 pm #

    Hey, Chris.

    Okay. I’ve asked all the people I can think of and none of us can figure this guy out. We met in the beginning of the year (we’re both sophomores) and he was too shy to ask for my number. I knew he liked me because his friends did that thing where they pressured him to talk to me and I’d catch him glancing at me frequently. Finally, I couldn’t stand it anymore and I introduced myself. Long story short, we had hour long conversations after school. He began buying me lunch and talking about introducing me to his parents…
    Well we’re both almost 17. Obviously, hormones are crazy. A “mutual friend” informed me he was intimate with someone I dislike immensely last semester (before we were talking.) Yup. I was disappointed and jealous. -.-
    He told me he wanted to wait on a relationship, which I agree with 100%, but I’m afraid that’s his way of retreating. Maybe he lost feelings for me? Maybe I’m wasting my time? He texted me earlier saying hello- nothing Shakespeare. I replied with your typical “hey”, but he never responded. If you haven’t noticed by my extremely long explanation, I really like this guy. My parents aren’t sure what to tell me besides, “give it time.” He made a mistake and I can accept that.
    We used to flirt all the time and now that we’re on vacation, I don’t want him to forget about me. Even if we don’t date, he’s a good friend. Help, please? :/

  216. Amanda June 2, 2013 at 1:46 pm #

    Hey Chris!

    I need some help, okay there is this guy i have known him for a year and we have been good friends but recently these past couple of months i have began to like him more than usual i found out soon after through a friend that he likes me too, recently we have admitted to each other that we both like one another but since then he has been giving me mixed signals and also he is kind of seeing another girl but it is nothing serious more like a sex thing which i am okay with cause we are not exactly together at this moment in time (she also lives far away). I just don’t no what to do, I can’t tell what he wants. Can i also just say this is all very new to me i have never told a guy i like them before and have never been in this situation before i know that he is aware of this which is why i also think that is the reason he is being a bit distant with me. I am 19 by the way just to let you know.
    Thank you if you read this but some advice would be nice :-)

  217. jazmine June 2, 2013 at 4:26 pm #

    Hi chris theres this guy i like and i think he likes me im not sure.he gives me eye contact alot and when i look in his eyes we stare at each other its weird.my friend is like a sister to me and me and him always hang out and when my friend sees us she says “ill leave you too alone and he doesnt say anything about it.i stares at me in class and he tries to get close to me.i need help and i probly dont make sense.im in middle school.plese help me

  218. mimi June 2, 2013 at 8:10 pm #

    Okay, so I’m in highschool and I’ve always had feelings for this boy in my class, but stronger ones lately… He is really popular withe lads and ladies and we used to be quite close… However he has this awful best mate who generally is a mean dick to me and my friends… This happened after I had an argument with both of them about sexism (as the mean guy is very sexist), and it’s toned down now but still… Anyway sometimes I catch them making fun of us and they tend to intimidate us right infront of us so they can see our reactions, but if the guy I like sees that I get upset or am uncomfortable, he apologises for it when his friend is gone… We have a heck lot in common, it’s like we are made for eachother, at times I tend to catch him glance at me very often, and he always tries to listen in on my conversations, also he checks if I laugh when he says a joke etc. When he does this I get a strong feeling that he likes me, however it all goes downhill when he either completely blanks me or makes spiteful comments with his mate… The problem is that he is a very wise and intelligent guy with people, he is a good lyier, reads people well and can manipulate them easily (intact earlier he told me how the can manipulate the ‘dumb popular girls’ to like him so easily). I never know if I’m just an experiment and if he is just playing with my feelings, I tend to get that feeling from time to time…I also think that he might have a little feelings for me but doesn’t want to because I’m way out of his league and group and I belong to the ‘weird, unlined nerds who do nothing intheir lives’. I don’t know… P.s he seemed to be eager to know whether I was going to our mutual friends party lately, and on his ask.fm (a website where people answer anonymous questions) he said his perfect girl would be tall, blonde, sporty, quirky and into rock which EXACTLY like me…. He’s sending me so many mixed feeling it’s driving me crazy as I’m really into him!!!

  219. Iasia June 2, 2013 at 8:23 pm #

    So one of my best friends has been acting really strange lately. He always tells me the same jokes, asks me the same questions over and over, he always looks really deeply into my eyes (I know that sounds strange but he does). He’ll playfully punch me for a long time, and he’ll defend me when other people are jerks. He also asks me about my boyfriend (who isn’t there anymore) or who I like.
    The only thing is I used to like his friend a couple of months ago, and he was doing these things, but he really tried hard to help me get him. It didn’t work out obviously( he didn’t feel the same), but he still tried to help. Also, I think my friend likes him a lot, and she sits at my lunch table, which he is beginning to sit at more frequently. What are his feelings?
    P.S. We’re both now juniors and are 16

    • Iasia June 2, 2013 at 8:27 pm #

      He’s also just a very outgoing person too, and so am I.

      • Iasia June 3, 2013 at 9:06 pm #

        Also today, he told me he liked my other friend via text and asked me to ask her how she feels about him, but he still does all of these things. WTF???

  220. Vicky Arguero June 2, 2013 at 10:29 pm #

    Hi. So I like this guy who sits next to me in my class, and he’s sort of like the class clown. I have such a huge crush on him and I really want to know if he’s interested or just misinterpreting the signs. At first we talked a little and he would always borrow my pencil. And we would look at eachother. Then I grew some balls and finally sent him a message on Facebook but he didn’t reply… Then at school he started to talk to me more and now he looks at me for more than a second and smiles a lot and we just stare at eachother sometimes. I don’t know what to do.

  221. mhaj June 3, 2013 at 8:26 am #

    Hi Chris..

    I have a crush on this guy,but he doesnt know coz i dont show it and im shy and i dont know how to act if someone approach me. Everytime i see him he always looks at me,,many times. his a cute guy,but when i passed by his house he doesnt approach me or introduce himself to me,he just looks.Do you think he likes me?

  222. Allie June 4, 2013 at 3:43 pm #

    Hi Chris,

    I am in this club and this guy and I are both officers. We met about five months ago and he was never been anything but nice to me. I have noticed that he will lean toward me and he will touch me as in my arm, or intertwine his leg with mine while we are in a meeting. His kindness seems so genuine and I try to discern if he is just being a nice person and good leader or if there is something more. We attend different schools, but he is active in many activities. So when I casually mentioned him to one of my conservative friends she responded in saying, “He needs Jesus, he is way too flirtacious sometimes.” I have never been a girl to partake in “groupie” like actions and I am concerned that I am just another pawn in his game. After our last meeting, he put his arm around me, and placed his chest on the back of my shoulder. But before leaving, when someone asked for a hug, he followed through quite passionately. Since I recently met him, I am unsure of their past; but I know this was her last time at a meeting. Our positions require he and I contact eachother quite often and he is always concerned with how I am and my opinion. He will definitely flirt with me; many signs are there. He will compliment me, smile very often, and stare at me too. But, I suppose my question is that am I just another girl, or does he truly feel interest in me?

    Just something else, I have been reading your comments to others and I have learned quite a lot from what you have said. I very conservative too, so I appreciate that you incorporate that aspect in the discussion as well.

    • Allie June 5, 2013 at 10:45 am #

      I apologize, but when I said that he would intertwine his leg with mine, I mispoke and exaggerated a bit. He has gently allowed both of our knees to touch.

      Also, another thing that I forgot to mention is that he emailed me once speaking of normal club business and then at the end of the email, he wished me good luck on my finals and hoped that I had not been stressed out about them. Mind you, we attend different schools and I only casually mentioned the stresses of finals about two weeks prior to when he sent the email, which was right during finals week.

      It has gotten to the point where I may actually like him a bit, but it would help if you could let me know if he is truly interested me, or he is just flirting with me and moving to the next girl. Also, whatever you decide, could you let me know where I should go from there? Thank you so much!

  223. Paige June 5, 2013 at 12:27 am #

    Hey Chris,

    There is this guy that I work with and I am so confused. I have worked with him in the past and really didn’t like him at all. I thought he was very cocky and arrogant.

    About 8 months ago, I spotted him pretty far ahead of me and he kept turning around looking at me. When I got to the exit he was waiting for me and asked me a lame question that he could have found the answer to himself very easily.

    Then about 5 months ago, he was in the office and I happened to look up and he was walking by just starring but never said a word.

    About a month ago I was on a business trip with him and other colleagues and he spotted me in the hotel lobby. He came up to me and asked what I was doing and I told him I was waiting on another coworker to grab a bite and have a few drinks. I invited him and he said he would be back down. We had a great time and I noticed when we went to another bar that he put his hand on my shoulder to lead the way.

    A couple of weeks later I was on a trip with him again and when we landed he was waiting for the rest of us at the top of the jetway and he asked if we were on again. I said sure. A bunch of us went out and again I felt like I was picking up on a few things. He sat next to me, we had a group pic taken and he had his arm around me and at one point he was out on the dance floor singing the words to me and pointing.

    On the way back, he walked with me and told me he was going to try and do the same trip with me the following week (at least thats what I think he said).

    The next morning I ran into him in the lobby and when he walked passed me he grabbed my arm and rubbed my wrist but didn’t say anything. Then later on when he was walking towards me he broke out into a goofy dance with this huge grin on his face and just starring at me. (he knew I wasn’t feeling too good after the drinks the night before)

    He was unable to do the trip the following week but I did run into him and he asked if I was going back to the same bar to see the band, etc. Then told me to have a good trip. Thats the last I have seen him. Is he just being friendly or is he interested. We are older…we are both in our 40′s if that matters. Thanks for any useful info you can give me.

  224. anonymous June 5, 2013 at 1:48 am #

    Hi I have been working with this guy for atleast 6 years. Recently we have been getting closer like talking about personal stuff. I have also noticed that we always stand close to each other shoulder to shoulder. We get along really well always laughing and talking to each other. Recently we were working when he put his hand on top of mineand I let him then took it off thinking they were looking at us. Is there something going on or are we just friends. I feel he likes me but dont know how to go on with this. Please help.

  225. Katerina June 5, 2013 at 12:25 pm #

    Hey Chris!

    So, this guy and I have been friends for a few months now. Yesterday we went to a concert together with a big group of friends. He kept touching me, like poking my sides, touching my hair, and sometimes my face. He talked to me the whole day. He always sat near me on the bus, and didn’t leave me alone for too long. When on the bus sometimes I would look over and he would be looking at me also. We didn’t keep eye contact for more then a few seconds but every time we did, I made sure to smile and he always smiled back. The problem is, he acts like he’s into me, but he went to prom with one of my friends earlier. It doesn’t sound like anyone knows about how serious it could be. When we went to dinner in our prom group, she was already talking about marriage, and he said less then three sentences to me the whole night. He’s so hard to read, but I can’t help but feel maybe he has something for me. I need help. :)

  226. Allie June 5, 2013 at 1:40 pm #

    Hi Chris,

    Yesterday I discovered your article and this website and after I deleted my web history on my computer, I noticed that my post was gone as well. Hopefully, even though the article is not very recent, you will still review my post and give some helpful advice. I will try to reconstruct my post as best as I can.

    I am in a club and this guy and I are both officers. We met about five or six months ago when the club first began. Since the first time we met, he has been nothing but nice to me. He will often lean in to me and touch me, as in my arms or shoulders. At first I was alarmed by his eagerness to touch me, considering that we were simply acquaintances, but since he was friendly and not aggressive, I did not think too much of it.

    We attend different schools, but he is very active in multiple activities. So I casually mentioned him to one of my extremely conservative friends and her response was, “He needs Jesus; he is just way too flirtatious sometime.” I have never been one to partake in “groupie” like activities, so I have a hard time knowing what to do.

    About three months ago, I noticed that he would smile at me, stare at me, and make an obvious effort to talk to me more often. Our positions require he and I to contact each other a lot, so it is hard for me to discern whether his friendliness is good leadership or perhaps something more. He is always concerned with how I am and what my opinion is on various matters, and usually he will agree with whatever I have to say.

    Actually, two weeks ago, he sent me an email speaking of normal club business and then at the end he wished me good luck on my finals and hoped that I was not too stressed about them. Mind you, we attend different schools, and I told him about the stresses of finals two weeks prior to when he sent the email, which was exactly during finals week.

    At our last meeting, he even gently brushed his knee against mine and did not move it. When the meeting was over, he put his arm around me and placed his shoulder on my back and smiled down at me. Then, before everyone left, someone asked him for a hug and he followed through quite passionately. For the rest of the time, she seemed entirely wrapped into him, speaking softly, and carrying on as though they were a couple. Since I just met him recently, I am unsure of their past, but I do know this was the her last meeting.

    Now, my friend’s words are worrying me more than ever because I am concerned that I am just another girl to him, and I do not know if he is actually interested in me. He flirts with me; a lot of the signs are there. He will smile at me, always sit next to me in our meetings, and compliment my leadership skills and the like, but the last occurrence has me wondering. Surely, it could have been something simple, but perhaps it was not.

    It has gotten to the point where I may be actually beginning to like him so I would really appreciate your opinion on this. Especially since after reading your posts, I have noticed you are conservative, just as I am and we share a lot of the same values. Thank you.

  227. Allie June 5, 2013 at 3:29 pm #

    You’re advice truly is insightful; keep up the good work!

  228. Sarah June 5, 2013 at 5:07 pm #

    Hi there!

    So i’ve liked this guy for almost a year at Boarding School because of many factors. For one, our parents met at the same hotel having breakfast and he has a twin just like me and is Jewish. So we have a lot in common but I recently gave him a love letter with all my feelings on it because he just graduated and I heard that he thinks that I am a creep…maybe for doing that? Anyways I did a lot for him and he just didn’t appreciate it. But I have this guy friend and he is just a great guy that’s really friendly with everyone but I think that he may like me. The sad part is that he is leaving for college and I wont see him until he decides to come to my hometown because his sister lives near me. I have no idea when I will see him next. But he is touchy when I sit next to him by putting his leg next to mine and sometimes leaving it there. And he hated this guy that I wrote the letter to but I let him read the letter before I gave it to him and he thought it was good and I wanted his opinion. We trust each other and are really alike. I am confused because since he is not coming back to my boarding school next year, he told me to go for some other guys and specifically said who I should go out with. If he likes me then why would he say that? Also he wrote in my yearbook that I’m a really interesting girl and also how he sees a lot of himself in me. At the end of it he wrote I’m the sweetest girl at our school. So I feel like I should have definitely went for him. I don’t want to be to specific since this will be published on the Internet but you could email me if you have any other questions. :)

  229. Toleen June 5, 2013 at 8:15 pm #

    This guy that sits by me in social studies is really mean to me… and i mean REALLY mean to me but in some occasions hes really nice and respectful but its really rare. When we first met he was really nice but then people kept on saying that hes flirting with me. He always denied it and i went along with it too because i didn’t want it to get awkward between us but then he started getting mean. I sometimes catch him looking at me but he always turns away. I try to be nice but he keeps being mean to me but he does be nice to me sometimes. HES DRIVING ME INSANE! I wish he would come out with his real feelings but he wont.. Sometimes i doubt he does like me even though my best friend keeps telling me that he TOTALLY is flirting with me. HELP!!! (p.s. whenever i do look at him he gets nervous and looks the other way but peeks back to see if im looking).

  230. Toleen June 5, 2013 at 8:22 pm #

    This guy that sits by me in social studies is really mean to me… and i mean REALLY mean to me but in some occasions hes really nice and respectful but its really rare. When we first met he was really nice but then people kept on saying that hes flirting with me. He always denied it and i went along with it too because i didn’t want it to get awkward between us but then he started getting mean. I sometimes catch him looking at me but he always turns away. I try to be nice but he keeps being mean to me but he does be nice to me sometimes. HES DRIVING ME INSANE! I wish he would come out with his real feelings but he wont.. Sometimes i doubt he does like me even though my best friend keeps telling me that he TOTALLY is flirting with me. HELP!!! (p.s. whenever i do look at him he gets nervous and looks the other way but peeks back to see if im looking).

  231. Sierra June 5, 2013 at 9:44 pm #

    Dear Chris my ex boyfriend and I went out for 6 months and then he broke up with me but it’s been about three months and he keeps looking at me most of my friends see him look and I think I make eye contact with him but he looks at me but yet is so mean and rude to me and like he doesn’t physically hurt me In anyway like he does to other people and I really want to hug him because I miss him but lm afraid he would push me away and be mean to me ..I don’t know why Hereros doing this or why I keep wanting to hug him .. Help please by Cece

  232. Katherine June 6, 2013 at 7:30 am #

    Hey Chris,

    I have been reading the advice you have given the other girls on here and I figure you are the best person to ask about my situation. I met a guy at church and I really like him, I think about him all the time. I am 25 and he is a few years younger than me. I have never been good at knowing if someone is flirting with me or not so I could use some help. So far we only see each other at church or church events but he comes and talks to me almost every time. Sometimes if I’m talking to someone he will come talk to someone nearby and I will catch him watching me. We make eye contact often and when we do he smiles. I know that’s probably not a lot to go on but I just don’t know and I’m thinking it might just be wishful thinking. Thanks in advance.


  233. Kayla June 6, 2013 at 7:43 pm #

    There’s this guy I like and I think he likes me too. We have known each other a few years now but I feel the attraction started around close to a year ago. He handed me something once and stared right into my eyes and bam I was hooked! I wondered why I never noticed him like tht before. Anyways we flirt a little he always looks into my eyes when I talk and we tend to touch hands when we hand each other things and we brush up against each other as we walk past sometimes too. One time I made a comment about footsies when we were all drinking and sitting around a table and he reached over and felt my foot. I didn’t know if it was the booze in him or not or if he actually likes me. We tease each other and joke over text sometimes too. I just want to know if he likes me more than a friend or am I reading into this too much? Like I said that time he looked at me I felt a spark or a vibe or whatever and I have never felt like that when a guy looks at me.

    • Kayla June 10, 2013 at 10:47 am #

      This question was for you Chris :)

  234. Carrie June 7, 2013 at 2:30 am #

    So here is the scenario, in our whole school we are the only two people from our race. We are in the same class and everyone used to tease me (in junior high) saying that we will end up. maybe due to the teasing, I did have a crush on him but never showed it. But after I stopped, my friends said that he liked me and I didn’t believe it. But then soon I caught him staring at me all the time and make moves like being in most places I was. I had the instinct but I thought I’m not even pretty that anyone should crush on me. Soon he himself admitted that he really liked me. This was the first time something like this happened to me. He was/is generally shy and our convos were short. I didn’t want to lead him on, so I subtly avoided him. By this time our whole class knew his feelings and would tease us. But I made it clear that I didn’t like him. Our class gave up on us.
    Almost 2 years have went by. I didn’t talk to him at all. People say that he is over me and still kinda joke about how obvious his feelings were. Now he has friends who are girls (he previously didn’t). He is not in a relationship. At a recent event i went out of my way and talked to him, his replies were short (maybe becoz there were many people around us) but ever since then i observe him doing some things. Like when we are around people he hardly looks at me but now when we are alone and he’s passing by he makes sure to say “bye __my name__” and when he does he at first looks at me but then his eyes look everywhere but me (mostly floor). This saying bye has happened more than twice.I also respond with a smile . It looks like he uses my name every opportunity he gets and i feel like there is an invisible stress in it. When we are around a few people he does respond to questions that I ask out loud. Like I asked a question to my friend about an event and he responded looking into my eyes and he seemed to have big eyes but I broke the eye lock. Once I was making weird faces because I saw a scary dog and when I looked around I caught him looking at me like he did when he used to like me but we broke the glance quickly. My best guy friend and I played a little prank on him (hiding his stuff). But later when we didn’t find the things we went to him and when asked he said he had them. I stammered saying how sorry we were and blah blah but he gave a grin and said its ok. Also I’m finding him in most places that I am in. We don’t share much classes but before class time I see him in my class trying to help some people to study. And as I was standing next to a senior class guy who was signing my yearbook he walked up to us, I hoped he would talk to me but he asked the other guy to make sure to sign his yearbook but I saw him look through the comments in my book. And when my best guy friend hugged me for way too long I saw from the corner of my eye that he was looking at my face. What does this all mean? Does he wanna be my friend? Or are his old feelings getting rekindled? I can’t even talk to my friends because they would tease me and it would be obvious. i myself don’t know what I want but I know for sure that I wanna get to know him.

  235. private June 7, 2013 at 5:14 pm #

    Hey Chris , im in high school and there is a senior boy I have been crushing on since i first seen him and i am a freshman. Usually i would have gotten over this crush but i really like him for some reason and i think he is or may have been interested . Like one time i was walking with a group of friends and both time we passed him and his friends we made eye contact then he opened the door and asked if we were freshmans but i was to shy to say anything and one of my friends had answered all ready with a silly remark. Then a couple.of months later i seen him in a pizza shop with a girl after school but him and that girl wasnt really sitting all close to.eachother so i dont think they are going out but it kind of seemed like she trying to flirt with him and once again i made eye contact with him. Idk what i shoukd do i think i ruined my chances with him, i would speak to him to let him know i am inerested in him but i just have to be for certain if he feels the same way back . So my question is do you think that he might have been feeling me too..

  236. Kayla June 7, 2013 at 6:41 pm #

    There’s a guy that works at the gym I go to and I think he likes me, but I’m not sure. He looks at me a lot and smiles and sometimes if he sees that I notice him staring at me, he looks away quickly. Also, when I enter or leave the gym, he always says, “Hi, Kayla” and “Bye, Kayla” or “Take care, Kayla” Today, however, as I was leaving, he looked at me and said, “Bye, Miss (my name).” He’s never said Miss with my name before. Even if he is talking to his manager, another co-worker or another member, he’ll always greet me. One of my friend’s relatives goes to the same gym and talks to that guy and she mentioned to me that we would make a “cute couple” because he’s really nice. Also, as I was leaving the gym today, he said “take care, Kayla. Good seeing you.” I think he’s pretty cute and he seems like a nice guy and I want to talk to him, but I’m too quiet. :( Does it seem like he likes me? I don’t really notice him doing this to other members, except for greeting some of them by their names. Thanks for the help!

  237. Miranda Anne June 7, 2013 at 9:27 pm #

    Hello Chris,
    So im in a sticky situation. Im into a younger guy and I don’t know if im reading everything right. the first time we hung out and met he wouldn’t leave my side and he would go through my stuff and was very touchy. the second day we hung out I ended up laying with his hair and he held my hand and touched my legs and we kissed. we never talked about the kiss or anything that happened that night. we hung out with our other two friends who are dating and we all acted like nothing happened. well everytime we watch movies I end up playing with his hair and hell just cuddle with me the usual. I had my friend ask him what was going on ith us and he turned red smiled and said nothing and looked down, she told him she thought I liked him and he turned down real fast and turned red but didn’t respond. he tlks about girls to make me mad and once I get mad hell come after me and try to talk things out. his friend the one whose talking to my friend tells him to come sit by his girlfriend and he doesn’t say ew or anything he just looks at my big eyed and smiles. I ofte catch him looking at me and when I look he quickly looks away im guessing that’s because hes younger and shy. he gets jealous when I talk to other guys but wont admit I can read it all over him. he used to always make plans to hang out and now he just comes to my friends house with his friends to find us. hes very hard to read. I don’t knoq if he likes me or not. what do you think?

    • Miranda Anne June 7, 2013 at 9:29 pm #

      Ill talk about another guy to my friend and hell stop hangin out with me and I ask him why he lwaves the next day and hell say because I want to. he wont tell me he likes me and I never have told him I liked him either. we just hang out every day and his friend calls me his girlfriend and my friend tells him I kinda like him but hes never respomded to that saying if he does or doesn’t he just smiles and looks down and when hes talking to either of them hes looking at me and when I look at him he looks away. im so confuseddd!

  238. S June 7, 2013 at 10:47 pm #

    Hey Chris.

    I made out with a guy 6 months ago and we started texting every day. 1 month later he came to see me and I got friend zoned bc of an ex-girlfriend, but he wanted to be friends. (he even friend zoned me while laying in bed holding me, clothes on, of course)
    Anyways, we’ve been spending the last 6 months texting with no more than 5 days of silence, seeing each other every 2 weeks maybe. In february his ex was an idiot and they cut contact. Some weeks later he wanted to go home with me after a party, I turned him down. Before this I told him I wasn’t interested in him. I friend zoned him as well. A week later he started seeing someone – he didn’t tell me about her, but a friend of mine (he’s a girl friend’s little brother). I did meet her once, at a party where I was the main focus of his attention. A month later he dumped her, that he did tell me. Not long after he came to ‘my rescue’ in the middle of the night, and we fell asleep in each others arms. I even got a kiss on the forehead. Ahh, the forehead kiss. He’s only ever told me how he felt about me when he was drunk. That he wants to take care of me, make sure i’m happy blah blah. He’s always been flirtatious and touchy and I’ve been the same, but really defensive. I guess I’m quite intimidating as well. So everyone tells me. Anyways, I haven’t told anyone I like them in 7 years. I’m REALLY defensive, but he means so much to me, that I 4 weeks ago, did with him. Unfortunately I told him that ‘falling’ for him wasn’t supposed to have happened and that I didn’t really wanted to have these feelings. He said he wasn’t sure how to respond and I told him he shouldn’t. He then asked if I was going to do something to get rid of my feelings and I asked like what? Response was “maybe you don’t want to talk for a while?” I said no and asked if that was what he wanted – he said no and that it was just nice to know, if that he didn’t hear from me it was because I didn’t wanted to talk or was afraid to, cause if it was the last, he would just text me. I then went on to talk about not wanting him to be afraid if I took his hand or wrapped my arms around him and he was like “No. no, that’s not going to be an issue. No”. Basically he didn’t express anything himself. Then a week later I joined him and his sister in town, drunk. He was holding me, making jokes about the first time we met, he was very touchy in places he wasn’t before, at one point his sis said “but you still love us” cause they were being annoying and I said no. He then said “Well, I love you” and then hugged me and kissed me on the cheek. When we left to take the train, with his sis, he took my hand and we walked hand in hand to the station. I’m going to leave out other little sweet details now, I’m writing a novel, geez. Hah, except for one. 3 days ago, I called him in the middle of the night, drunk as f***, and we talked about nothing for an hour, first time ever on the phone, and it was very funny (mostly for him, lol) and he’s just soooo fucking sweet, it’s driving me crazy.
    He is not at all a player type, he’s actually a geek. When I called him, he was developing computer games. He’s sincere, caring and charming. He’s one of the good guys, I don’t fall in love easily.
    So, what am I dealing with here? And what do I do? We’re seeing each other sunday, and I don’t really know if I should bring stuff up or not. Just tell me your thought, please.

    Sorry for looooong post, I have a tendency to hyper analyze, so every detail is important. Damn you, ADHD.


  239. Allie June 8, 2013 at 10:56 pm #

    Hi is this article open for comments anymore? I left a comment a while ago, but it went unanswered. :/

  240. J June 9, 2013 at 3:40 am #

    Hey Chris,

    So I’ve known this guy for 6 years and we’ve always been pretty good friends.I’ve always kind of had a crush on him but I put him in the “friend zone” because I had a friend who liked him (she no longer has a crush on him). Lately I’ve started to really like him but I can’t tell if he feels the same way about me. He always jokes around with me and makes fun of me for different things, like my parking jobs. He’ll sneak up behind me in the hallway sometimes and scare me. He also shows a surprising amount of concern for my different injures (I am a very injury-proned athlete). He makes some comments like telling me to call him if I’m ever in trouble and he asks me different questions about my family and non-mutual friends (he just started doing these two things recently). We always have fun together and we’re really comfortable with each other.We also have our own handshake that we always do when we see each other or are saying goodbye to each other…sometimes we’ll do it mid-conversation just for the hell of it. However, I’m a bit of a tomboy and his past girlfriends were far from that. I just don’t know if he’d ever be interested in a girl like me. It’s hard to tell who he likes because he is a very friendly and pretty outgoing person. A lot of our mutual friends tease us about liking each other every now and then but both of us just ignore their comments. Do you think we’re just meant to be friends or is there the possibility of something more? Any thoughts or input?

  241. Curious June 9, 2013 at 12:51 pm #

    I liked a guy as a friend an invited him to go camping… We ended up kissing and drinking and he ended up going more forward than I wanted him to…he did eventually stop when he realized I was serious. He initially really liked me and I liked him but wasn’t ready to move that fast. I guess we had mixed signals in that area and miscommunication. We hang out at the same place and dance and we have mutual friends. I tried to forget it and even danced with him and realize we are still attracted to each other … Many months have gone by but of course we don’t contact each other. How do I know now if his interest is sexual or in me…. I know for sure b4 that event he really liked me and I’m confused as to why I’m still attracted to him. Any info on what you think his intentions are at this point?

  242. Ivy June 9, 2013 at 5:02 pm #

    Hi Chris,

    There’s this guy at work, which I’ve known for a few months… but we’ve never really got to know each other until recently… when I tried to hooked him up with my girl friend.

    Two weeks ago, I asked him if he has a girlfriend, it took him a few second to shyly replied me “…no”
    At that time, I didn’t like him at all… so I just openly told him that I would like to introduce my girl friend to him. He was a little shy about it…… before he had a chance to answer me, I walked away.

    Then he shoot me an email, telling me “don’t… he’s not currently looking” (He sent the email via company’s email account.)
    So I asked him for his person Gmail account and started chatting on Gchat.

    After chatting for awhile, he finally agrees that he’ll meet my girl friend and we’ll have lunch one day next week. He told me that many people had tried to set him up with girls before, but he never agreed to go… saying “yes” to me was the 1st time he’s ever agreed to a blind date/set up.

    The lunch didn’t happen until the following week, but he was sitting chatting with me during work everyday and sometimes even after work.

    We were almost chatting from 9am-5pm on a daily basis and there were a few times we chat after work for hours and hours. Longest was 5 hrs… from 9pm to 2am… and he had to work the next day. (I called in for a day off, but he went in to work.)

    We don’t really flirt on chats, we mostly just talk about random things… our past, our current company, friends and family, anything random topic that comes up.

    Now this guy… his personality is known to be super funny and not-serious. He jokes around everyone, super nice and friendly with everyone. He never shows a serious side at work.. so no one ever took him seriously.

    But when he’s chatting with me, he seems super mature and serious. He tries to cheer me up when I was really stressed from work. He tells me a lot of his personal stuffs that not a lot of people knows…. he would even tell me his friend’s love stores and ask me for advise on them.

    I kinda felt weird at first, because I was trying to intro him to my friend… but seems like him and I are becoming real close. So that day finally came… he joined my girl friend and I for lunch (that was my 1st time having lunch with him also).

    During lunch, he seemed kind of shy. He didn’t speak to my girl friend much, rather he was always talking to me. He stares dead into my eyes every time he talks to me… (I have a bad habit of not looking into others eyes the whole time I’m talking, but once awhile… I would take a glance to show respect/to be polite.)

    I didn’t really notice if he was looking at my friend in the eye while talking to her, since they really didn’t say much to each other.

    After lunch, we both went back to work… he was chatting with me again, I asked him what does he think about my friend… he said “alright” so I asked if he’s interested in getting to know her better… he said no, because he’s not really looking and because he’s more into Hong Kong style girls. (My girl friend is not from HK, so they don’t speak the same language…. but I was born in HK.) I don’t know if he was saying that as a hint… I didn’t ask any farther.

    We kept chatting at work and after as friends, no flirting… but he does try to make me smile a lot. He would also show up on my floor a lot… (We work in different departments on different floors. But if he needs to make coffee or use the kitchen, he’ll pass by where I sit for sure. )

    So one morning, I was really stressed out by work… he stopped by to make coffee, when he saw that I was stressed out… he offered to make a cup of coffee for me. I kindly accepted his offer.

    After he left, all my co-workers told me that they think he likes me. (He’s been with the company for a few years now… I just recently started to work there.) They said he’s definitely different around me, he usually wouldn’t offer to make coffee for anything since he’s known as the jokey type.

    I didn’t think much at that point, I was just thankful that he treats me really nice.
    During lunch, he invited me to take a walk with him and other co-workers because he knew I was super stressed from work. He personally came and picked me up at my floor to go join them for lunch.

    The following day, I had to go somewhere to return something during lunch… so I asked him if he wanted to come along… he said yes. Once again, he came to pick me up at my office. (I was actually a bit scared that others will started to think that we are going out.) My company is 99% females, 1% guys.

    Him and I are the only two that are single. All the rest are old workers with family and kids.

    He never made a move on me. He would just look at me in the eyes and talk to me about any random things that goes on in his life. He does ask me questions like… how come I’m not dating other guys or why don’t I look for a boyfriend, etc…. but he never came across telling me that he likes me.

    It’s only been two weeks since the 1st time we started to chat, but seems like a lot of people from the workplace is started to think that something is up with us.

    Last Friday, we had Storm Andrea landing… it was raining for the whole day. He asked me if I was still planning to go watch movie with my girl friend. I told him no, my friend didn’t want to go… since it was storming.

    He then told me how much he dislike rainy days. At the same time.. he was telling me that he’s planning to go to movies with this other co-worker (married with 3 kids) after work and that if I wanted to join them.
    I told him, if the other co-worker goes, I’ll go too.

    During lunch, I went up to his floor to talk to my other co-workers… I noticed that his face was bright red… but I didn’t stop to talk to him… I was sitting with my other co-workers, he came by… asking me “Are you going with us? XXXX is going too!” so I said yes, I would join.

    So we went to the movies, he seems totally different with others. He was always joking, very talkative with the other co-worker. Them two keep talking and joking the whole time… I’m pretty quiet… so I didn’t say much before the movie. I purposely choose to sit next to my female worker rather than him during the movie, because I didn’t want it to seem weird.

    After the movie, they suggest to go grab food.
    While eating, he was always looking at me. I don’t look at him much… but when I was talking… he would be staring into my eyes 100% of the time. I felt a bit shy and look away.

    I think I’m starting to like him as I get to know him more. Before, I used to think of him as a funny guy who’s always not so serious about anything, always slacking off at work and don’t have a brain when he talks.
    But when we chat or talk one on one… he shows me the mature side of him. He tells me that he doesn’t think it’s necessary to act too serious with other co-workers.

    I’m pretty sure that he’s interested in me… but I do remember him saying that he’s not currently looking…. so I don’t know what to think. He hasn’t really openly asked me to hang out… he doesn’t seem shy around others… but when it comes to asking me out, he seems pretty shy.

    He didn’t dare to ask me to go to movies alone, he had to drag and force another co-worker to seem not as weird.

    What should I do now? Should I just be myself, sit back and see what he’s planning to do? Or shall I find a chance to ask him what he’s really thinking?

    Sorry, long story! :)

  243. Anna June 10, 2013 at 8:20 am #

    Hey Chris,
    my name is Anna, and I’m in grade 12 right now…so there is this guy and I have a crush on him since grade 10…since start of this year I saw him looking my way almost in every lesson that we have together (by the we have 4 subjects together out of 5 subjects)sometimes when I look back he’ll turn or I’ll smile n he will smile back or just act like he didn’t see me sometimes we talk but most of the time we don’t I don’t know if it’s because we never get a chance or it’s because he doesn’t like me When he is with his friends they kind of look at me in a different way and sometimes I feel like he makes random fun of me with his friend during the lessons…When we’re together we don’t really speak much. I’m confused whether is it just me or something else…There this guy in my class people keep asking me if I like him then I found out that some of them are friends with him plus my friends say that he was flirting with me but I don’t see it sometimes I feel like he likes me sometimes it just friends n sometimes I feel like I’m just another person in his class. its really weird because in one subject we talk like frinds and the next lesson we act as complete strangers…wheneverwe talk, it only lasts for a couple seconds to a couple minutes it never really lasted is it because there is nothing else to talk about or he just doesn’t like me…please help meeeeee

    • Anna June 11, 2013 at 6:46 am #

      Sorry in my little story I think I have repeated myself…please ignore it :)

  244. Ana June 10, 2013 at 2:55 pm #

    hi Chris! I hope it isn’t too late to ask questions since all of these are from like 2 months ago :P

    so there’s this guy in my class and he’s giving me mixed signals…
    this is why I think he might like me:

    (1) He stares at me. A LOT.
    (2) When I make eye contact, it holds for 3 seconds, and then either I break it off or he breaks it off
    (3) He holds the door open for me :/
    (4) If I drop something, he picks it up for me (this has happened twice)
    (5) Sometimes he copies me. Like once,(while he was staring at me xD) I raised my hand, and he automatically raised his as well.
    Then he made this weird surprised face like, “Wait, why did I raise my hand?” (this has happened twice)

    Reasons why He Might Not Like Me:

    (1) He never talks to me, except for a two-sentence conversation we had a couple of weeks ago :P
    (2) He absolutely refrains from touching me.

    oh and BTW he’s shy and I have never seen him talk to any girls :/



  245. Katinka June 11, 2013 at 2:57 pm #

    Hi Chris!
    It’s great there’s a site like this!!
    I read a story kinda simular to mine,,
    So there is this guy (iknow iknow) he is in my class and i met him for the first time in september.. Suddenly 2 months ago he started to talk to me random about things, but our conversations never lasted longer then 1 or 2 minutes. I caught him staring at me during some classes and when we look at each other we smile and i start to blush… He always smiles at me when i see him, it makes me so confused, because we talk so little. How could i ever know if he likes me? he doesn’t take the lead and i’m too shy and maybe too scared to take the first step to him… Should i ask his number? Or is that strange cause we aren’t talking that much? It makes it more and more awkward cause all my friends are like: wow you know who is really your type? You could be so cute togheter! And i’m thinking: if you only knew…
    I hope this all doesn’t sound too desperate haha :p
    Maybe you also have some tips for me too make it more easy too talk to him or ask his number or anything like that? I really like this guy

  246. Madi June 11, 2013 at 11:48 pm #

    Hi Chris… I like this guy,he’s a bit of a complicated guy. He’s really sweet and kind and absolutley hillarious but he’s a dancer. and he’s around girls all the time so he’s used to being…handsy. but not just with me. I feel at times he likes me but at others. He is always hugging this one girl she’s also a dancer and absolutley gorgeous. Not too mention I am a bit taller than him. I feel like Im stuck in the middle. Help a girl out?

  247. Mike June 12, 2013 at 4:59 am #

    Hi Cris,

    There’s this girl I think I like, I think about her all the time, I loved it when she hugs me and etc. the problem is she once asked me if I was in a relationship (which I was, but got dumped a week later) as ever since it’s gone downhill, we don’t text as often and I get really shy about texting her. I really wanted to ask her to homecoming but now I’m not even sure she likes me still.
    What should I do?

  248. Estefany June 12, 2013 at 3:33 pm #

    Hi Chris this boy named Abel will he’s my crush he always kicking me in the line an always trying to like hug me like puts he body close to my back he always pretending to be mean or something like that does he like me back? I really want to tell him that I like him but I am scared tha he might not like me back what can you recommend to do ?

  249. Pepper June 14, 2013 at 6:05 pm #

    Hey Chris-
    Okay, so I never thought I would consult someone asking for advice over the Internet, but you obviously know what you’re doing and I am totally stuck. SO… I know this guy, I will call him Jack, anyway, I met Jack like 1 1/2 years ago and we became friends really quickly. I liked him earlier last year, and I found out that he liked me (we are both 17). We both sorta just stopped liking each other I guess, but we were still friends. About 3 months ago we started flirting a TON. Jack goes to my church so I would see him every week for three hours on Sundays. We would talk non stop all church and we would sit SUPER CLOSE. A lot of people began asking us if we were dating. One of the adults pulled Jack aside and asked if we were dating, and when the adult walked away, Jack was smiling and said, “he thinks we are dating”. So this has been continuing for a long time. I really like him. I got his phone number and texted him and we texted for like 4 hours. We still talk a lot, but he never texts me first and it totally bugs me. He came over yesterday. He was supposed to come over last week, but bailed, and I got kinda mad at him. I didn’t say anything directly, but I was annoyed: he can’t treat me like that! Does he like me? I seriously have no idea at this point. I honestly thought he totally did, except for he won’t ask me out and doesn’t ever text me first. I am leaving on holiday for a month, and I am curious as to what I should do. He gives me compliments sometimes, but it seems like he is trying to be sneaky about it. We both run track and he comes to see me at meets when both our teams are there (different schools). A while ago he asked a girl to prom, but the next day he assured me that it wasn’t fun and flirted excessively with me again. I am not a desperate girl at all, but I don’t want to waste my time. Help, I guess? Thank you!!

  250. tilly June 14, 2013 at 9:28 pm #

    Hi chris,
    I met this guy at a club a couple weeks ago even though he doesn’t go out much.. we didn’t hookup that night even though he wanted to but he asked for my num instead. he has been texting me at random times even silly pictures sometimes all day plus he calls me sometimes and we have met up a couple times and I have stayed the night a couple times, he picks on me a lot almost very mean but justifys it by saying that I knows he is joking. he went out on Friday I thought he wouldn’t tlk to me but he called me to come out which I did and drove him around the next day he brought me breakfast. sometimes he can be sensitive and he gives me cuddles when I stay. but every other time is mean and name calling gives me bad whiplash. lol.

    does he like me or is he just using me?? or does he only want a “friendly relationship”???

    • tilly June 14, 2013 at 9:32 pm #

      but he has never really picked on my looks.. he compliments them and admits to staring at times.. kinda weird

  251. Kinga June 15, 2013 at 11:13 pm #

    Hi Chris
    I would really appreciate it if you could help me …

    I’ve liked a guy for about 3 years now but the thing is that I live in London and he lives in my home country, I only visit there during Christmas and summer holidays. I’m 16 and he’s a year older than me.
    During the first two years that I knew him, we always used to hang out and he would get so close to me like there was a time when we were both sitting on the bench and I got up to go home but he held my waist and refused to let go… Then there were other times when he would come up and hug me from behind like we were a couple but would later say “you know I’m just playing around right” .. Also during Christmas we always used to play fight like he would push me in the snow and stuff.. Usually when we met up he would insist that I brought a friend along but there were also times when it was just us two and he would act really awkward.
    However I didn’t go to my home country one Christmas and when I went there the next summer, everything was different. He barely talked to me and we didn’t meet up anymore. Also every time I tried to talk to him I felt like I annoyed him because his responses were really plain like he wasn’t interested in talking to me…
    furthermore I went to my home country about a month ago for a week and he text me every day in the evening and there were about 3 times that he approached me and once we talked for an hour and then he walked me home. A few days before I left to go back to London, we had an argument over text because he thought I was saying bad things behind his back so I had the courage to tell him that I liked him just as he text me that he had no more texts. On the next day he text me as if nothing happened… So I decided to ask him if he felt anything for me and at first he replied saying that I’m weird and to not ask him such things but I insisted that can he just tell me so then he said “no, if I wanted anything from you, I would tell you straight up” – i know that this basically sums it all up but because of what happened in the past I refuse to believe it. Please let me know what you think of this? Did he lose interest or is he just shy..? Also I catch him staring at me a lot when we’re in the same place, in advance thank you

    • Kinga June 15, 2013 at 11:18 pm #

      P.s. sorry to write so much
      P.s.s. I also think you should know that things were really awkward after I asked him if he liked me and he FB MSG me a few days ago and acted like nothing happened.. Again! …

      I’m really over thinking , these thoughts won’t leave me alone .. Pleasee help .. :/

  252. Pick June 16, 2013 at 11:55 pm #

    Hi, Chris…..I have been checking out and reading your sight. I am one going thru a very loongg breakup. I was not interested in any form of relationship & out of the blue, this fella buys me a drink…..long story short, we text, hang out for a few months off and on, I run, he makes contact again, hang out for a while with flirting & all, then I run again….however, if we run into each other, he makes it a point of checking on me and inquiring about my last relationship…..he, too, has stated he has a new ‘friend’ & has posted on fb ( we r still friends on it) how ‘she means the world to him’, I have missed his companionship, but now think he does want just friendship……I am in friend zone, aren’t I?

  253. Anna June 19, 2013 at 5:59 am #

    Hi Chris,
    Can i know why do sometimes he is all distant and not smiling and sometimes he is… When there is a distance huge between where we are standing he would smile and all but when we are standing a few centimeters apart he would become all distant and not even a smile but still would wave hi only if i wave first…and he is with his friends for those situation… So now i am very confused right now…

    • Anna June 19, 2013 at 7:02 am #

      During the past we talked and joked a lot but now it seems like we ran out of topic and it is all awkward…

  254. Heather June 21, 2013 at 12:56 am #

    hey Chris! could you help me? theres this guy i like, and im pretty sure he likes me back, but he’s constantly changing. one day hes pretending to be superman and standing up for me against mild teasing from close friends, and the next he’s badmouthing me to mutual friends. he’s pointed me out to his mom, twice, but he’s also written mean things in my birthday card from everyone. does he like me? should i stay away?

  255. Dee June 22, 2013 at 3:20 pm #

    Hi Chris,
    I need your advice/opinion. I met this guy about a year ago and when I did he was pursuing a girl apart of the group. I ended up joining the group and eventually got closer to everyone even him. We started talking more after a movie day where I was late and he got upset so he pretended I wasn’t there. We messed around a lot that day with eachother. The girl he was pursuing ended up two timing him. I had no idea all summer and she would text me during summer asking about him. I ended up texting him constantly all summer. Somehow we texted about anything and everything (usually something i dont do). I didn’t find the texting weird and didn’t really think about it. The texts ended up becoming less often since we started to hang out again as a group. That’s when I realized that the girl was out of the group. When he and I were alone I talked to him about it and he opened up ended up telling me what happened. Since then we ended up talking and hanging out in the group a lot. I got closer to him and his best friend over time. I got so close that one day his best friend decided to ask me if I liked anyone. At the time I was really confused about another guy who I had been talking to for a while and I ended up telling both of them a bit about him. Out of the blue my best friend decides to ask about him and I. According to her we would be great together and that we have chemistry. I never thought about it before this. I usually don’t think of these kind of things. Her reasoning was that I am always talking about him and they way we are together is seems as if we like eachother. I never gave it much thought before that but after that its been bugging me. After a few days he ended up asking me about the other guy when we were studying together. I told him everything even that I don’t know if its heading anywhere so far we are just friends. Since then we don’t talk as much anymore and he calls me buddy now. We still hang out as a group but its different. I think I like him but I have no idea how he feels. I feel like I’m just over thinking help!

  256. Kayla jobes June 23, 2013 at 6:46 pm #

    I have a serious guy problem. And I need advice pronto. I’ve liked a guy for about a year now. And he’s always shown body language and made good long eye contact, but he’s never made a move. We flirt in texts, and sometimes in public, but I’m too afraid to make a move myself. He knows I like him, but even after all this time, I’m not sure if he still likes me. “Still” being that he used to, but has had a couple girlfriends in the past and we reconnected after his last breakup. How should I go about asking him? He really likes my flirtatiousness but I don’t want to ‘touch’ him and make him mad just to get my point across lol. Any advice?

  257. Theresa June 25, 2013 at 9:48 am #

    Hey Chris, I was wondering if you could offer some advice.. You see, somewhere last year I noticed this guy (let’s call him Bob) who keeps looking at me. Like, appearing in places where you don’t normally expect him to appear in and hum making eye contact quite very often. Then a few months back (in April) I got to know this girl, Vivian. So we hung out a bit and as she was in his class, he sort of noticed. He tried to get my attention by openly flirting with a bunch of girls (but constantly looking my way) and when he noticed me casually hanging out with Vivian, he started getting close to her (like all of a sudden). Not too long after (in may) she suddenly asked if I wanna hang out with her and him..so I was shocked and tried to refuse, but then she was like “I LIKE HIM AND I JUST FEEL AWKWARD HELP MEE” so I just agreed. He was kinda surprised that I was going along but then he all cool.. After wards we Went to a mall and we all had lunch and talked…well I was feeling quite “left out” (understanding that my job was just to make things less awkward for Vivian) so I let them walk in front while I hung back abit . he kept hanging back as well to talk to me and all along he kept giving me this .. Intense look. Right in the eye. And leaning in quite uncomfortably close.. And kept wanting to hi 5 me… For a lot of times.. But other than in school or around Vivian he never talks to me (he claimed his friend gave him my number). I think he likes me (not too sure) but I don’t know how to react because, well, Vivian likes HIM and she’s always talking to him (and vice versa). What should I do ? sry for the long post and thanks for helping! :)

  258. audette July 1, 2013 at 6:49 pm #

    Hi there Chris,

    I don’t even know where to begin… I’ve known this guy ever since i was sixteen. Were both raised in a very Christian household and some of or Beliefs include only dating with the intention of marriage and always having a chaperone on dates to avoid sex before marriage. So hanging out by ourselves has never been an option. I’m note eighteen and he’s twenty. I can honestly say that I’m not ready for marriage and he prolly isn’t therefore we have no reason to date.

    Ever since I’ve known him though there has always been this really strange connection. Were complete opposites in many ways but have the same sense of humor and set of values. Over the years there have been many things that have made me question his interest. Like him asking for my number.. And treasing me.. He seems o remember everything I tell him, even the things that have no relevance. He stares at me a lot but with such kindness in his eyes.

    Recently he asked me to hangout but instead of getting a group together he just invited one of his other friends. So it was just the three of us. I always ended up beside him.. Ads at one point during the evening I stepped away for a minute and when I came back it seemed as though they weretalking about me cuts his friend said “you’d never guess what we were taking about” with a goofy look on his face. And I asked what but he was like I don’t think I’m allowed to tell and the guyt that I like was all panicked and said something like” if you telI will kill you and I’m not gunna drive you home..” And c another v instance later that night was when we were driving home and we started talking about race. (I’m black. He’s white) and I ended up saying that I like all kinds of people. And his friend got all goofy and again and reiterated what I said. Like ” did you hear that, she said she likes ALL kinds of people”
    And again when we were taking I mentioned that I like when guys have a little stubble and the guy I like said that he could grow some out after three days. That’s just an example of what he does ask the time. I will say I like something and he woo find a way to be in line with it or agree

    sorry this is so long I hope that you read it me back to me, I’m just stuck in my head

  259. Sarah July 5, 2013 at 5:06 am #

    Hi Chris,

    So the guy i care about did show many body language signs that he cares about me such as facing me in class, in halls etc, playing with his hair, staring at me with his mouth open, eyes wide. He would smil3 at me. Hed smile really wide, you could literally tell theres a joyful glow around him. (May times it was a sudden smile) we barely spoke,, but he would sit close, lean in and give his full attention. Always gave me eye contact. He’s show up everywhere in the halls. His lockrr was once beside mine and id say sorry when id try to give him room, and he would keep telling me not to worry as if its his catch phrase hahaha. But, what is weird is that if i tried to speak to him around a person he’d act like hes trying to be normal around me and not shy. He also threw an airplane at me… to get my attention. And after a while when he saw that i seemed depressed, he’d give me this stare. Not sure if im describing it well: eyes are softened, and lips flat and horizontal. Once he looked at me with teary eyes. He always stares until i look away. Sometimes hell keep staring, other times he’ll look down and play with his hair. Do you think he’s too shy and nervous, or afraid? He did try to talk to me but we were interrupted twice. And then, somehow, he got my number and called me near new years eve. Do you think he really cares, or is he just wondering about something. He does always act kind and polite. Also, hed open the door for me, try to get infront of me, brush his bag into mine. (We were in the same class and our lockers were once beside eachother. ) sorry its so long, but im wondering, should i try to contact him. Its been a year now. Or, do you think i should just wait and see? And your thoughts on his prolonged gaze? Thanks so much! :)

  260. Cassie July 6, 2013 at 1:19 pm #

    Hi there is a guy who stares into my eyes for a couple seconds Everytime he enters a room filled with a lot of women , but he does not approach me immediately. He speaks to all the women he meets and then approaches me. When he talks to me , he speaks softly and stands with half his body facing me and half facing outwards. He speaks briefly , maybe for five to ten minutes and then moves on. Sometimes I catch him looking at me even when he is talking to someone else. I have never personally approached him till he comes and talks to me because I don’t want it to look awkward. His manner looks just polite and friendly to me that is till he looks at me in my eyes for those brief moments. I am getting confused. Is he attracted to me or is he being just polite. I have also found that he is pretty relaxed and maintains eye to eye contact with other women but with me he looks downward or in distance when talking to me . But when he is further away he states at me intently. He also makes it a point to wish me before leaving. What does his body language mean? I am just curious. Thanks :)

  261. Yaz July 9, 2013 at 5:39 pm #

    Hi Chris,

    Thank you for such a great webpage!

    I’ve just finished my post-grad studies and was on invigilation duty a couple of months ago. When the lead invigilator walked in, he was the most handsome man I’ve probably laid eyes on, in real life. He came up to me, shook my hand and introduced himself. The exam started. And I couldn’t help looking at him. He noticed this as he asked me at one point if I wanted to say anything, but I shook my head and he said, ‘oh, you’re just…’ I began noticing too, that he was looking at me. A couple of times I looked in his direction and noticed that he was looking at me and after a a few seconds, he looked away. A couple of times, he didn’t look away. Well, towards the middle of the three- hour exam, I was in the middle of the room and he just came and stood behind me. I turned around and he just stood there, looking at me. I got nervous and made my way around him to another part of the room. After that, I was sitting down, reading, and I noticed him standing not so far away from me. I began cleaning my glasses after which I noticed him doing the same. Perhaps it was just coincidence. He was standing near me and he needed to speak to me, so he brought his face rather close to mine. After the exam was over, he seemed in no hurry to leave, but he asked me when my exam was etc. I was rather flustered and made quick my exit though. I haven’t really seen him since, but I can’t seem to forget him. A couple of my friends have suggested my asking him out. But I later discovered he’s a prof in another department and I’ve only just finished my phd… What should I do…?

  262. Rosaly July 10, 2013 at 5:04 pm #

    Hey Chris,

    So there is this guy that started new at my job mid June. He’s really cute and cool. He’s come out to company events and is very funny and flirtatious. A couple of weeks ago he came out with the group of ladies from work to this lounge we go to every Friday. We had a good time, he bought us drinks and we even danced. He ended up leaving a bit early that night. A little while after he sends me a message on Facebook and I don’t even have him as a friend yet, and tells me not to have too much fun without him. Of course I know that’s him flirting. He then asks me for my number to bother me some. He starts texting me everyday and night, he sends me emails at work, and when he sees me he always tells me I am cute, or he likes my outfit and he thinks I am sexy. Last week we started hanging out after work for drinks. He kissed me for the first time and ever since he hasn’t stopped. Its kind of awkward because we work together, we are coworkers but we have this strong connection and attraction. He hits me up everyday on text, at work and leads to late night texts. Last night we went out again for drinks. We do talk and get to know one another but its been firing up and we make out a lot. I don’t want to let it get further than flirting if I don’t know if he likes me and may want something more. I don’t want to seem easy. I do know he’s attracted to me.

    The problem is that he told me that he got out of a relationship 7 months ago and doesn’t want a girlfriend right now. I myself got out of a relationship 6 months ago but I am at a point in my life where I would like to settle. I’m starting to like him the more we get closer and get to know each other. I just wonder if he feels the same way and where you think this would lead to.

    P.S. sorry for the long story and thanks again.

  263. chastity July 12, 2013 at 4:35 am #

    hey chris
    I have this x we dated a year ago and then randomly he just starts talking to me again and we hung that same night we talked and it felt like we was dating again and the next night it happened again… hes friend was like maybe he needs you.. but I think he just wants something from me cause when we hung out the 2nd time he asked to stay the night…. and im thinking about having a serious canvo about what he wants from me but I dont know what to do

  264. Olivia July 14, 2013 at 11:47 am #

    Okay so I like this guy but I’m not sure if he likes me back. All of our friends tease us about liking each other he doesn’t seem to mind. We just spent the whole day together and it was awesome he even said he’s having a very good time but the down side is it was a group of friends but we were together and a bit secluded from each veryone. We went on the log ride together and he held my hand occasionally on a lot of the rides, I catch him staring at me and lots of body language is present, please help. Should I wait for him to text me?

  265. Summer July 21, 2013 at 10:00 pm #

    There’s this guy I really like. ‘ve been talking for about two years. We’re close friends. But lately he has said some things that makes me think he might like me. He’s a very shy guy though. And has no confidence at all since his ex gf cheated on him four years back. He’s been single since then. He expects girls to ask him out and propose and stuff. He has become a real pussy I kno.. We met for the first time recently. (We talk through facebook and texting). Went for a movie (man of steel), just the two of us. He nudged my foot a couple times throughout the movie. I was acting like I don’t know what’s happening. One thing I noticed, his eyes shines with his smile when he talks to me. But he won’t say that he like or wants me. I’m kinda confused, duno what to do. Please help, thank you xx

  266. Andy July 23, 2013 at 8:34 am #

    Hi Chris!

    I have a crush on this guy. He helped me in my math class last school year and now we’re classmates in some of our classes. We met via facebook during summer. We chat and text each other almost everyday until now.I showed him who I really am but I’m not sure if he showed me who he really is. But we don’t talk in school because he told me he’s super shy and I can see that. I asked him before if he wants me to notice and talk to him in school but he said he doesn’t know but when I told him that I felt like he doesn’t want me to talk to him, he said that i’m just thinking that. So i really have no idea what to do. I REALLY REALLY WANT TO TALK TO HIM, but I can’t. I mean, I say hi and stuff and he smiles when I do. But that doesn’t really give me any idea if he likes me. I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to end up heart broken :( We’re really close in chat and texts but when it comes to school, nothing, zero. Help me Chris! :”<

  267. sarah July 24, 2013 at 11:07 am #

    there’s a guy that i’m really liking for about 3 years, we’ve been together in cheering, there he always talks to me but after our cheering competition he started ignoring me for no reason…it just make me feel sad but i often catch him looking at me i don’t know why?, its always the same since now by the way he’s my senior now, my bff join in the cheering competition (anyways i didn’t join, so it means their always together, there once a time that he told a secret to my bff, and because im her bff she told me, she said that, this guy told her that he want to escort a girl and that girl was really close to my bff (but i don’t want to assume)and he don’t want to tell her whose this girl. and there is also a time that when he’s talking to his friend, making jokes then i will suddenly pass he will stay quiet and go into the corner, and my friends notice that when i’m passing at me until i’m gone he’s looking?…what could it be mean?…

  268. Rems July 25, 2013 at 3:51 pm #

    Hi Chris,

    There is this guy that I thought really hated me for no reason because of the way he acted around me. First I have to let you know that we can not be romantically involved in anyway. Back to my story : He stares at me too much and we make really long eye contact sometimes. He is a very sporty, confident and outgoing guy and appears to be good friends with everyone but me. Even when I try to make small conversations with him to try to break the ice, he seems cold. Recall that at the beginning I mentioned that I thought he just hated me for no reason but I am beginning to have a rethink with a very recent event that happened. During the time period he attended this event, he stared at me so much and I usually caught him but he would usually just hold my gaze for a long while before breaking the eye contact. He sat opposite me sometimes, spoke to everyone around the table but never spoke to me just kept staring at me. My question for you is that could it be that he finds me very attractive but hates himself for liking me since we can not be together hence the cold feeling I get when trying to talk with him or is he just pissed off at me for no reason? I am more of a reserved person though I tend to speak more around my friends. Please assist me with this because I am rather confused and some worth upset because I do not know what I have done to deserve such a treatment. Thanks.

  269. jordan July 27, 2013 at 1:37 am #

    hey chris,

    some friends and I were walking to pizza factory with my crush, michael and his friend, dannon and out of nowhere my crush put his arm around me before he had always flirted with me a lot before but this was further then ever. but earlier that day, i had rejected his friend a week before he stopped flirting with me and i wondered why when his friend asked me out i got why he stopped flirting with me i am guessing he didn’t wan’t to hurt his friend but later that day at lunch he talked me into buying him lunch (this was the first and only he talked me into doing anything)then he said that i was the second girl to buy him lunch but the next day he still put his arm around me all lunch period (which is 45 minutes long)but he didn’t ask me to buy him anything later he asked me if i had lunch and i said no and he bought me something to eat he was flirting so much and he was so nice to me people asked us if we were dating i just looked at michael’s reaction every time and he would stare down at the ground and smile and it was the same thing the next day eventually i felt bad, because his friend really liked me michael and i were really flirting with each other so i stopped talking to him i am just wondering is he taking advantage of me and if he isn’t how can i talk to him again without it being awkward i have been told that he is not taking advantage because he bought me lunch the next day like for a thank you and i have been told he isn’t taking advantage of me now but he will in the future whats your opinion?

    P.S we are still in high school

    • jordan July 27, 2013 at 1:40 am #

      also i have seen hi around other girls he does not flirt with them at all its just me

  270. Luna July 29, 2013 at 9:00 am #

    Hi Chris, I need a help. There is this guy that I really like, unfortunatelly I can’t relax to talk to him sometimes when his around. What I read from your post makes me thinks that he might like me, I am so confused. He seem to be nice to me but sometimes he is mean almost horrible and hurtfull with his comments. I catch him looking at me sometimes and we had an eye contact recently where he didn’t move his face at all he just stood there but I did kind of ignored him on that day because of his mix signals, I don’t want to make a fool out of my self, which the day kind of got awkard with him just walking up and down in the place and it was then we had the eye contact. We previously had a body contact when it was a cold day and he touch my shoudlers with his cold fingers to make me cold apparently. We seem to talk sometimes and have little jokes. He gave me compliments few times about my look.He also made some comment about taking me out on a date previously but in a joke not seriously. This is being going on almost three years and I am really hurt not knowing what he thinks of me is he just a friendly person or he likes me. I need an idea what I should do, if I am wrong and there isn’t anything going on then I should try and move on and stop thinking about him, its not fair at all. He makes me soooo confused. There is no way I can ask him what he thinks of me or out, I am too shy to aproach a man and ask anything like that, I wish I was more confident. I am so sorry about my long post, I hope you can help me. Thanks

  271. kourtney July 31, 2013 at 4:54 am #

    hey, im in high school and ive had to sit next to this boy in science as its the seating plan.we’ve been in the same seats for over half a year and this boy ive actually started to really like him.if he gets his pen and flicks my hair up with it,pushes my stool away with his foot and kick it too make me react and say stop and he’ll say im not doing anything or mess with my school bag or bang his football at my arm or back playfully and then do it to himself does this mean he likes me or does he just hate me?hes sits at the left side of me and i sit on his right and hes constantly turned facing me and the teacher always makes fun of us saying were flirting but he doesnt say noo he just goes red and quite.what does this mean? thankks :)

  272. Taneisha August 1, 2013 at 1:27 am #

    Hi Chris,

    I was hoping you could give me some advice.. I’m a 13year old girl and my friend likes me and I like him. We told eachother already. I’m guessing he hasn’t asked me out because I just got out of a relationship a few weeks ago.. And I wanted to wait till school starts again. But the problem is that recently I’ve been seeing him comment that my best friend is pretty, and what her kik is.. She’s kinda a slut. :( but I asked if she like him and she said no. She knows I like him tho., idk what to do because I feel like he would ask her out instead of me.. But idk I just feel sad when I see him compliment another girl and he’s never complimented me… Please help me.. Tell me what’s going on in his mind.

  273. lilly August 5, 2013 at 3:16 am #

    this guy ik i used to date his frend and thts how me n him got close. When we got close He started flirting with me a little. But after me n his frend broke up he got SUPER flirtty with me that even my frends n his also knew he liked me. But he started dating this girl. And even wen he was dating her he would flirt with me as much before. Whenever im around and his frends bring his gf up he would get pale and look at me. Im confused cuz if he likes me y would he date her but keep on flirting with me. Please help no one else has answerd my question :c

  274. Su August 6, 2013 at 7:38 pm #

    Hi there is this guy who I meet through the shop I work he came in I helped him next thing I know guy is all nervous wrote his number down and toke mine and we spoke couple times before I wasn’t sure cause am 25 he is 23 basically I think I have fallen for him he keeps confusing me when I say lets be friends he says no he told me he was keeping me hanging and he says he doesn’t wanna get attached ,his job he travells alot he and he always has to see me same day he comes couple hrs at time and flys to next country and won’t talk about anything personal he says he will tell me in time and confused now i spend one night with him he is shy and says he hasnt been around a women in 1yr and was worried I told him I wasnt coming to have sex with him just two friends getting to know each other and we did have fun and even fooled around and we spoke more text each other every time we say bye to each other he give me a kiss he says he is shy around and says he scared of me at time and he is libra like me and he is a good listener and at time he tried to sex texting me kinda put stop to that and then one day he asked for my picture and said he was looking ticket online and said we’ll see each other soon and went quit now for like a week and I don’t know if he is gone on a job or not

  275. cali August 7, 2013 at 12:39 am #

    Hi:) I really, really like my coworker. I flirt and be happy around him. But other coworkers too because i dont want ppl to think there is something going on b.c this is my job But i am also shy at times around him. He sarcastically picks on me. But nothing ever happens. Additional. Details. I have bf and am falling out of love. And he had a gf but they just broke up. He still wants her though kinda. But he’s starting to realize she is a bitch. Please i need advice

  276. Vivienne August 9, 2013 at 2:35 am #

    There’s this guy that I hang out with (around others) from time to time. He’s always playfully scaring me, putting his arm around me, etc. The other day, he asked me for my number. I decided to wait to see if he was serious and the next time that I saw him and we were alone, he literally said, “I want to take you out on a date.” He’s always calling me “beautiful” and “sexy” in front of others and I don’t understand if he’s doing it for my reaction of if he “means it.” I would really like to “date” this guy, but I don’t know if he is in it for [potential] sex or if he is in it for “me.”

  277. Your Name August 10, 2013 at 12:39 am #

    Hey there Chris!
    So there’s a guy I like and I think he may like me back. He’s a half a year older than me and I know him through our high school marching band. (One of my best guy friends became pretty much instant friends with him. He’s an alto sax and I’m a flute.)
    Anyways, he tries to get really close to me. As in, I sit down, he sits down so that our legs are touching. I go to another group of friends, sometimes he shows up a few minutes later. He also is ALWAYS trying to make me laugh. By telling jokes, scaring me(not like mean scaring, just startling me. I don’t know why I find it funny but I just do .-.), talking in weird voices, etcetera, etcetera. Not to mention the amount of times he makes eye contact with me.
    The parts that make me think he may not like me is that for one, he talks about his ex a bit too much if you ask me. I can’t help but think he may still like her. And then whenever he says goodbye, he hugs everyone-and I mean EVERYONE in our group but me.
    Do you think there’s a chance he likes me in the same way I like him? And if there is, how can I be sure without being too straightforward? (I have horrible social anxiety so I don’t really talk about that kind of stuff in person.)
    Thanks so much!

  278. Rita August 11, 2013 at 1:35 am #

    Hey Chris, not sure if your still replying these posts but nothing to loose. My situation, I am not a teen first of all, am 28 years old. Anyway, there is a gorgeous guy at work, I noticed him a few years back but then forgot about it all as he works in a different dept. Anyway, one day as I was walking to my circut class at work he walked by. As we passed each other I smiled and so did he and we said hi. After that day I couldnt forget him. Then just last week, I was preparing something for a student workshop. The building we are in has a long corridor. I saw him down the end of the corridor, and he was walking into another office on the opposite side of the corridor. I saw him walk towards the office and then he leaned back as he saw me (i am not normally in this building. Anyway i saw him look, maybe he was looking at something behind me im not sure, but as soon as he saw me looking back he quickly went into the office. Anyway the next day he was having a smoke and i was walking by with a friend. I saw him and tried to catch his eye to say hi, but he kept looking down, he didnt even look up. Anyway – i dont want to rush into anything and try to get to know him if hes not into me cause it may look creepy. I might be reading into it a little too much? i dont know. Regardless maybe you could shed some light. I heard he does have a partner, but i cant help myself!

  279. Kelsey August 11, 2013 at 3:19 pm #

    Hey Chris,

    I recently, physically, met a guy who’s my sisters friend and a friend of her boyfriend who’s like a brother to me. They’ve told him a lot about me and even got to where they wanted us to meet. See, I live out of state, but going to move there for school in four months. We met about a week ago and since hes been around alot suddenly. When he’s over he spends most of the time talking to me and seems to enjoy getting me to like new shows too. He sits nearest he can to me if not beside me. He doesnt touch me except when passing me something where his fingers always seems to touch mine and linger for a second. He lingers more noticeably when he shakes my hand goodbye or more recently hugs. He gets loud at times and others he’s quiet but always getting my attention somehow. We are always around our friends because I’m staying with my sister for a short visit before my final move down here. He teases me and playing pool last night he came up when I was talking to my sister and put the pool stick on my foot and started joking with me.

    Basically, I’m wanting to know if I’m reading his signals right or if I’m way off. I’m a little overwight and he’s ripped so my confidence is a little weak.

  280. Saige August 12, 2013 at 1:11 am #


    I just wanted to say that your advise was very good, but I still would like your opinion on what you think about a guy I know. The first time I met him and started hanging around him he acted as if I didn’t even exist, so I thought I should just leave and spend time with my other friends instead. The next time I see him he asks why did I ditch them to go be with other people when he didn’t even notice me leave! Also he doesn’t talk to me very much, but today he texted my brother saying that I was cute. Him and my brother are best friends by the way. I can’t tell if he likes me or thinks I’m average!

  281. Rebecca August 13, 2013 at 8:45 pm #

    Hey Chris,
    So I’m in a 16 and i fancy my partner and don’t know if he does back. He’s taller than me, confident, outgoing, amazing body and funny. In practices he’s always teasing me around about how shorter I am than him, and all this other stuff. Well since we have dances in the 16 he has touch my hand and touch my side and back. Well he has kinda been more touchy not in a wrong/pervert way! But like High fives here an there, playfully hand games and singing the song we have to dance in a funny way and loud enough so I can hear! He has talk about himself, makes conversation, and asks me questions. I think not sure that he stares at me and gives me his full attention when I talk to him. So I’m not really sure if he’s flirting and if he kinda fancies me?!?
    If you could respond it would mean so much for me thanks!

  282. Brooke August 16, 2013 at 5:38 pm #

    Hello Chris,

    So at the beginning of this summer I hooked up with a guy that works at DQ. We know eachother through mutual friends. He gave me his number but he doesn’t have mine. I haven’t texted him because my friend told me not to. Anyways he’s on the football team and I’m on the cheerteam. Whenever we’re around eachother, I always catch him staring at me and I can’t tell if he likes me or what. He’ll walk past me and wink at me or say hello but that’s it. So idk if it’s just because our history or he likes me… Any advice because I am totally lost. Thank you!

  283. fana August 18, 2013 at 10:27 am #

    hi, im confuse about my senior in my workplace.i never attracted to him even have work with him for several months.but he is friendly and always like to smile to everyone.

    later when new division of project, he request from my boss so I will be put under his team.i dont mind cos he so friendly that im comfortable work with him.he always bring me together to client site(he said he wants some backup).he shows he care for me that even most people notice and say so, and he just smile when people said that and he showed almost all sign(from what I find from internet of the signs) that he likes me but he never call me or text me outside office hour.but during office hour, he will find any excuse just to be near me.he likes to tease me and if i’m in bad mood, he will ask me to smile or make jokes so i will laugh.he remember what i said.he asked many things about me.he is nice to other, but nicer to me.he defends me a lot or cover for me a lot at work.he likes to ask my opinion on things.sometimes he touch my hand or shoulder.sometimes I notice he look at me when explaining something to other people, and when I look back, he seems mesmerize and lost his words.i end up laugh and take over the explanation.

    as for me, when he continuesly makes me happy, I start to like him.but because he only try close to me at office and never try more than that, so I’m thinkig he probably see me as his enjoyment at office only or as a throphy or…a lil sister.even im older by 2 year but my personality that my friends call cute and childish probably makes he think me as lil sis too..

    I also heard from others(several people that also senior than me), he have gf (not same office).he have mentioned that he wait his friend which is girl when go back from work, when i ask him why he didnt go back yet.i asked if that his girlfriend.he just said friend.but it almost everyday like that, so i doubt, it just friend.he either have gf or not confident to ask me out.he got charisma and nice personality but in terms of physical, he opposite of me.he got cute smile btw.

    I tried to stop like him, if he really belong to someone else..I dont want be 3rd person.but its hard since we need to work together and we will always be close to each other for that.only way is for me to resign and stay far away, but I loves my current job for now.i tried once act cold to him and only talks about work.but he seems hurt by that, so I end up back to myself.but then just make my feeling stronger and I must say im afraid of rejection, since it never happen to me.

    please help me clear up my mind with some advice.

  284. lailalov September 2, 2013 at 2:02 am #

    Hey there Chris
    I need your advice on this situation I’m in right now. I met this guy at work and we got along really well. He kept laughing at my jokes and I at his. He seemed pretty interested in getting to know me. This went on for two days that we worked together on the same station. After that we didn’t get a chance to talk much except that whenever we saw each other he was always the first to say hi with an eye contact. The other day I was in the cafeteria with a friend when he came in, said hi and sat on the table right across from us and he sat facing me and kept busy scrolling on the phone. Now I would like to know if he’s interested in me or I’m just over thinking.

  285. Shannon September 19, 2013 at 11:16 pm #

    Hi Chris,

    This guy in my history class looks at me a lot and is shy about making eye contact/a conversation. He always puffs out his chest too. There’s another girl who obviously likes him and he never even payed attention to her until she started flirting with him and staring at him. I don’t want to be too obvious in liking him, and I’m too nervous to make eye contact. I’m afraid that he did like me but likes the other girl more because he knows she likes him? Help!

  286. Bell October 10, 2013 at 5:09 pm #

    Chris, I really need your help. But I want to write about it on here. Could I email you?

  287. Leslie October 12, 2013 at 1:13 am #

    Hey Chris,
    So there’s this guy in my class (he’s a football player) and he was giving my friend a straight-out stare as we passed by him during nutrition. I told her and she started having feelings for him. Later on, she got a boyfriend and I saw him trying to get at a cheerleader. I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago and there were a lot of problems with him, mainly because he smokes weed and all that. So he told me that he was seeing another girl while with me but everyone I asked advice for told me that he was lying just to make me feel bad and mad. He’s immature, he’s only a sophomore and I’m a junior in high school. Anyways, the girl he was supposedly seeing went out with the football player a few weeks ago and I found out that he broke up with her. I also heard that he wanted to have sex with her but she said she wanted to do it when married. She’s a slut (no offense) and hangs out with potheads. She has a nice body and told the football player that she was a virgin, but she actually lost her virginity during her freshman year (she is in 10th now) and the guy she did it with just used her.
    Ok so I recently started noticing that the football player stares at me in class, he knows I’m friends with my friend that he stared at. The other day, he saw her sitting on her new boyfriends lap and gave her this pissed-off stare and I guessed he had feelings for her. Anyways, I walked in to class late and I saw him looking from the corner of my eye, so I looked at him and he was staring at me. All the times I encounter him, he stares at me. Like straight-out stares and I don’t know what it means. My friend (the one he stared at first) says those are signs that he likes me. But I see him flirting with my friend that has a boyfriend. I told my friend that the football player came out of his class and we were outside because they’re filming in the lower field of our school, and he kept staring at me so I turned the other way. He went up the stairs and was talking to two girls from my P.E. period and he kept staring down at where I was sitting. He walked by the cafeteria and walked back and then walked down the stairs to play a little bit of football and I got up to walk by where a few of my friends hang out at nutrition so I could talk to my other friend. And he started walking behind me because he was going to class. And he stopped with some people by the bench where the baseball team hangs out and I was already with my friend and her friend. He kept looking over to where we were and I started walking back to where I was before and he started walking to class, so we crossed paths while we walked.
    So I’m not sure what this means, I feel like he’s out of my league. I’m not popular, I have a lot of friends (up to the point where everywhere I go, I hear, “Hi Leslie!” “Hey Leslie!” Etc..) but I’m also shy/outgoing and funny. I don’t talk to the football player so I’m not sure what his intentions are. My best friend says he might go for me because I’m not the type to show off and show off my body, I’m the type that respects myself and has respect for others.
    With all this said, do you know what his intentions might be? I’m guessing he either has staring problems, might not like me, or maybe (MAYBE) might like me or have a crush on me. I’m so confused haha

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